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How to live with a husband whose mother-in-law is more expensive than his wife
Living with my mother-in-law This is a test for any young woman. And if you have to live in the house of your mother-in-law and indulge all her whims, then the situation can soon heat up to the limit. After all, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are often completely different people.
My husband and I live in his mother’s house. When my younger sister called and offered to visit me, I was glad, but first I decided to ask permission: after all, other people live here, besides me. Calling my husband to work didn't do anything. He immediately sent me to my mother, they say, ask her. This is what I was afraid of, says Anastasia.
“The fact is that Zinaida Ivanovna does not like to receive guests. At least not if you don’t invite them. I remember when my parents from the village came to visit after the wedding, my mother-in-law did not find a place for herself.”
“Then mom and dad brought meat, vegetables, fruit... Zinaida Ivanovna only sank, accepting gifts. And then I was kicked out because my parents came without warning. What is this? ruralism. “Was it possible to warn or not?” – indignant mother-in-law.
By the way, Zinaida Ivanovna herself is from the village, but she avoids remembering it in every possible way. She never talks about her childhood or her parents. Rural origin is taboo.”
“When choosing clothes, mother-in-law listens only to the advice of urban fashionistas. Milk is always kept only in porcelain milk, because “all cultured people do this.” Probably, if I had fried potatoes and put them on the table in the pan, Zinaida Ivanovna would have had a stroke. Therefore, I do not do so, save her mental state, Nastya laughs at the quirks of her mother-in-law.
Don't you dare call anyone? “You don’t want to, you have to call and ask. “Zinaida Ivanovna, do you mind if Katya comes to me for an hour?” – immediately I take the bull by the horns and immediately I hear her mother-in-law grabbing her heart at the other end.
“Oh, why didn’t you say that in five days? How can you call someone out of nowhere into the house? I was just about to go with my neighbor. . . . it was heard how Zinaida Ivanovna frantically tried to come up with any reason to refuse.
But I am already familiar with her tricks, and therefore I boldly go on the offensive Zinaida Ivanovna, we will not interfere with your plans. We will sit quietly in the kitchen, drink tea, take a look at photos from Katyushiny vacation. I'll buy your favorite cakes. “Well, only if for a while,” the mother-in-law gives up and drops the phone. Victory! As a matter of urgency, I take the work with me and hurry home to have everything in time for Katyn’s arrival.”
“In the evening, my husband comes up from work and throws himself at me with complaints. "What did you tell her?" Why is she calling me and crying? How long will my mother tolerate your antics? Go now apologize, or I am filing for divorce, my beloved hands pointing towards my mother’s room.
Okay, stop! What could I have done? I scroll through my head all day, remembering the morning I cooked breakfast, when I left for work, when I got back early. My mother-in-law did not intersect, there was no quarrel with her when. Oh, yes, we talked on the phone once.
“Extremely found: it was me. My husband insisted, I had to go and forgive. With hot tea, no less ardent apologies were accepted. The two are now sitting on the couch waiting for me to cook dinner.”
“Zinaida Ivanovna generously forgave me. For the future, she strongly advised less with her work and don't act like a lodger. And more often to look to the mother-in-law to admire the intelligence, life experience and exquisite manners of this wisest woman.”
Can I see my sister? “Soon Katya called and warned her that she would not be there. I asked my husband and I to visit her. My husband disheartenedly refused, and advised me to ask permission from Zinaida Ivanovna, so that, God forbid, she would not be upset again. At 33, ask your mother-in-law for permission? It was over the edge. I did not humiliate myself again, but gathered myself in silence and went to my sister’s house.”
We sat well with Katya, looked at the pictures, had a little chat. By 23:30 I had already returned. I was met with an icy silence. Well, at least they don't threaten divorce, and thank you.
“I decided to drink more tea. Just settled in the kitchen, as soon as the mother-in-law appeared in her favorite orange terry coat. Demonstrably turned off the light and, without even looking at me, went to the bedroom without explaining anything. Yes, it is even strange that I behave like a lodger in such conditions, Anastasia concluded.
Living with your mother-in-law is not a good idea. Especially in the case of our heroine, when they look at the world so differently with their mother-in-law. It is also the attitude of the husband who refuses to protect his wife. Will your marriage save you from moving to a separate home? Hard to say.
