The mother-in-law who used to spend the weekend at his son’s kitchen

About the relationship of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can argue forever, but never agree on opinions. For one girl, the mother-in-law becomes the second mother, and for another - a continuous headache. Editorial "Site" I will tell you the story of our reader, whose young daughter-in-law at one point made it clear that mother-in-law does not belong in her house. Let's try to figure out together which side the truth is on.



After my son’s wedding, I often visited them with my daughter-in-law. I tried to make something better. They were happy, my daughter-in-law was the first one to cook. I was glad that my efforts were appreciated. I was very happy to have a warm and sincere relationship with my children.

But one day, when I visited them, there was only a daughter-in-law at home. We started drinking tea. Everything was as usual, except for one thing: I could see that my daughter-in-law was still hesitant to tell me something. After much thought, she asked me. stay away They visit so often. I would rather have my son come visit me. When I heard these words, I noticed a kind of anger in her eyes.



After this conversation, I naturally stopped going to my son. He visited us regularly, but always on his own. His wife never came with him. It made me happy and sad at the same time. I’ve always wanted peace and understanding in my family. And this woman ruined everything with her selfish attitude towards her husband's relatives. As far as I see the situation, nothing depends on me.



We recently had a grandson. The joy of this event is simply limitless. My husband and I tried not to bother our daughter-in-law, so we visited them very rarely and only by invitation. We were always trying to take our grandson for a walk, so as not to be in front of our daughter-in-law for too long. In fact, my husband and I had enough.



But somehow she's for me. I called myself. And she offered to sit with her grandson at their house while she went about her business. The worst part is that she didn’t ask for help, but offered. Like we need it more than she needs it. So she can't step over her pride, apologize for those words, and just keep talking to us in a human way? We were her husband’s parents and raised her well. Have we not earned our basic respect and understanding?

I weighed everything up and told her to bring her grandson to our house, because she herself had forbidden to come to her house again. I explained that I didn’t want to stay in their house for a long time and bother someone. After that, she was a little quiet, but then She agreed to bring her grandson.. We had a wonderful day, we talked a lot with the boy. What a joy to have a small child!



Really, now I'm wondering: How do you deal with your daughter-in-law? Keep paying her the same coin, or be smarter and stop being offended? I'm ready to take the first step for my grandson. But it's not clear if my son's wife will appreciate it or if she needs me at all. ?



What would you do if you were the heroine of this story? Did the daughter-in-law behave correctly in these situations? Boldly share your thoughts in the comments. We wish that there will always be mutual understanding and love in your family!