Gone mother-in-law told how to identify toxic and brazen daughter-in-law before the wedding

It turns out that a fairly large number of women in the heart do not like their daughters-in-law. There is no open confrontation, but it is impossible to say that the claims are also completely absent. The name of the son's wife. For the eyes when no one can hear it? Well, let's just say it's different. But it is good that every mother has the right not to show how her daughter-in-law is recorded on her mobile phone. Because sometimes the truth may not be too pleasant.



That's not surprising. Psychologists have long unraveled the “secret” of possible hostility between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law. It's just a fight for primacy, that's all. Every woman wants to be in the first place for a loved one. Mom is like a parent. A wife is like the love of her life. In some cases, rivals are actively fighting with each other, and sometimes even become best friends. Although the second option does not happen as often as I would like.

Imagine, my daughter-in-law is not even ashamed of the fact that she does not like me! He tells me that right in the eye, at the first opportunity. And my son knows that! That’s how I, having reached the sixth decade, feel like a “beloved” mother and mother-in-law. I knew the only child in the family was a bad idea. You can't put all your eggs in one basket.

Alice, my daughter-in-law, always seemed to me too energetic, twitchy. Even when my son first introduced us, it was wild to look into her black, huge eyes. Constantly running and very attentive. As it turned out, it is not in vain that you need to trust your intuition more often. But then I just shrugged off the disturbing thoughts and tried to make friends with the girl brought by my Misha. What could have gone wrong with my son’s future wife?



First, audacity. Now many women’s magazines, and in general, articles on the Internet trumpet that the first “bell” of a toxic man is his improper behavior with the staff. At my age, I am still interested in these things. So, that time in the cafe Alice behaved with the waiter frankly boorish. She demanded to replace her dessert, because it seemed to her a bit wrinkled, rude and, in general, behaved defiantly. Then I tried to get it all on my nerves. And she was wrong.

Second, you'll forgive me for the details, but the look. Namely, the deepest neckline and mini skirt. Or even a whole mini suit. I'd say he's athletic because he's very tight. Who knows what the fashion of today’s youth is. In short, another sign of disrespect for anyone around you. And for me, because Alice was informed about our meeting and could have dressed something more decent, there would have been a desire.



When they started living together after the wedding, I was a little sad because I missed my only son. I barely made myself known for a month, but then I started calling from time to time. This is my child, I'm his mother, I think there's nothing really to explain. It turned out that Alice was not happy about this, so over time she began to complain to my son. And several times I literally heard her tell her husband to hang up. I was standing by him, but I could hear him, believe me.

I did not want to make a scandal, so at a personal meeting with my son I asked him what and how. It turns out that Alice, my daughter-in-law, is really a problem person, but it's not 100% her fault. She used to be a normal, normal girl. But then she had a young man, she became pregnant, her father did not want to take responsibility and she had a miscarriage. After that, her psyche began to give up a little and Alice had to turn to experts.



I mean, you know, right? My daughter-in-law is clearly an unhealthy person. Although Misha is trying to convince me otherwise. They say that she is just stressed, and only psychologists worked with her. Anyway, it'll be over soon. Yeah, but I personally have a different opinion.

The worst thing happened after that. A few days later, Alice found out about our conversation with his son. She's completely out of her mind. She called me, in very high tones, started accusing me of trying to separate them from Michael, that I was so-and-so and wanted to get rid of her, and a lot of other things. The only positive thing about all this is that she really loves Misha, but I'm afraid only with her unhealthy love.



And the son. I'm totally unable to stand up for me. And I still can't figure it out. It's like he's bewitched by his young wife. Not rude, but constantly trying to let me know that he's a grown man now and I'm not part of his family. He will decide when to call him, he will decide when he comes to visit. In short, it's all by itself. But I do realize that my daughter-in-law is actually running it. Totally and completely.

It seems that he was bewitched by a gypsy. And it all comes together: dark, black-haired. But no matter how hard I try, I don’t believe in all these signs. I believe in sound reason. But in this direction I can notice that my son lives in a three-room apartment of his wife. New, freshly renovated. I understand that real estate is a very important resource these days. But is it enough to be between mother and son? Is everything running like this?



I still hope things work out between us somehow. It only takes time and patience. But some unpleasant voice still whispers to me that I stop suffering from nonsense and just concentrate on my life. I accomplished my mother’s mission and was successful. I have a healthy baby who has grown up and floated into adulthood. His further joys and problems are now his concern. But still, my heart hopes for the best.