How to understand the daughter-in-law that terribly launched the apartment

There are people who will not allow a single speck of dust on the windowsill and walk every day with a wet cloth, rubbing furniture to shine. There are creative people who do not see anything terrible in a dish unwashed in the sink or neatly folded socks under the table. It doesn’t matter if parents are obsessed with cleanliness, whether they have perfect house order or not, they believe that children must be clean. Vera Petrovna is sure that the daughter-in-law does not fulfill the duties of the house, and she insists on the re-education of her son’s wife.



“I wish I hadn’t visited my son so as not to spoil my mood or his. I hate mess. I can't stand sloppy people anymore. What I saw on Saturday put me in a stupor. How can a house be brought to such an extent, is it not disgusting to live in such a bedlam? ?



Home responsibilities My daughter-in-law is not used to cleaning. Every time I go in, I see one picture: she sits in a laptop monitor and says it works. She has no time to clean. I taught my son from an early age to put everything in its place, to clean up toys after a game, to wash the plate with me.



But Nina's not clean at all. She married Vadim 3 years ago. They don't have children, which is probably a good thing, because in such a mess, the baby wouldn't survive. Nina's not ready for that responsibility, so they don't even have animals at home. No one to take care of. Her husband's at work, so she's on her own all day.



I'm already thinking I wasted my apartment on Vadim. Now it's his property, and it's not nice to reproach him. But I've often said that wives don't behave like Nina does. It’s not a business, it doesn’t even prepare anything. They have food delivery packages in their homes all the time. Sushi, pizza.



Nina says she's not up to cleaning, she's busy working. Washing dishes when clean is finished, the same with washing. You can't either! If they lived in a rented apartment, the hostess would have kicked them out long ago. No one will tolerate a mess at home. And I'm asking, humanly, do the cleaning once a week, it'll be cleaner. Does it take that long?



When Vadim talks to Nina about cleaning after our conversations, she throws a tantrum, saying that she is not a laundress or a cleaner. Offers cleaning company to call home. That's a good thing if they don't keep order. Because of laziness to pay strangers every other day? And a lot of them. My son already bought a dishwasher and a robot vacuum cleaner. It's scary to go inside.



It is obvious that Vera Petrovna does not talk to her daughter-in-law, but plays a spoiled phone with her son. Because of this, Vadim and Nina's relationship deteriorates. It is better for spouses to deal with life themselves, without the help of their mother-in-law. Vadim and Nina must share household responsibilities. Because they're both working, they're both tired, and nobody wants to waste their energy cleaning in the evening. That's not surprising. And Vera Petrovna is adding fuel to the fire. What do you think?