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My son stayed up all night, woke up late and heard my mother-in-law throw a barrel at me.
It just so happens that we don’t have to like everyone. In fact, no one has to show sympathy for us. For this, there are decencies that help smooth the communication of two different people. But not everyone agrees to adhere to them. Even family. For example, Anna’s mother-in-law frankly does not adhere to any decency and says many things that another mother-in-law would not allow herself. And Anna has to overcome the offense, just to endure. It is especially sad that the mother-in-law already has a beloved daughter-in-law. But it's not Anna.
Favorite daughter-in-law Anna and Oleg have a good family. They have a 5-year-old son who they love. Unfortunately, Kolya could not boast of good health. The child demanded constant care. Over time, the parents realized that someone had to leave their job for their son. And that was Anna.
A few days a week, he and his son visited various doctors and went to procedures to promote health. Although this improved the general state of immunity, it did not save Kolyu from seasonal ailments. With the onset of autumn, the boy became weaker, and soon Anna was sitting next to him and checking the thermometer.
One day she had to spend all night with her son. The child could not sleep until 4 a.m. Tired Anna could not reach her bed and fell asleep next to her son. She was awakened by voices from the kitchen. On the clock was over 11, Anna kissed the forehead of a sleeping boy - not hot.
- What is it, Anya is still asleep? – deliberately loudly asked the mother-in-law. I guess she just got here.
- She and Koley sat all night. Let him rest, Oleg replied.
- So what? Children need to be monitored all the time. Here are other mothers and the house and the child can be monitored. Even going to work. Anya is weak or just lazy.
The relationship with Anna’s mother-in-law did not work from the beginning. And it's all about her predecessor - Oleg's ex-wife. Despite the age of marriage, for the mother-in-law, this woman was almost the standard of an ideal daughter-in-law. Therefore, only Anna put her wedding ring on her finger, comparisons with her ex-husband fell on her with the regularity of snow in winter.
Anna took a neutral position. Responding to her mother-in-law's attacks meant creating conflict, and she didn't want to. Therefore, she tried not to pay attention to comments and comparisons. The main thing is that she has a loving husband and a wonderful child. Although she still hurt the moments when the mother-in-law begins to “process” Oleg.
Anna would have no doubts about her husband if not for his remarks. At one point, he began to reproach Anna for not having a fresh dinner (although she and her son spent the whole day in procedures), for poor housekeeping and so on. When phrases began to appear that began with the words "Here are the other wives..." Anna understood where the wind was blowing from. She tried to talk to Oleg and explain their situation again. She just doesn't have time to do many things because of Kohli's health condition. And that it was their mutual decision. But Oleg didn't seem to hear her.
- The child from the first marriage was not sick, he said. - Maybe you're just a bad mother.
Anna was in shock. The outrage overwhelmed her.
- If you don't like the way I watch Koley, if you think I'm a bad wife and mother, go back to your ex. Your mother's favorite daughter-in-law is clearly better than me.
It brought Oleg to his senses. He began to apologize, but Anna understood that it was all the fault of her mother-in-law and her constant instructions to her son. They eventually reconciled.
One day before leaving for procedures, Anna left borscht in the refrigerator for dinner and wrote about it to her husband. When she returned, she had an interesting picture in the kitchen: Oleg sat at the table and ate hot patties that his mother-in-law brought him. She stood over her son and at the sight of Anna coming in exclaimed:
- Oh, your wife's here!
- There's borscht in the fridge for dinner. Why cutlets?
- After all, a man only needs to serve everything hot. This way he will feel love and care.
Anna took Kolya to wash her hands in the bathroom. There she saw her son's washed tights on the battery.
- I was going to wash them already, Anna could not stand it. - Why did you do that?
- Did I know when you were going to do the laundry? I decided to help. I've been looking for a long time. No wonder with such and such a mother.
After these words, Anna went to the bedroom and started packing.
- An, where are you going? - Oleg was afraid and rushed to the room for his wife.
- To my parents. I'm not the owner of this house, and I can't compete with your mother or ex-wife. Just imagine for a moment that my father would come to us and take care of your business while telling everyone how worthless you are. Would you like that?
Finally, Oleg began to get the essence of what was happening. He asked his mother from the apartment and began to apologize. He realized that his mother had too much influence on him, and now Oleg understood that communication should be limited.
After Kolya went to bed, Anna and Oleg talked all night. They realized that their relationship still had to be worked on. And that the constant presence of relatives in their lives negatively affects family life. The next day, Oleg called his mother and put all the dots on the i. Of course, the mother-in-law was not happy about this outcome and only sniffed:
- What a dog with you. Only then don't complain to me.
After that, Anna was able to breathe calmly.
