You shashechki or to go?

scene from the movie "the diamond arm", 1968 directed by Leonid Gaidai

Somehow it happened that over the last few days on blogs and forums that I read, I met a firm, emphatic statement several people. "Everything will be as I want!" — said the people. "I know what I want, and always will.". "I want to meet my love and be sure to meet her!".

It was not an empty phrase and observations — writers actually set a goal (usually from the area of romantic relationships), and even talked about what they are doing to achieve them. One young man is already third year is coming to its goal, with clenched teeth: looking for his one, the one I want to give all my love and tenderness. The theatre Studio visits, the site Dating, here online intimate Dating on the Internet has decided to master... Well, that is not fruitless dreams man running. Plowing so much that smoke comes from nostrils. And here to meet you, sometimes, with some girl, and she's not. No, not even that — NOT THAT. Not that and not that. The age is too big, so if five years reset. It is not sexual — no, everything in it, but the type don't like that. The easiest of provincialism is visible — she's just a fairy, if from the Far East? And looking for, goes through.

This, of course, absolutely exemplary case. But, I think, fairly common trend illustrates. Painful choice between form relations and their contents.

Each of us, I'm sure, have often thought and quite clearly is what you want from a relationship: to love. Me, that that's what it is — loved! Said in the face: "Love, they say!". To support, said: "You'll be fine, you're so good!". He cared, warmed up the dinner for the arrival and came out to meet to the subway. To bring flowers and buy your favorite veal ham with olives. In General, what should be love, support, caring — each well is himself. And, if you meet people who will be happy to give me this love that I want — Yes here it, happiness!

But to meet a very special man and share with him a ham for dinner, you first have to go through all the stages of Dating and courtship. Well, that is, to calculate the. To go with him/her in the movie. To discuss movies, to arrange the next meeting. To come to the next meeting with flowers, walks in the Park, ride on the boat. To spend enough time together. To sleep, to understand what and then approach each other. To meet my friends and meet his/her friends. And relatives to get acquainted. Like friends and especially family. To start to live together. To buy for dinner ham

A lot of steps, a lot. And each of them can go not as planned. I'm not going to stop there — you're watching a romantic Comedy, right? In the world cinema topic "date on which something went wrong" describes almost exhaustively. But it is only in the cute family Comedy heroes, Vilesse out of the pool or describe with remnants of the cake that each other threw, after all, fall in love and decide to stay together forever. In real life if something went wrong, it was on this very stage, all the previous points to burn. And the less two people know each other, the faster and bespovorotno burn these same points.

But, actually, it is a different thing how a man will live well together and how he's skilled in the art of Dating. Moreover, the agile partner weaves a romantic web, the better it is as "an expert on first dates" and worse, as a permanent spouse. In fact, if the partner already gets, why should it separately to charm all this romantic nonsense? Not easier you will have to go directly to the selection stage of the sofa and purchase your favorite ham? Best romantic lovers are always the worst men, this wisdom has long been known.

Therefore, it is important is to ignore the outside, from the wrapper, from form and begin to determine whether another person what is really important. Does he have what we're looking for? Whether this person we love and care about as we need? Here it is to figure out Dating, and not how skillfully chooses other places for leisure and how gallantly takes the coat.

So think what you choose — you have cheap or go?

Author: Elizabeth Pavlova

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Source: psyholog-in-web.ru/2011/08/10/vam-shashechki-ili-exat/