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What to do if the daughter-in-law in the decree completely abandoned her husband, does not wash him and does not cook
Every family. husband-and-wife They divide differently. For someone, it is normal if a male earner provides for the family and a woman becomes the keeper of the hearth. And someone likes a more modern way of life, in which both work, and the upbringing of children, and everyday life are engaged in both.
© Freepik I am a supporter of the second family model. However, this is not always the case. For example, the heroine of today’s story came face to face with a real family patriarchy. And who would have thought that the stumbling block would be the behavior of her own son! I wonder what the resourceful daughter-in-law did and how her mother-in-law reacted to it?
Three years ago, my son married and moved into a rented apartment with his wife. Igoresha was always a hard worker, so the family lived in prosperity and well-being. I confess that I never tried to get involved in the family affairs of my son. I rarely visited on holidays. But recently my beloved daughter-in-law gave me a long-awaited granddaughter.
I started coming in more often to see Martus and help with the housework, if necessary. One day I came without warning. Seeing the brightly washed apartment, I confess, pleasantly surprised. And how does a daughter-in-law keep up with her baby all the time? To be honest, I started to be proud of her.
© Freepik When I arrived, the daughter-in-law just started feeding her granddaughter. So I decided to go to the kitchen and put the kettle on. There was a small slide of unwashed dishes waiting for me, which I was happy about. "I'll save Aniutka from unnecessary worries," I thought. But as soon as I turned on the water like thunder from a clear sky, a daughter-in-law appeared in the room.
“Don't touch it, please! Let Igor wash, these are his plates, Anya said in a strict voice. No, I've heard everything in my life, but fuck that! Later, the daughter-in-law said that one dish was not worth it. She also stopped collecting constantly scattered socks and washing his things. “I did not take maternity leave to babysit my husband!” – Anyutka said with resentment in her voice.
I admit I was outraged at first. But after discussing everything with her daughter-in-law, she learned a lot about her son. It turned out that he decided to try on the role of his father, who once behaved in the same way. During the day he worked, and in the evening he came, lay down on the couch, hanging his legs waiting for dinner. He didn't hit a finger to help with the housework.
Of course, Igor fully supports the family, and this deserves respect. Because neither Anyutka nor Martusya needs absolutely nothing. But you can not shift on the fragile shoulders of a new mother absolutely the whole household routine! In addition, I noticed that the apartment is full of their clothes. For example, a shower leaks in the bathroom. Unbelievable!
In general, the daughter-in-law declared Igor a boycott. I understand it in part, but it can't go on forever. I'm afraid the methods of Anyutka are ineffective. If I were her, I couldn't stand those awful dishes in the sink and I washed them long ago. I'm not talking about laundry at all. I think I need to talk to my son. Try to find an approach or something. After all, such family relationships can be called a stretch. I hope Igor will come to his senses.”
From the editorial board, we are convinced that husband-and-wife It should be divided according to the specific situation. One way or another, a woman can not carry absolutely all the housework, cooking and raising children. This model of family has long been outdated and increasingly rejected. In order to establish contact and come to a common denominator, a husband and wife must share their experiences with each other. After all, any problem can be solved in its inception. The main thing is the sincere desire of each spouse.
© Freepik Tell me, which family model is closer to you? We will be very interested to hear your opinion on this topic. We are waiting for you in the comments and thank you for staying with us!
© Freepik I am a supporter of the second family model. However, this is not always the case. For example, the heroine of today’s story came face to face with a real family patriarchy. And who would have thought that the stumbling block would be the behavior of her own son! I wonder what the resourceful daughter-in-law did and how her mother-in-law reacted to it?
Three years ago, my son married and moved into a rented apartment with his wife. Igoresha was always a hard worker, so the family lived in prosperity and well-being. I confess that I never tried to get involved in the family affairs of my son. I rarely visited on holidays. But recently my beloved daughter-in-law gave me a long-awaited granddaughter.
I started coming in more often to see Martus and help with the housework, if necessary. One day I came without warning. Seeing the brightly washed apartment, I confess, pleasantly surprised. And how does a daughter-in-law keep up with her baby all the time? To be honest, I started to be proud of her.
© Freepik When I arrived, the daughter-in-law just started feeding her granddaughter. So I decided to go to the kitchen and put the kettle on. There was a small slide of unwashed dishes waiting for me, which I was happy about. "I'll save Aniutka from unnecessary worries," I thought. But as soon as I turned on the water like thunder from a clear sky, a daughter-in-law appeared in the room.
“Don't touch it, please! Let Igor wash, these are his plates, Anya said in a strict voice. No, I've heard everything in my life, but fuck that! Later, the daughter-in-law said that one dish was not worth it. She also stopped collecting constantly scattered socks and washing his things. “I did not take maternity leave to babysit my husband!” – Anyutka said with resentment in her voice.
I admit I was outraged at first. But after discussing everything with her daughter-in-law, she learned a lot about her son. It turned out that he decided to try on the role of his father, who once behaved in the same way. During the day he worked, and in the evening he came, lay down on the couch, hanging his legs waiting for dinner. He didn't hit a finger to help with the housework.
Of course, Igor fully supports the family, and this deserves respect. Because neither Anyutka nor Martusya needs absolutely nothing. But you can not shift on the fragile shoulders of a new mother absolutely the whole household routine! In addition, I noticed that the apartment is full of their clothes. For example, a shower leaks in the bathroom. Unbelievable!
In general, the daughter-in-law declared Igor a boycott. I understand it in part, but it can't go on forever. I'm afraid the methods of Anyutka are ineffective. If I were her, I couldn't stand those awful dishes in the sink and I washed them long ago. I'm not talking about laundry at all. I think I need to talk to my son. Try to find an approach or something. After all, such family relationships can be called a stretch. I hope Igor will come to his senses.”
From the editorial board, we are convinced that husband-and-wife It should be divided according to the specific situation. One way or another, a woman can not carry absolutely all the housework, cooking and raising children. This model of family has long been outdated and increasingly rejected. In order to establish contact and come to a common denominator, a husband and wife must share their experiences with each other. After all, any problem can be solved in its inception. The main thing is the sincere desire of each spouse.
© Freepik Tell me, which family model is closer to you? We will be very interested to hear your opinion on this topic. We are waiting for you in the comments and thank you for staying with us!
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