Favorite daughter-in-law Why did Oleg not put all the boundaries with his mother earlier? Is there really a beloved daughter-in-law for Oleg’s mother, or was this just an excuse to make remarks about his son’s current passion? Why should we not tolerate negative attitudes?
Favorite daughter-in-law Anna and Oleg have a good family. They have a 5-year-old son who they love. Unfortunately, Kolya could not boast of good health. The child demanded constant care. Over time, the parents realized that someone had to leave their job for their son. And that was Anna.
A few days a week, he and his son visited various doctors and went to procedures to promote health. Although this improved the general state of immunity, it did not save Kolyu from seasonal ailments. With the onset of autumn, the boy became weaker, and soon Anna was sitting next to him and checking the thermometer.
One day she had to spend all night with her son. The child could not sleep until 4 a.m. Tired Anna could not reach her bed and fell asleep next to her son. She was awakened by voices from the kitchen. On the clock was over 11, Anna kissed the forehead of a sleeping boy - not hot.
- What is it, Anya is still asleep? – deliberately loudly asked the mother-in-law. I guess she just got here.
- She and Koley sat all night. Let him rest, Oleg replied.
- So what? Children need to be monitored all the time. Here are other mothers and the house and the child can be monitored. Even going to work. Anya is weak or just lazy.
The relationship with Anna’s mother-in-law did not work from the beginning. And it's all about her predecessor - Oleg's ex-wife. Despite the age of marriage, for the mother-in-law, this woman was almost the standard of an ideal daughter-in-law. Therefore, only Anna put her wedding ring on her finger, comparisons with her ex-husband fell on her with the regularity of snow in winter.
Anna took a neutral position. Responding to her mother-in-law's attacks meant creating conflict, and she didn't want to. Therefore, she tried not to pay attention to comments and comparisons. The main thing is that she has a loving husband and a wonderful child. Although she still hurt the moments when the mother-in-law begins to “process” Oleg.
Anna would have no doubts about her husband if not for his remarks. At one point, he began to reproach Anna for not having a fresh dinner (although she and her son spent the whole day in procedures), for poor housekeeping and so on. When phrases began to appear that began with the words "Here are the other wives..." Anna understood where the wind was blowing from. She tried to talk to Oleg and explain their situation again. She just doesn't have time to do many things because of Kohli's health condition. And that it was their mutual decision. But Oleg didn't seem to hear her.
- The child from the first marriage was not sick, he said. - Maybe you're just a bad mother.
Anna was in shock. The outrage overwhelmed her.
- If you don't like the way I watch Koley, if you think I'm a bad wife and mother, go back to your ex. Your mother's favorite daughter-in-law is clearly better than me.
It brought Oleg to his senses. He began to apologize, but Anna understood that it was all the fault of her mother-in-law and her constant instructions to her son. They eventually reconciled.
One day before leaving for procedures, Anna left borscht in the refrigerator for dinner and wrote about it to her husband. When she returned, she had an interesting picture in the kitchen: Oleg sat at the table and ate hot patties that his mother-in-law brought him. She stood over her son and at the sight of Anna coming in exclaimed:
- Oh, your wife's here!
- There's borscht in the fridge for dinner. Why cutlets?
- After all, a man only needs to serve everything hot. This way he will feel love and care.
Anna took Kolya to wash her hands in the bathroom. There she saw her son's washed tights on the battery.
- I was going to wash them already, Anna could not stand it. - Why did you do that?
- Did I know when you were going to do the laundry? I decided to help. I've been looking for a long time. No wonder with such and such a mother.
After these words, Anna went to the bedroom and started packing.
- An, where are you going? - Oleg was afraid and rushed to the room for his wife.
- To my parents. I'm not the owner of this house, and I can't compete with your mother or ex-wife. Just imagine for a moment that my father would come to us and take care of your business while telling everyone how worthless you are. Would you like that?
Finally, Oleg began to get the essence of what was happening. He asked his mother from the apartment and began to apologize. He realized that his mother had too much influence on him, and now Oleg understood that communication should be limited.
After Kolya went to bed, Anna and Oleg talked all night. They realized that their relationship still had to be worked on. And that the constant presence of relatives in their lives negatively affects family life. The next day, Oleg called his mother and put all the dots on the i. Of course, the mother-in-law was not happy about this outcome and only sniffed:
- What a dog with you. Only then don't complain to me.
After that, Anna was able to breathe calmly.
Favorite daughter-in-law Why did Oleg not put all the boundaries with his mother earlier? Is there really a beloved daughter-in-law for Oleg’s mother, or was this just an excuse to make remarks about his son’s current passion? Why should we not tolerate negative attitudes?
Is it possible to call a child selfish because he ate too much food?
In order not to pay for heat at a double tariff, the cunning neighbor insulated the house, I immediately repeated after him.