My son called and yelled at me for the first time for hurting his dearest wife, just unthinkable.

Mother-in-laws are often too picky about their sons' wives. You can often hear something like “mine.” daughter-in-law Today she is distinguished again" or "and why only the son married her. And this attitude can be seen in all countries and all continents where people live.



Is it possible to take care of your sons at all costs – a behavior that is characteristic of literally all mothers, no matter what cultures they belong to? Judging from our observations, it looks very similar. Every mother wants her son, the heir, not to be limited or infringed.

My son Alyosha could not find a suitable couple for a long time. And I never understood why. At school, he had a problem with girls. He talked to them on the phone for a long time, took them to the movies, but they did not reciprocate him. You have no idea how bitter it was for me to hear his revelations. He was always a good, honest boy. But beauties, as you know, love others.



As an adult, his son began to live separately. I found a good job and achieved some success. There I met a girl, word for word they went on several dates. Alyosha really liked her. But unfortunately, they did not succeed either. That lady wanted her man to have a foreign car, an apartment in the center and everything. You know what kind of girls have become greedy and calculating.

Then there was another one. I think her name was Vika. Pretty, with a baby. She didn’t complain that her son didn’t have a car. I felt great in public transport, and even Alyosha advised where and how to save money, if anything. A well-balanced woman, I have even seen her several times. But, of course, it was all pampering.

She already had a child who knew her dad. Alyosha was just a stranger uncle to him. Victoria would never love a man stronger than her son. Which means it wouldn't end well. As a woman and a mother, I know this very well. Vika is a good person, but unfortunately she and I were not on our way.



Then Alyosha began to have some difficulties with work, and he completely went into himself. I didn’t even think about creating a family. Well, of course, he's a man, and he had to think about his career. There's nothing wrong with that. Although, as a mother, I knew that his age was already approaching the mark when it was urgent to start a family. But I held myself back and said nothing.

And here's the great news at last! At 41, Alyosha is getting married! I was beside myself with happiness. His wife Natasha comes from a small town. Smart, energetic, pretty. I had the highest hopes for her. I met her mother, learned a lot from her about her daughter-in-law. Finally, my heart calmed down.

Unfortunately, not for long. Of course, I continued to communicate with my son, and his stories alarmed me more and more. Natasha's gonna take him shopping this weekend. No, to stay home and get some rest. She starts repairing and makes her husband go with her, buy glue, wallpaper and some other nonsense. Wouldn't you have done it yourself?



Then more. Her mother's sick. So she refused to go to her. Only Alyosha. And the guests are not cheap. What side is he? It's your mother, you take care of her! No, just my husband, and that's it. After work, Alyosha is forced not to regain strength, as before, but to go with her to the park for a walk. Or, for example, shopping. Apparently, the job is easier for her, maybe she doesn't do a damn thing there.

I tried to talk to her once. That you can't care so much about your husband. She told me she knew what to do. In fact, she didn’t even start taking care of him. They should have a family, children. And he's not ready for that yet. As I heard it, my eyes got dark.

The words came out. I asked him, what's his wife doing with this? The man makes money. Why else would he sweat for her trips to her mom or shopping? It's not a man's business at all. Who is she to make her own rules? Anyway, I got hot. But I think my words are justified. Some people need to show their place from time to time.



A week later, Alyosha called me and yelled at me for the first time in my life. The other half told him everything. In fact, I think she's embellished. Now she says she doesn't want to see me, talk to me or hear about me. Otherwise, they threaten divorce. That's a serious statement.

Now I have to come and apologize. I respect and respect the decisions of my adult son. I didn't make it up, he told me that. We know from whose tip. From now on, I have to be just an ordinary mother who smiles and does not interfere with their family life.

And you know what? I'll do that. I will do anything for my child to make him feel good. Because if he breaks up with a woman again because of me, I'm afraid it won't end well. Every day I think about him. I give up calling him ten times a day, but every time I restrain myself with a great effort of will.



It seems to me that the more my daughter-in-law has power over Alyosha, the less I have to live in this world. What if I don't like the white light now? But I will continue to endure as long as he is well. Just to see the grandchildren. Then I will consider myself a man who lived his life not in vain. In the meantime, I'll be patient. What you can't do for the future.