How to comfort and support people

Why many men do not know how to respond correctly expressions of emotion women? Tears frighten them, cries anger, and prayers leave them indifferent. Are they really that hard and insensitive?

Men don’t support women when they’re really bad because they misread what they’re given. emotional cues. They are held hostage by gender attitudes.



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Emotional manifestations
  1. Tears.
    If a boy is taught from childhood that men do not cry, he will consider tears a manifestation of weakness. Not realizing that power is not about holding back feelings.



    Such men consider women’s tears a manipulative mechanism. Allegedly, it is easier for them to cry, and they do this for the sake of performances, and not because of mental pain.





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  2. Hysterics.
    For men who were taught from childhood that tantrums and breakdowns can only occur in women, since they are supposedly less balanced, and brought up a corresponding attitude to this, this is a burst of naked naked feelings mixed into a tangle. Not knowing how to react to it, they just stand back and wait. Observing tantrums, analyzing the events and actions that led to it, it can be too difficult for them.



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  3. Requests and pleas
    Some men do not take them seriously again because of stereotypes and psycho-emotional closeness. “Women are whiners, they whine about it and for no reason,” is still a common thought in our society.



    DepositPhotos This judgment forces to treat the manifestations of female emotionality skeptically, to consider complaints about health and requests for help bliss.





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What should women do when faced with such men? Go into their language of logic, consistency, validity and argument. Any emotion is accompanied by words, so that the message is understood and worthless.





DepositPhotos If it does not work, you need the help of specialists. Most likely, a person is not only a hostage of stereotypes, but also psycho-emotionally not developed. He needs to learn to understand himself first, in order to understand the same feelings of other people and learn to empathize with them.