What to say mother-in-law who wants to sell the apartment so she can move to another city

When a woman gets married, she hardly thinks about how her mother-in-law will treat her. After the wedding, the relationship can change. Someone will be more lucky, and relatives will heal the soul. And someone will face the fact that the mother of her husband - thankless.



The unpredictability of life situations is sometimes confusing. It would seem that even today the daughter-in-law feels that she is related to her mother-in-law. And tomorrow she tries to give her son a pig. How do you do that? What to do if there is an entire apartment at stake? A similar problem faced the heroine of our story today. A woman does not know what to do and needs someone’s advice. Help her?

Ten years ago I was widowed, left alone with two children and an elderly mother-in-law. I always thought I was lucky with her. The relationship is good, almost never quarreled. And I was generally normal with her. Helped with purchases (the woman is old), took on business or to the hospital.

Moreover, at one time my husband and I helped his parents solve the pressing housing issue. They lived in a seedy one-bedroom, where fresh renovations had not been made since the building of the house itself. In the apartment on the first floor was always cold, and from under the floor was heard the constant trampling of mouse legs. In general, there is absolutely nothing pleasant.



We didn’t live very richly, but we tried to save all the time. In the end, I managed to save up for three so that all the kids were comfortable. We decided to give our old two-bedroom to our parents. They happily moved to a new home, and their dilapidated apartment was given to us.

Without hesitation, we sold it for a pretty small amount. With a little money, I bought a used car. Life has become much more comfortable for us and our parents. However, our happiness was given too little time. Shortly after the move, the father-in-law disappeared. Losing my father hurt my husband a lot. A year later, he passed away.

Life changed instantly. I knew that grief should not take all my time and effort. There are two children and a mother-in-law I can't leave behind. We decided that she would move to us, and we would rent a two-bedroom apartment. And then we'll see.



While I was making money, my mother-in-law was helping out with the kids. My daughter was only finishing first grade. That's why I had to worry. But my mother-in-law took her from school and helped with her lessons. Thank you so much for that!

Everything went on as usual, until tempting prospects appeared on the horizon. I was offered a job in the capital. And I thought it was a great opportunity to give kids a better education. The decision was unequivocal: moving, buying an apartment and a new life. My mother-in-law flatly refused to come with us. Of course, she can be understood.



I asked her to stay in our old apartment where she had lived for 10 years. Especially since I have always paid for the utilities. She happily agreed. But just recently, I was stunned by news. He says he wants to move to another city with his daughter. And to buy a house there, she needs money. So I supposedly have to sell my apartment and give her the money.



Why would I do that? My husband and I have made a lot of money and our kids will need it. When my father-in-law and husband died, I did everything to support my mother-in-law. She was totally secure. At that time, her husband’s sister did not touch her finger and never even came to visit her mother. Will she take care of the poor old lady when she moves in? Hardly.

The situation is complicated and I don’t know what to do. I don't want to offend my mother-in-law, but I won't go along with her either. What's up?

The older a person is, the harder it is sometimes to understand him. No one can say for sure why my mother-in-law became so demanding. What motivates her? Maybe she's under pressure. Or maybe she did. thankless And didn't appreciate everything that her daughter-in-law did for her? Perhaps these questions will remain unanswered. You can always give a poor woman good advice.



Tell me, what would you do in a situation like this? Maybe you've had to deal with an apartment problem. Leave your comments at the bottom!