Why we are surprised when the table is served by a man

Domestic responsibilities in the family may not always be distributed equally. This is logical, because each person establishes his own order and implements personal traditions. Somewhere all the responsibilities of the house fall on the woman, somewhere – on the contrary. The main thing is that the couple is satisfied with how they share household chores. It doesn't matter what others think. Although often just household duties They can be a real stumbling block.



Recently, one mother’s friend witnessed a real attempt to break the stereotype that all household chores fall on the fragile shoulders of women. When she came to visit her son, she saw that her daughter-in-law did not blow in her mustache, while her beloved son was running like a burnt, covering the table. The mother-in-law asked her daughter-in-law if she wanted to help her husband.

But the answer was lightning fast. The daughter-in-law works hard, so All the household chores are on my husband.. He still sits at home, so he can set the table, clean it, and put the children. For the girl, this situation was very acceptable. My mother’s friend is still impressed. But is this really a serious problem?



Who's right and who's wrong Do not put a lot of labels on the move if someone’s family system is different from the usual one. This is normal because we are all different. Besides, the modern world dictates. And if earlier the father in the decree was considered something out of the ordinary, now it is a common practice.



It is necessary to discuss from the very beginning how you can rationally distribute household duties in the family. Any arguments against it will not be accepted. If you think about who is better at what, then the work will go many times faster. For example, you can clean the house together. Someone cooks dinner and someone washes dishes. So you can clearly determine your schedule and the amount of work around the house.

If there are children in the family, some responsibilities They should be. Undoubtedly, the one that fits the age. For example, pack toys or put things in your closet. This approach will gradually teach the child to order and responsibility. He will know that he must perform the task entrusted to him by his parents.



Try not to allow the formation of a grand mess in the house, otherwise every cleaning will turn into an attempt to do a million things on the weekend. Experts advise to thank and praise each other for the work done. This will not only add to your other half of enthusiasm, but also cheer up.



If you managed to initially successfully adjust the distribution of household chores, then this is just wonderful. But there are cases when a husband or wife grew up in an environment where all the household responsibilities It was strictly on my mother. (or father). But often it is women who try to get all the work around the house.

For example, a woman did not go to work, but was responsible for household life. This situation is understandable. Only sometimes such women still do not attract household members to household chores. They do not give even the slightest task to their children or husband. For some, it is important to play in a similar situation. Some people think that children or husband just don't have to help.



In any case, you need to accustom a person to homework gradually. If it is new to him, then you should not threaten, force, scold. It'll only make things worse. Try to be calm and understanding. But if such a household does not lend itself to rational requests, then you can sometimes trick.

For example, if you ask: “Will you wash the bathroom today?”, the person may find some excuse and do nothing. But a more thoughtful version of the question may sound like this: “Are you washing the bathroom or floors today?” In theory, your favorite lazy should choose the lesser of evils. But the main thing is that he must not only choose, but then fulfill his promise.



Try to adequately distribute household responsibilities in the family. So to speak, each according to his capabilities. Taking all the household chores on yourself in an effort to please someone is the last century. Value yourself and your time. Live the way you want.