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How to learn to always be on time
“Punctuality is the courtesy of kings, but a duty to their subjects,” is a phrase said to have been dropped by King Louis XVIII of France, and it quickly became winged. Its meaning is that only a king cannot be punctual, whose accuracy must be regarded as a sign of attention and respect for others.
And although we understand that punctuality is very important today and that it is ugly to make friends, colleagues or even unfamiliar people expect us, not everyone can call themselves punctual. So. Why people are late How do you get rid of this disgusting habit?
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Of course, force majeure can happen at any time and all perfectly calculated plans will fall apart like a house of cards. It is impossible to calculate everything, so rare delays cannot be considered a global problem. But if force majeure happens every other day, then there are problems with discipline, and perhaps not only with it.
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Psychologists say that constant lateness is a covert aggression towards people with whom a meeting is planned. If you’re late for work, it’s aggression towards your employees and your boss. If you’re late for your birthday, it’s aggression towards someone who wants to share a holiday with you.
Waiting for you, people count on something, worry, get angry. And even reasons like “it was a lot of work”, “the child got sick” or “hateful traffic jams” do not save from irritation. After all, with these excuses, a person tries to absolve himself of responsibility.
However, against your punctuality is not the world, but yourself. And to stop being late, you need not blame everyone in a row, but to understand your feelings, which are the cause of carelessness.
Why are you late?
When we analyze our behavior, we quickly understand why we are late. And with this awareness, permanent force majeure will disappear, and just a choice will arise: go or not go.
Of course, not everything is under our control. But if lateness is the norm for you, then it is no longer a force majeure, but your way of interacting with people. A way in which there is a lot of hidden aggression, and people around them feel it.
And if you're still late, you probably have to look for something else. Maybe it's because of your temperament. Or maybe it's procrastination that's holding you back. Maybe it's time to drop the shackles?
And although we understand that punctuality is very important today and that it is ugly to make friends, colleagues or even unfamiliar people expect us, not everyone can call themselves punctual. So. Why people are late How do you get rid of this disgusting habit?
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Of course, force majeure can happen at any time and all perfectly calculated plans will fall apart like a house of cards. It is impossible to calculate everything, so rare delays cannot be considered a global problem. But if force majeure happens every other day, then there are problems with discipline, and perhaps not only with it.
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Psychologists say that constant lateness is a covert aggression towards people with whom a meeting is planned. If you’re late for work, it’s aggression towards your employees and your boss. If you’re late for your birthday, it’s aggression towards someone who wants to share a holiday with you.
Waiting for you, people count on something, worry, get angry. And even reasons like “it was a lot of work”, “the child got sick” or “hateful traffic jams” do not save from irritation. After all, with these excuses, a person tries to absolve himself of responsibility.
However, against your punctuality is not the world, but yourself. And to stop being late, you need not blame everyone in a row, but to understand your feelings, which are the cause of carelessness.
Why are you late?
- "I'm a little scared to go there."
Fear through the subconscious creates obstacles that we never knew existed before. - "Whatever happens?"
When we do not like an upcoming event or expect trouble from it, we subconsciously delay the moment to come as late as possible. If you come sooner, you will have to endure it longer.
DepositPhotos - "I can't see them."
Lateness happens when we anticipate trouble and discomfort. Being obliged to attend the event, we understand that in case of force majeure, we may be late. And it happens! - “Nothing terrible, little master, let him wait.”
Contempt does not promote punctuality. You don’t care what a person thinks or how they feel when they wait. - “Again, look at these scoundrels.”
Envy is a negative feeling. It is not surprising that the subconscious mind will protect you in every possible way so that you come as late as possible, and maybe not at all get to the hated event.
DepositPhotos - “Senseless meeting. Why am I going there?
If the event does not cause a pleasant thrill, then there is no sense in rushing there. If so, you might be late, good. cause of delay There will always be.
When we analyze our behavior, we quickly understand why we are late. And with this awareness, permanent force majeure will disappear, and just a choice will arise: go or not go.
Of course, not everything is under our control. But if lateness is the norm for you, then it is no longer a force majeure, but your way of interacting with people. A way in which there is a lot of hidden aggression, and people around them feel it.
And if you're still late, you probably have to look for something else. Maybe it's because of your temperament. Or maybe it's procrastination that's holding you back. Maybe it's time to drop the shackles?
