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How to stop being offended by trifles
I think everyone knows someone who is constantly offended. You couldn't go to coffee with him, and he's sulking. I know you, don't I? And fine, if it's some acquaintance, communication with whom is not so important, but if it's mom, brother, sister or your partner, life becomes many times more difficult.
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But what we want to talk about today is not how difficult it is to have these people, but to try to teach you how to love them. In fact, the best people among us are the best. And today's edition. "Site" He'll try to prove it to you.
The offending man himself resentment Emotion is natural, it arises in response to injustice. Most often it is a reaction to a situation where you expected something, but did not get it. Many people say that they are not offended at all, but this is not true. Offensiveness is inherent in every person, just here, as with pain, there is a threshold.
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Some of them are tall, so-called thick-skinned people. They can not be overcome with banal everyday situations, but they also have their drawbacks. However, this is another story, but for now about those whose threshold of sensitivity is extremely low. Often such people are considered weak-character and annoying.
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Indeed, it is more difficult to communicate with them, because they perceive each word at their own expense, and you have to constantly think about what you say. Sharp jokes and hamstrings are not perceived by them as you would like. Everyone wants an easy conversation, where you do not need to check every word.
But let’s look at it from the other side. Responsible people are actually very good, only highly complex. And all these complexes, in turn, generate an inflated level of self-criticism, from this and all resentments, they take everything too personally. But self-criticism is not such a bad trait.
The inner world of a touchy person is a set of very subtle feelings. In addition to the standard set of feelings, they also have a sense of undeserved resentment. It is quite difficult to live with him, and most importantly, they are not at all guilty of being so vulnerable.
But such people are very good at compassion and rarely offend others. Thanks to the storm inside them, they have a great sense of speech and intonation. They are very delicate, but for them it is important that a person knows how to choose words in conversation with them.
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Talking to people like that makes us better. Think about it, if this person is dear to you, you will be more demanding of yourself, and also try to be as delicate as possible, you will follow your speech and intonation. Because of this, a person becomes better. If you learn to talk to a touchy person without hurting his feelings, you will have no equal in the art of communication.
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So these fragile and vulnerable people make us much better, develop good qualities in us. And, as a rule, they are not vindictive and, talking to them, all offenses can be made up for. We offer you a couple of tips that will help you communicate with a touchy person.
Let’s be honest, touchy people sometimes cross boundaries. Therefore, you need to be able to talk to them and confront their offenses. We do not encourage you to constantly encourage resentment, sometimes you need to fight them. You need to find that middle ground, and here are some tips for that.
Living and communicating with touchy people is not easy, but they make us and our lives better. If you try, make efforts, then you can build strong relationships with such people. Patience pays off, trust me.
Each of us has experienced a feeling of resentment, but not everyone knows that it devours a person from the inside and can cause harm to physical health. To prevent this and become happier, you need to be able to forgive. We recently told you how to forgive a grudge and let go of that horrible feeling.
Have you ever been in contact with people who are sensitive? How did you deal with their constant grievances?
DepositPhotos
But what we want to talk about today is not how difficult it is to have these people, but to try to teach you how to love them. In fact, the best people among us are the best. And today's edition. "Site" He'll try to prove it to you.
The offending man himself resentment Emotion is natural, it arises in response to injustice. Most often it is a reaction to a situation where you expected something, but did not get it. Many people say that they are not offended at all, but this is not true. Offensiveness is inherent in every person, just here, as with pain, there is a threshold.
DepositPhotos
Some of them are tall, so-called thick-skinned people. They can not be overcome with banal everyday situations, but they also have their drawbacks. However, this is another story, but for now about those whose threshold of sensitivity is extremely low. Often such people are considered weak-character and annoying.
DepositPhotos
Indeed, it is more difficult to communicate with them, because they perceive each word at their own expense, and you have to constantly think about what you say. Sharp jokes and hamstrings are not perceived by them as you would like. Everyone wants an easy conversation, where you do not need to check every word.
But let’s look at it from the other side. Responsible people are actually very good, only highly complex. And all these complexes, in turn, generate an inflated level of self-criticism, from this and all resentments, they take everything too personally. But self-criticism is not such a bad trait.
The inner world of a touchy person is a set of very subtle feelings. In addition to the standard set of feelings, they also have a sense of undeserved resentment. It is quite difficult to live with him, and most importantly, they are not at all guilty of being so vulnerable.
But such people are very good at compassion and rarely offend others. Thanks to the storm inside them, they have a great sense of speech and intonation. They are very delicate, but for them it is important that a person knows how to choose words in conversation with them.
DepositPhotos
Talking to people like that makes us better. Think about it, if this person is dear to you, you will be more demanding of yourself, and also try to be as delicate as possible, you will follow your speech and intonation. Because of this, a person becomes better. If you learn to talk to a touchy person without hurting his feelings, you will have no equal in the art of communication.
DepositPhotos
So these fragile and vulnerable people make us much better, develop good qualities in us. And, as a rule, they are not vindictive and, talking to them, all offenses can be made up for. We offer you a couple of tips that will help you communicate with a touchy person.
Let’s be honest, touchy people sometimes cross boundaries. Therefore, you need to be able to talk to them and confront their offenses. We do not encourage you to constantly encourage resentment, sometimes you need to fight them. You need to find that middle ground, and here are some tips for that.
- Talk to a man not about his mistakes, but about his offenses.
You can't always apologize, you have to set limits. If you understand that a person is overdoing, talk to him heartily. Invite him to a serious conversation. Just don't start with accusations, they say you're tired of your grievances at everything. It is better to calmly explain to the person that you are upset by frequent resentments, you are uncomfortable from this. That way, you'll have a chance to discuss it calmly.
DepositPhotos - Set boundaries.
Explain to the person what you are willing to endure, what you are willing to apologize for and how long you will endure his offenses. Apologize, try to make amends, but not all the time. Try to convey to the person that you love and appreciate him, but you do not like his behavior. Just make sure that the person does not overstep the stick, set clear boundaries.
DepositPhotos - Stay calm.
If you want to maintain a relationship with such a person, you need to learn peace of mind. Don’t expect it to change after the first conversation. Stay calm, don't get him into arguments, don't make excuses. Just try to understand him, listen to him, and tell him that you're sorry and that you've already apologized. If you do this methodically, then over time you will come to a compromise and will understand each other better.
DepositPhotos - Change your attitude.
Accept the fact that a person cannot do otherwise, that he is vulnerable and sensitive. Look at it from the other side, try not to be angry with him, but to accept. Stop tormenting yourself with guilt or resentment. Since nothing helps, just accept and try to smooth out the sharp corners.
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Living and communicating with touchy people is not easy, but they make us and our lives better. If you try, make efforts, then you can build strong relationships with such people. Patience pays off, trust me.
Each of us has experienced a feeling of resentment, but not everyone knows that it devours a person from the inside and can cause harm to physical health. To prevent this and become happier, you need to be able to forgive. We recently told you how to forgive a grudge and let go of that horrible feeling.
Have you ever been in contact with people who are sensitive? How did you deal with their constant grievances?
