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A week before the New Year, the mother-in-law said that she would not be cooking, but on the 31st, everything changed dramatically.
Not to be transformed. New Year celebration at home In a nightmare, on this day it is important to be in the company of the closest and most loved people. Unfortunately, the heroine of today’s history failed to do so. For the past year she has been celebrating a family holiday with her husband and his mother. Why Xenia's relationship with her mother-in-law did not go well, read further in the article.
The last 5 years my husband and I have been living in my mother-in-law’s apartment. She is one of those women who likes everything to be the way they want it to be. Even when they are absolutely wrong, and their desires and actions simply do not make sense. To be honest, I am already used to this and try to build relationships with my mother-in-law so that she does not have reasons to conflict with me. But sometimes Tamara Lvovna seems to be looking for them.
Because of my mother-in-law, I hated the New Year celebrations and other events at home. Bring it, give it, do it here, add it here. Cooking in the kitchen with your mother-in-law is like torture.
I remember with horror what my mother-in-law arranged for last New Year. Hoppy Tamara Lvovna began to argue with me about improperly cut sausage. She noticed it already at the table, having managed to sip a couple of glasses of sparkling. You have no idea how much I had to listen to on New Year’s Eve.
A week before this New Year, the mother-in-law said that she did not want to cook. I mean, this time it's all on my shoulders, she's not gonna get in. I was in a bit of a shock because it gave me such freedom and a lack of hassle that it was impossible to think. I prescribed the entire menu, bought everything myself, prepared products. I imagined no one would pick on me and just let me cook all the dishes myself.
I was very happy because my mother-in-law’s plans changed drastically on December 31. I did not have time to get out of bed, as Tamara Lvovna flew into our bedroom, sharply opened the curtains and shouted: “Get up, Ksyusha!” New Year’s dishes will not cook themselves!
Knowing what a hard day awaits me, I just wanted to sleep: Tamara Lvovna, I have everything written in minutes, I start cooking at 10 am! Don't disturb my sleep, please!
But the mother-in-law did not stop: “Ksyusha, you will command at home. And here, please follow my rules! It freaked me out and I said, ‘I’m sorry, of course, but you said a week ago that you weren’t going to cook anything for the New Year. Why did you wake me up and ask for something?
In response, Tamara Lvovna just started laughing. And then she said, "My girl, just because I wasn't going to cook with you doesn't mean I won't be there when you cook alone." I'll eat your cooking later!
A spoiled New Year's Eve and then I knew I was in trouble. It was stupid to prove anything and convince my mother-in-law that she could trust my cooking skills. I knew it was useless. Here's your Christmas present! Ahead of me was waiting for the most terrible day of the year, a spoiled mood and a desire to celebrate the New Year at home as soon as possible.
It’s hard to remember what happened on December 31. Tamara Lvovna did not leave me one step. Tried every dish for salt, criticized the way I cut food into salads, led all the frying and cooking processes. And at the end I couldn’t stand it and screamed at the kitchen: “Well, no, I won’t let you make cake!” Get back!
I wasn't hurt. I only felt disgust for this man. A woman who doesn't respect me or her son for behaving like that to his wife. I firmly decided that my husband and I should quickly solve all the problems and move. I just can’t stand another New Year like this! I decided to report it right at the table during one of my toasts.
I took all my will into my fist, stood up and said: Let all the most cherished dreams come true in the New Year. I want to find a new home and move away from you, Tamara Lvovna! And I will do my best to make it happen as soon as possible!
By that time, my mother-in-law was already pretty drunk. She replied happily, “Thank God!” And I can't wait for that to happen. And so I'm implying, and you're not. Nightmare! Thank you for not having to tell you this directly!
I was just in shock. So my mother-in-law was always rattling my nerves just to get us out of here? She couldn't tell us that herself. She wanted someone else to initiate it, and she stayed white and fluffy! When I realized this, I became even more disgusted to be in the same apartment with this person.
My husband was very surprised, too. He always used to justify his mother’s behavior. He said that she is already a mature woman with her attitudes, she cannot be reeducated. But now he was outraged by what she did. I’m glad I finally decided to make a change. It is sad to realize that the relationship with the mother-in-law is unlikely to ever improve.
