One day my daughter-in-law called and asked me to borrow a set of bed linen, on this my patience burst as it is possible to live like this. Bashny.Net

Parents are always concerned about their children, even if they are already adults and independent. And if mom and dad see that their adult child is doing stupid things, they simply cannot help but intervene. Who else will teach him, if not them?

Today's edition. "Site" She will share the story of a reader who can not understand what her son and daughter-in-law spend their salaries on. After all, even extra bed linen with blankets they could not buy for several years, and even in debt regularly ask. And such a careless attitude to money cannot but alarm.



Bed linen with a blanket "Our only son married a girl from a large family." She seemed to us quite pleasant and worthy special, and somehow felt sorry for her. We gave the young grandmother an apartment that had previously been rented out. I arranged for my daughter-in-law to be hired in a decent company. And all, more in their affairs, my husband and I tried not to interfere, says Tamara.



“My son, with a good job, my daughter-in-law even at first had a good salary. We were not worried about their financial situation. But over time, it became alarming that every time you come to visit them, and nothing changes.

Furniture, as it was three years ago, when they settled, is still there. Even the old sofa, which is more than twenty years old, they could not replace. The dishes are almost all the ones I gave. They never repaired it. And yet they don’t even have savings.



But their clothes are so new that soon they will not fit into the closet. Shoes are also available in several pairs. I looked at it at first, and then I started telling my son that it was wrong to do that. You can’t spend your whole life in your grandmother’s apartment and save nothing.

Yes, save some money, my father and I will help, maybe Tankin parents for some time to connect... Get a bigger apartment in a nice neighborhood and have kids! But each time the son just shrugged off that they were satisfied with everything, that they would sort it out themselves.



As a result, they go to the cafe almost every other day, then expensive travel. My daughter-in-law also loved spending money. I went to beauty salons regularly. And her son indulges her. Then she gives flowers, then sweets, then spoils gifts. And then he calls and asks for a payday loan because, you see, they didn’t pay.



My daughter-in-law called yesterday and asked me to borrow a set of bed linens. It turns out that relatives come to them, and there is nothing to make a bed, even an extra blanket. I was so angry that I could barely contain myself. I told her I didn't have much to give to everyone. And then she added that they are already adults, could buy a blanket instead of another boot.



The daughter-in-law was offended and hung up on me. And then the son called back and tried to shame me that I felt sorry for their old rags. But it's not about rags. And the fact that the son and daughter-in-law make themselves adults, and behave like unintelligent children. And how should I teach them to run their farm? the woman wonders.