With my mother-in-law, I always tell her everything honestly and to her face, who knew that this time she would react this way.

The people we've always been visitIt gets smaller every year and that’s normal. In youth, it can be almost anyone. If only it was fun. In youth, the list becomes shorter, but it is still quite impressive. Then, when maturity comes, our list of the closest people becomes more like a scrap of what it was originally. And so until the very end, only a friend or several, children and maybe one of the relatives.



As people age, they begin to value their time more. It is already difficult for him to spray on "disposable" friends and some distant acquaintances there. The dating list on the phone also melts. In fact, priorities change. But it can be especially offensive to those who did not expect such an approach to their own person. And then, boom, it all came out. Yes, because of such things can even cause a scandal. Not a kid.

I have been waiting for a visit since I was a child. That’s how she was once a little girl and directly stated in kindergarten that Santa Claus is a local watchman, and still remained principled. My husband loves me for this and I hope my son will love me for this in the future when he grows up. You need to tell the truth more often, even in the forehead. It's not gonna get any worse.

That's how I talk to my husband. You could say he loved me for that. Even the boss and the one, sometimes through his teeth, but praises me for being direct. It is good that I am a master of my craft and I am not easy to replace. So why should I try not to be myself in the workplace? I also have a social circle that understands. There are few friends, but they have all been checked a hundred times a long time ago. What is called reliable and proven!



But my mother-in-law does not understand this attitude at all. She thinks there must be some hierarchy between us because she's older. I told her, Anastasia Andreevna, I do not communicate with you disrespectfully. I just can’t be silent if someone starts to embellish or understate something, that’s what I am, try to accept! But I can hardly wait to understand her. A man of the old format, who has one thing in her head: the main thing is that people do not look obliquely.

Only in cases when I need to communicate with my mother-in-law, my husband sometimes tries to shut my mouth. I understand the reasons, I understand his feelings. But I am not rude, not smart, but just express my thoughts. Those who are most likely to be faithful. Just a little uncomfortable for the rest of us. But that's their problem, not mine, right?

We had one case. Previously, my mother-in-law always came to us and tried to teach the mind. Including me, because well, a daughter-in-law in her eyes can not be a normal mistress. Must have time to plow at work, then plow around the house, sit with the child and so on. I take it that this perfect daughter-in-law should also sacrifice her sleep. But that's the lyrics. But she took and began to tell Anastasia Andreevna various wisdoms and life hacks that she found on the Internet. And how to wash better, and about cooking, sewing, and so on.



I see her jaw fell. He listens to my stories and just can't believe what he hears. By the way, I will never use a light bulb to stitch my spouse’s socks or store raw bones and scraps of vegetables in the freezer for the future broth. All this seems to me too stupid and unsuitable for a normal existence. My mother-in-law, on the contrary, loves and appreciates such moments. But I can’t use the internet at all. Anyway, she listened to me, she listened. And then I said I might be really good at the farm.

Then the devil pulled me to tell her the truth. That all this advice is nothing more than pampering. You have to underestimate your own time to do that. Rub the laundry soap on the grater? Now in the 21st century, where is it? I even put bags from a clothing store under the trash can. And some people still go with them until they're done. Isn't it easier to use the bag?!



In short, the mother-in-law and my husband stopped coming. There was no reason to be offended. She knew my character for a long time and knew I didn’t want to hurt anyone. Well, she stopped. She must have had some business. Or she switched to her husband's sister. She also has her own family, children. And raising a mistress from a native daughter is probably somehow easier than raising a daughter-in-law, right? So, I decided that with my mother-in-law we have no conflicts and hostility.

But the other day, I found out that's not exactly true. The husband decided that it would be nice to go to my mother, and even our son had a front milk tooth and it became very funny. I didn't mind, so we got in the car and drove. Surprise, so to speak. Who knew we wouldn't be welcome there?



Her mother-in-law was at home, and the same family of her daughter was staying with her. All very cute, dressed, smelling delicious. Well, we, too, as if prepared, just did not expect so many people to gather. My husband tried to make a joke about it, he said we should go to the neighbors for chairs. But my mother-in-law didn't listen to anyone. For five minutes she sat with our son in her arms, then gave him some chocolate and gestured to me in the other room.

And there, alone, looking straight in the eye, she said we'd better come another day of the week. She didn't expect so many guests. Anyway, we have to go. And I actually gave it to my husband. Within a quarter of an hour we were driving home in our car. Silently, just looking at the trees on the side of the road.



I don't understand how a woman can kick her son and grandson out of her apartment. A lot of people? Well, they're all family. Well, you don't have an invitation, so what? Again, we're not in the States to do that. We're different. I don't understand her at all, my mother-in-law. I hurt her, and she took it out on our whole family. At least it's ugly. And after that, I'm not going to be silent around her. She completely lost my trust. Forever.