My husband and I live in his mother’s house. When my younger sister called and offered to visit me, I was glad, but first I decided to ask permission: after all, other people live here, besides me. Calling my husband to work didn't do anything. He immediately sent me to my mother, they say, ask her. This is what I was afraid of, says Anastasia.
“The fact is that Zinaida Ivanovna does not like to receive guests. At least not if you don’t invite them. I remember when my parents from the village came to visit after the wedding, my mother-in-law did not find a place for herself.”
“Then mom and dad brought meat, vegetables, fruit... Zinaida Ivanovna only sank, accepting gifts. And then I was kicked out because my parents came without warning. What is this? ruralism. “Was it possible to warn or not?” – indignant mother-in-law.
By the way, Zinaida Ivanovna herself is from the village, but she avoids remembering it in every possible way. She never talks about her childhood or her parents. Rural origin is taboo.”
“When choosing clothes, mother-in-law listens only to the advice of urban fashionistas. Milk is always kept only in porcelain milk, because “all cultured people do this.” Probably, if I had fried potatoes and put them on the table in the pan, Zinaida Ivanovna would have had a stroke. Therefore, I do not do so, save her mental state, Nastya laughs at the quirks of her mother-in-law.
Don't you dare call anyone? “You don’t want to, you have to call and ask. “Zinaida Ivanovna, do you mind if Katya comes to me for an hour?” – immediately I take the bull by the horns and immediately I hear her mother-in-law grabbing her heart at the other end.
“Oh, why didn’t you say that in five days? How can you call someone out of nowhere into the house? I was just about to go with my neighbor. . . . it was heard how Zinaida Ivanovna frantically tried to come up with any reason to refuse.
But I am already familiar with her tricks, and therefore I boldly go on the offensive Zinaida Ivanovna, we will not interfere with your plans. We will sit quietly in the kitchen, drink tea, take a look at photos from Katyushiny vacation. I'll buy your favorite cakes. “Well, only if for a while,” the mother-in-law gives up and drops the phone. Victory! As a matter of urgency, I take the work with me and hurry home to have everything in time for Katyn’s arrival.”
“In the evening, my husband comes up from work and throws himself at me with complaints. "What did you tell her?" Why is she calling me and crying? How long will my mother tolerate your antics? Go now apologize, or I am filing for divorce, my beloved hands pointing towards my mother’s room.
Okay, stop! What could I have done? I scroll through my head all day, remembering the morning I cooked breakfast, when I left for work, when I got back early. My mother-in-law did not intersect, there was no quarrel with her when. Oh, yes, we talked on the phone once.
“Extremely found: it was me. My husband insisted, I had to go and forgive. With hot tea, no less ardent apologies were accepted. The two are now sitting on the couch waiting for me to cook dinner.”
“Zinaida Ivanovna generously forgave me. For the future, she strongly advised less with her work and don't act like a lodger. And more often to look to the mother-in-law to admire the intelligence, life experience and exquisite manners of this wisest woman.”
Can I see my sister? “Soon Katya called and warned her that she would not be there. I asked my husband and I to visit her. My husband disheartenedly refused, and advised me to ask permission from Zinaida Ivanovna, so that, God forbid, she would not be upset again. At 33, ask your mother-in-law for permission? It was over the edge. I did not humiliate myself again, but gathered myself in silence and went to my sister’s house.”
We sat well with Katya, looked at the pictures, had a little chat. By 23:30 I had already returned. I was met with an icy silence. Well, at least they don't threaten divorce, and thank you.
“I decided to drink more tea. Just settled in the kitchen, as soon as the mother-in-law appeared in her favorite orange terry coat. Demonstrably turned off the light and, without even looking at me, went to the bedroom without explaining anything. Yes, it is even strange that I behave like a lodger in such conditions, Anastasia concluded.
Living with your mother-in-law is not a good idea. Especially in the case of our heroine, when they look at the world so differently with their mother-in-law. It is also the attitude of the husband who refuses to protect his wife. Will your marriage save you from moving to a separate home? Hard to say.
In which case the relationship with the sister can deteriorate irrevocably.
That's what you're doing.