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I always thought that I was lucky with my mother-in-law, because she lived far away and helped with money, but recently everything changed.
A disregard for the feelings of other people, emphatically boorish behavior and disregard for any norms of morality - that's what it is. what is cynicism. That's in a nutshell. Experts even claim that the vast majority of hardened cynics have mental problems, but official medicine, at least so far, is silent about this. In modern pop culture, cynicism has acquired an aura of something remarkable. But in fact, he is just as bad as others like him. This must be understood first and foremost.
People around cynics will never get any sympathy or empathy from the heart. This is especially true when it is really necessary. Cynics have so few friends and acquaintances. Literary and film characters with a lot of loyal comrades are just fiction, created in order to make the character more unusual than he really is. That's the sad truth.
The heroine of our story reflects on what cynicism is. Because she thinks she was cheated. But isn't she really a cynical person?
I never thought that in my social circle, among my relatives, there could be people so narcissistic. Those who can easily put their comfort above everything and even blink an eye. It is amazing how a person can hide his gut for many years, so that at the most inopportune moment he dumps it out. If I had known this before, I would have behaved differently. Now I don't even know what to do. I think we might have to get into conflict.
Before I married Denis, I thought a lot and came to the conclusion that our future has every chance to be happy. I had a lot of boyfriends, but exchanging for trifles is not for me. Marriage is not just a relationship. It's family, perspective. It's life, after all. So we had to filter out the ones that were just interesting, but there would be no future with them. And Denis was the best option.
His mother chose to earn money abroad. So, first of all, I didn't know her well enough, and second of all, she promised to help us. For example, she offered to live in her two-bedroom apartment. At least until she gets home. Not a bad option, considering that by then we should have had the funds to buy our own home. In addition, Denis is a rather promising young man with whom I have always been comfortable. Why not?
The wedding went without a hitch. My mother-in-law, who wasn't at the ceremony, gave us a very nice gift: a down payment on the apartment. But after a year of marriage, the first problems began to appear. Denis and I have decided to have a baby. I have always wanted to be a young mother, to understand my child, to feel his thoughts and needs. When you’re young, you still have a lot of opportunities. So it's a wise move anyway. My husband also supported me. But there was one problem, or rather two.
Firstly, by that time the husband had not yet managed to move up the career ladder. And a small child needs a lot. Starting from quality diapers and mixtures, ending with the best kindergarten. If you want to have a baby, do everything so that he has a happy childhood. Not what our parents had. The lack of a normal financial situation left me very depressed. But that wasn't all.
My mother-in-law, Irina Borisovna, became ill. There was more and more talk that she would have to go home. Yeah, she saved some money for a rainy day. But they weren't enough. She said it herself first. Let us not forget our agreement. Upon returning home, the mother-in-law moves into her two-bedroom apartment. Although I don't think that's very honest. After all, her early arrival is nothing but force majeure. We also need to rethink our promises.
The baby was born exactly 3 months before the arrival of my husband’s mother. We called him Vanya. A beautiful, healthy boy for whom I will never regret anything in my life. However, the reality is now quite dramatic. My mother-in-law didn't kick us out of the house. But she's really sick, and she needs care. Now there are four of us in a two-bedroom apartment. And life, you know, is quite specific.
Thank goodness I don’t have to take care of my mother. He does everything himself. But it doesn't make it any easier. I also need my husband’s help. It would be very nice to spend the money given to us for the wedding and pay for the apartment in a mortgage. But on the condition that my mother-in-law would live in it. And I'll tell you why it would be better for everyone. First of all, she is alone, and a one-bedroom apartment will suit her better. So what, the three of us moving in? It's just unwise.
Second, my mother-in-law doesn't work anywhere, so she doesn't really care where she lives. And Denis' office is close, and I'm already related to my neighbors. But nobody supports my idea. The mother-in-law stands on her own, clinging to the previous agreement that she will live in this apartment, as always and wanted. Well, according to our agreements, she should not have been in the country for another 10 years, right? So they're at least irrelevant.
He doesn’t want to leave his sick mother either. And I tell him that since he has such a strong desire to help her, he will be able to come to her after work, to her one-bedroom apartment. I understand. These days I will be alone with the baby, I agree. It's not that I've always dreamed of living as a single mother, but I'll try if that's the case. I'm going as far as I can. I don’t even know how this will work in practice.
In general, of course, I would like Irina Borisovna to find a man her age and move to live with him. That would be great. Maybe later, when he gets better? I would love to do that, but it’s just a dream. For the sake of my child, I'm willing to go head to head. And I don't care how my mother-in-law tries to get me, her son and grandson out of her apartment. Denise is obviously worried about her mother.
