Why you can’t listen to other people’s complaints about life Bashny.Net

Even the most cheerful optimists have difficult days when you want to cry for life and pour out the accumulated negative to the attentive listener. But that's half the trouble. It is much worse when we meet people who see everything in black. Every conversation is filled with tragedy, problems, complaints.

And today, the editors of the Site will tell you why it is dangerous to listen to negative people. We will try to figure out what to do with those from whom we constantly hear. grievance and discontent.



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In listening to a person, we usually see nothing wrong. Well, let him talk, share his problems. We don’t think about why we need it ourselves. Good education and elementary politeness do not allow you to simply interrupt a person and refuse to listen to him. We believe that we are doing a service to a person, and this elevates us in our own eyes.



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In fact, we only encourage people to embellish and exaggerate their problems so that our compassion grows. By sympathizing with his misfortunes, we make the sufferer himself believe that he miserable and helpless. At the same time, we become infected with negativity and do bad things to ourselves.



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What happens when we Listening to other people's problems:

1. Losing vitality.
   After unpleasant conversations, you notice fatigue and depression. All because negativity takes away your energy and makes you lose faith in your own abilities.
   
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2. Let's be manipulated.
   Sometimes we complain not only to ease the soul. Cunning manipulators with the help of whining make us feel awkward and even guilty from the fact that everything is wonderful, and a good person is not lucky. Subsequently, in order to get rid of guilt, we even make concessions to the detriment of our interests and try to help a person. That's what he originally expected.
   
   
   
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3. Getting infected with negativity
   No wonder they say that if a person is endlessly called a dog, he will eventually bark. So is our view of life: if we keep hearing how bad things are, we will eventually believe it. Even the most ardent optimist will begin to look at the world through dark glasses if he is constantly stuffed with negativity. Therefore, regularly listening to whiners, you will eventually turn into one of them.
   
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Do you need other people’s problems and the above consequences? If not, find the strength to limit communication with whiners and eternal sufferers. People who constantly complain about lifeIt is unlikely to bring you much good, so save your nerves, strength and energy.

Make it clear to the eternal sufferers that you have your own problems and worries that are more important than others. Set boundaries and know how to refuse when arrogant people sit on their heads. Find the strength to say simple but powerful phrases like “stop complaining,” “I’m not interested,” and “I don’t want to listen to this.”

Of course, you can remain soft, well-mannered and responsive, but then be prepared that the number of whiners and complainers around you will grow, and your head will soon be filled with other people’s problems that you do not really need.