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The son flew to heaven, we have a daughter-in-law with children in our arms
Being alone with two children after losing a loved one seems like the worst-case scenario of life. But it's even worse when you lose the only person who supported you. Alice is a young widow who stayed in her husband’s apartment with two children, and has nowhere else to go. Her husband’s parents are wealthy and help Alice as much as they can, but there is a limit to everything. This is what her mother-in-law thinks about it:
“My only son has been gone for three years. His wife, Alice, stayed with the young children to live in the apartment we bought Vanya as a wedding present. My husband and I were able to save up for a comfortable old age and knew perfectly well that an unemployed daughter-in-law would not be able to settle down in life without support. But she climbed up on our head and hung her legs.
Now Alice lives literally in our care with my husband. She decided that from now on it was our duty to provide for our grandchildren and to help them in everything. My son married Alice when she got pregnant. They married when he was 22 and his daughter-in-law was 20. Of course, we took her under our wing and, first of all, bought the newlyweds an apartment.
After the end of the decree, we learned that Alice is expecting her second child. I say this to make it clear that this girl has been kept alive throughout her adult life. First Alice was in the care of my son, and now under mine. And when her son died, Alice decided that my husband and I would take care of their family, since we have two grandchildren. I understood that my daughter-in-law was left without means of subsistence and had two babies in her arms, so I continued to help her.
But as the children grew older, I expected Alice to take up her mind and get some work to keep afloat and try to take care of her children. I even offered her some options, but Alice refused. She continues to stay at home because the children are constantly unwell and therefore do not go to kindergarten.”
Alice has been crying all these years about how hard it is for her without her husband’s support. And she talked about the fact that children need jackets, boots, socks and other necessary things for which a young unemployed mother does not have money. I have been listening to her complaints for so long that I feel guilty and indebted to her. And a young family without a father needs absolutely everything, I am also not endless and worry about my grandchildren, I do not know what will happen to them when I give my soul to God.
Alice is constantly complaining about life. Since my son died, nothing has changed. At first, I indulged in everything. But then I decided to take my grandchildren by the hand and go with them to buy everything they need, without taking into account the whim of my daughter-in-law. To this you can add the increase in the cost of utilities, for which my husband and I have to pay, so that there are no debts.
Every weekend, Alice brings her grandchildren to us, they say that the children miss Grandpa. You don't know what you're doing. Maybe she's got a boyfriend and she's hiding it so she can sit around our necks. I don't know what to think. I want to end it all, but I'm afraid that the daughter-in-law will deprive me and my husband of communication with grandchildren.”
From the editorial office of a Man who has never worked, it is difficult to get yourself to start providing for yourself. Alice's mother-in-law is a very kind woman, but there is a limit to everything. It is time to stop indulging in your daughter-in-law and explain to her that in old age I would be able to take care of myself. Alice lacks responsibility. She was used to her husband providing for her, and now she has shifted this responsibility to her mother-in-law.
It is necessary to explain to Alice that her mother-in-law will help her grandchildren, but still her daughter-in-law lives in the apartment she bought, and she will have to pay for utilities. The main thing here is not to succumb to pity yourself, it is like feeding a dog from the table. If the owner does not have endurance and self-control, the dog will get his piece of sausage.
“My only son has been gone for three years. His wife, Alice, stayed with the young children to live in the apartment we bought Vanya as a wedding present. My husband and I were able to save up for a comfortable old age and knew perfectly well that an unemployed daughter-in-law would not be able to settle down in life without support. But she climbed up on our head and hung her legs.
Now Alice lives literally in our care with my husband. She decided that from now on it was our duty to provide for our grandchildren and to help them in everything. My son married Alice when she got pregnant. They married when he was 22 and his daughter-in-law was 20. Of course, we took her under our wing and, first of all, bought the newlyweds an apartment.
After the end of the decree, we learned that Alice is expecting her second child. I say this to make it clear that this girl has been kept alive throughout her adult life. First Alice was in the care of my son, and now under mine. And when her son died, Alice decided that my husband and I would take care of their family, since we have two grandchildren. I understood that my daughter-in-law was left without means of subsistence and had two babies in her arms, so I continued to help her.
But as the children grew older, I expected Alice to take up her mind and get some work to keep afloat and try to take care of her children. I even offered her some options, but Alice refused. She continues to stay at home because the children are constantly unwell and therefore do not go to kindergarten.”
Alice has been crying all these years about how hard it is for her without her husband’s support. And she talked about the fact that children need jackets, boots, socks and other necessary things for which a young unemployed mother does not have money. I have been listening to her complaints for so long that I feel guilty and indebted to her. And a young family without a father needs absolutely everything, I am also not endless and worry about my grandchildren, I do not know what will happen to them when I give my soul to God.
Alice is constantly complaining about life. Since my son died, nothing has changed. At first, I indulged in everything. But then I decided to take my grandchildren by the hand and go with them to buy everything they need, without taking into account the whim of my daughter-in-law. To this you can add the increase in the cost of utilities, for which my husband and I have to pay, so that there are no debts.
Every weekend, Alice brings her grandchildren to us, they say that the children miss Grandpa. You don't know what you're doing. Maybe she's got a boyfriend and she's hiding it so she can sit around our necks. I don't know what to think. I want to end it all, but I'm afraid that the daughter-in-law will deprive me and my husband of communication with grandchildren.”
From the editorial office of a Man who has never worked, it is difficult to get yourself to start providing for yourself. Alice's mother-in-law is a very kind woman, but there is a limit to everything. It is time to stop indulging in your daughter-in-law and explain to her that in old age I would be able to take care of myself. Alice lacks responsibility. She was used to her husband providing for her, and now she has shifted this responsibility to her mother-in-law.
It is necessary to explain to Alice that her mother-in-law will help her grandchildren, but still her daughter-in-law lives in the apartment she bought, and she will have to pay for utilities. The main thing here is not to succumb to pity yourself, it is like feeding a dog from the table. If the owner does not have endurance and self-control, the dog will get his piece of sausage.
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