I have another idea for the most recent, critical case. Take some of that money and spend it on a lawyer. Perhaps he can legally prove that the child needs special conditions while he is still quite crumbs. And my mother-in-law and I will have to negotiate my way. But I'm not making that move yet. We'll see how it goes. But I'm not going to live in a three-room box. If I have to, I will at least get a divorce. Before I got married, I expected something different. Now I know what cynicism is. I was cynically deceived. So the victim in this case is me and Vanya. And we're not just going to give up.
People around cynics will never get any sympathy or empathy from the heart. This is especially true when it is really necessary. Cynics have so few friends and acquaintances. Literary and film characters with a lot of loyal comrades are just fiction, created in order to make the character more unusual than he really is. That's the sad truth.
The heroine of our story reflects on what cynicism is. Because she thinks she was cheated. But isn't she really a cynical person?
I never thought that in my social circle, among my relatives, there could be people so narcissistic. Those who can easily put their comfort above everything and even blink an eye. It is amazing how a person can hide his gut for many years, so that at the most inopportune moment he dumps it out. If I had known this before, I would have behaved differently. Now I don't even know what to do. I think we might have to get into conflict.
Before I married Denis, I thought a lot and came to the conclusion that our future has every chance to be happy. I had a lot of boyfriends, but exchanging for trifles is not for me. Marriage is not just a relationship. It's family, perspective. It's life, after all. So we had to filter out the ones that were just interesting, but there would be no future with them. And Denis was the best option.
His mother chose to earn money abroad. So, first of all, I didn't know her well enough, and second of all, she promised to help us. For example, she offered to live in her two-bedroom apartment. At least until she gets home. Not a bad option, considering that by then we should have had the funds to buy our own home. In addition, Denis is a rather promising young man with whom I have always been comfortable. Why not?
The wedding went without a hitch. My mother-in-law, who wasn't at the ceremony, gave us a very nice gift: a down payment on the apartment. But after a year of marriage, the first problems began to appear. Denis and I have decided to have a baby. I have always wanted to be a young mother, to understand my child, to feel his thoughts and needs. When you’re young, you still have a lot of opportunities. So it's a wise move anyway. My husband also supported me. But there was one problem, or rather two.
Firstly, by that time the husband had not yet managed to move up the career ladder. And a small child needs a lot. Starting from quality diapers and mixtures, ending with the best kindergarten. If you want to have a baby, do everything so that he has a happy childhood. Not what our parents had. The lack of a normal financial situation left me very depressed. But that wasn't all.
My mother-in-law, Irina Borisovna, became ill. There was more and more talk that she would have to go home. Yeah, she saved some money for a rainy day. But they weren't enough. She said it herself first. Let us not forget our agreement. Upon returning home, the mother-in-law moves into her two-bedroom apartment. Although I don't think that's very honest. After all, her early arrival is nothing but force majeure. We also need to rethink our promises.
The baby was born exactly 3 months before the arrival of my husband’s mother. We called him Vanya. A beautiful, healthy boy for whom I will never regret anything in my life. However, the reality is now quite dramatic. My mother-in-law didn't kick us out of the house. But she's really sick, and she needs care. Now there are four of us in a two-bedroom apartment. And life, you know, is quite specific.
Thank goodness I don’t have to take care of my mother. He does everything himself. But it doesn't make it any easier. I also need my husband’s help. It would be very nice to spend the money given to us for the wedding and pay for the apartment in a mortgage. But on the condition that my mother-in-law would live in it. And I'll tell you why it would be better for everyone. First of all, she is alone, and a one-bedroom apartment will suit her better. So what, the three of us moving in? It's just unwise.
Second, my mother-in-law doesn't work anywhere, so she doesn't really care where she lives. And Denis' office is close, and I'm already related to my neighbors. But nobody supports my idea. The mother-in-law stands on her own, clinging to the previous agreement that she will live in this apartment, as always and wanted. Well, according to our agreements, she should not have been in the country for another 10 years, right? So they're at least irrelevant.
He doesn’t want to leave his sick mother either. And I tell him that since he has such a strong desire to help her, he will be able to come to her after work, to her one-bedroom apartment. I understand. These days I will be alone with the baby, I agree. It's not that I've always dreamed of living as a single mother, but I'll try if that's the case. I'm going as far as I can. I don’t even know how this will work in practice.
In general, of course, I would like Irina Borisovna to find a man her age and move to live with him. That would be great. Maybe later, when he gets better? I would love to do that, but it’s just a dream. For the sake of my child, I'm willing to go head to head. And I don't care how my mother-in-law tries to get me, her son and grandson out of her apartment. Denise is obviously worried about her mother.
I have another idea for the most recent, critical case. Take some of that money and spend it on a lawyer. Perhaps he can legally prove that the child needs special conditions while he is still quite crumbs. And my mother-in-law and I will have to negotiate my way. But I'm not making that move yet. We'll see how it goes. But I'm not going to live in a three-room box. If I have to, I will at least get a divorce. Before I got married, I expected something different. Now I know what cynicism is. I was cynically deceived. So the victim in this case is me and Vanya. And we're not just going to give up.
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