Life Wisdom: What does this story teach us? This story clearly shows what can lead to inefficiencies and hidden grievances. Xenia's husband is right. It is impossible to re-educate an adult. However, it is possible to find the points of least contact with it. In this case, the solution is to move.
What would you do if you were the main character?
The last 5 years my husband and I have been living in my mother-in-law’s apartment. She is one of those women who likes everything to be the way they want it to be. Even when they are absolutely wrong, and their desires and actions simply do not make sense. To be honest, I am already used to this and try to build relationships with my mother-in-law so that she does not have reasons to conflict with me. But sometimes Tamara Lvovna seems to be looking for them.
Because of my mother-in-law, I hated the New Year celebrations and other events at home. Bring it, give it, do it here, add it here. Cooking in the kitchen with your mother-in-law is like torture.
I remember with horror what my mother-in-law arranged for last New Year. Hoppy Tamara Lvovna began to argue with me about improperly cut sausage. She noticed it already at the table, having managed to sip a couple of glasses of sparkling. You have no idea how much I had to listen to on New Year’s Eve.
A week before this New Year, the mother-in-law said that she did not want to cook. I mean, this time it's all on my shoulders, she's not gonna get in. I was in a bit of a shock because it gave me such freedom and a lack of hassle that it was impossible to think. I prescribed the entire menu, bought everything myself, prepared products. I imagined no one would pick on me and just let me cook all the dishes myself.
I was very happy because my mother-in-law’s plans changed drastically on December 31. I did not have time to get out of bed, as Tamara Lvovna flew into our bedroom, sharply opened the curtains and shouted: “Get up, Ksyusha!” New Year’s dishes will not cook themselves!
Knowing what a hard day awaits me, I just wanted to sleep: Tamara Lvovna, I have everything written in minutes, I start cooking at 10 am! Don't disturb my sleep, please!
But the mother-in-law did not stop: “Ksyusha, you will command at home. And here, please follow my rules! It freaked me out and I said, ‘I’m sorry, of course, but you said a week ago that you weren’t going to cook anything for the New Year. Why did you wake me up and ask for something?
In response, Tamara Lvovna just started laughing. And then she said, "My girl, just because I wasn't going to cook with you doesn't mean I won't be there when you cook alone." I'll eat your cooking later!
A spoiled New Year's Eve and then I knew I was in trouble. It was stupid to prove anything and convince my mother-in-law that she could trust my cooking skills. I knew it was useless. Here's your Christmas present! Ahead of me was waiting for the most terrible day of the year, a spoiled mood and a desire to celebrate the New Year at home as soon as possible.
It’s hard to remember what happened on December 31. Tamara Lvovna did not leave me one step. Tried every dish for salt, criticized the way I cut food into salads, led all the frying and cooking processes. And at the end I couldn’t stand it and screamed at the kitchen: “Well, no, I won’t let you make cake!” Get back!
I wasn't hurt. I only felt disgust for this man. A woman who doesn't respect me or her son for behaving like that to his wife. I firmly decided that my husband and I should quickly solve all the problems and move. I just can’t stand another New Year like this! I decided to report it right at the table during one of my toasts.
I took all my will into my fist, stood up and said: Let all the most cherished dreams come true in the New Year. I want to find a new home and move away from you, Tamara Lvovna! And I will do my best to make it happen as soon as possible!
By that time, my mother-in-law was already pretty drunk. She replied happily, “Thank God!” And I can't wait for that to happen. And so I'm implying, and you're not. Nightmare! Thank you for not having to tell you this directly!
I was just in shock. So my mother-in-law was always rattling my nerves just to get us out of here? She couldn't tell us that herself. She wanted someone else to initiate it, and she stayed white and fluffy! When I realized this, I became even more disgusted to be in the same apartment with this person.
My husband was very surprised, too. He always used to justify his mother’s behavior. He said that she is already a mature woman with her attitudes, she cannot be reeducated. But now he was outraged by what she did. I’m glad I finally decided to make a change. It is sad to realize that the relationship with the mother-in-law is unlikely to ever improve.
Life Wisdom: What does this story teach us? This story clearly shows what can lead to inefficiencies and hidden grievances. Xenia's husband is right. It is impossible to re-educate an adult. However, it is possible to find the points of least contact with it. In this case, the solution is to move.
What would you do if you were the main character?
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