After the departure of my father-in-law, my mother-in-law asks us to “quietly live out the century”, only she is 50 years old, it is too early to buy wreaths.

Many people have faced such life situations when they felt that someone in their inner circle was cheating on them. Yeah, it happens, there's nothing we can do about it. Usually. crook Little kids are trying. Lie, for example, that they can not go to school for health reasons or something like that. It is understandable, they do not have enough life experience. They think that from the side of their pathetic tricks no one will be able to notice.



But when an adult tries to cheat, it already looks a little strange. It's embarrassing. But what can we do in these circumstances? Write an adult by the hand - and communication on this, most likely, will simply stop. What if this person is too important in your life? Or even a relative? The situation, by all means, is a loser. You can, of course, keep quiet and pretend that nothing happened. But in the future it will probably happen again. Sooner or later this issue will have to be resolved. But you need to think carefully before you start any active actions. Otherwise, the situation threatens to get much worse.

My fifty-five-year-old mother-in-law has recently begun to portray herself as an unhappy, abandoned woman. It's like an old woman who's in bad health, who nobody likes, especially her only son and his wife. Me and my husband. Why? My opinion is this: a woman wants attention, care and is just bored. But my husband does not agree with me, and against this background, we began to have more and more conflicts. This has never happened to us before.

Ilona, actually Ilona Andreevna, but she asks to be called by her name, does not know what it means to work. Yes, my father-in-law worked all his life for three: for himself, his wife and his son. Perhaps that’s why he died at such an early age. Nevertheless, he managed to buy a two-bedroom apartment, a car and raised the only child to his feet. We didn’t talk to him much before, but now I know he’s done his job 100%.



His wife, in turn, took care of the house. That’s the only way to think about it, believe me. She never learned to cook, except for a few “duty” dishes. To cleaning refers to the principle of “the main thing is not like in a pigsty”, although I myself do not blame her for this. And the upbringing of the son was also often engaged in the father. That’s probably why I love my husband. I can't stand weak-willed mommy sons.

But now that Elona is alone, she seems to be feeling lonely. And she's taken fashion from time to time to pretend. To pretend that she is very ill, can neither eat nor drink and other various tricks. I called my son and told him that I had broken my leg. He has to come. It turned out that her leg was fine, not even a bruise. But it just hurts "terrible." There were stories like this one a week. Maybe more. It feels like she's starting to crook.

Eventually, my mother-in-law asked me to come home with my husband. My apartment. Yeah, we have two rooms, too. Three seats would be enough. But I'm sorry. Two married people who love each other need a separate living space for a reason. We live in it, we have our own order, atmosphere and so on. Who we really don't want here is a grown woman who thinks she's owed everything.



So my husband and I started fighting. He really wanted his mom to move in with us, and I was totally against it. Just think, Ilona no joke offered the following scheme: we invite her to her house, and she rents out her apartment. And since her pension is meager, all the money received from the change goes completely into her pocket. I have to cook, wash, etc. on the list. We're related.

I'm tired of making more and more arguments against Elona moving in. My husband says, ‘As long as we don’t have kids, can’t we make some room?’ To which I answer that under such conditions it will be extremely difficult for them to ever appear. But the husband doesn't understand. He thinks things will somehow resolve themselves. I'll work during the day and serve them with my mom in the evening. I don't have anything to do, do I?



Peels I already noticed that she tries not to talk to me. Apparently, I realized that the dialogue she needs will not be between us. So I started pushing my son. Accuse him of betrayal, dislike his mother. I don't think you'll be violently nice. But that's not even our situation. My husband, if he had, would have brought her here long ago. Or move in with her. I know for sure, and that worries me...

And now he's got a new delusional fix. He wants to get a loan from the bank and change my apartment for a three-bedroom apartment. At least without repair. It got to the point that the husband directly says: if I am worried that I will lose the rights to my own living space, then he is ready to rewrite everything in my name. Whatever happens. Even if we get divorced, the new three-bedroom apartment will be completely behind me. By law. If only his mother lived with us and did not suffer alone.



Peels naturally does not suit me on many points. He can't understand that his grown-up and hopefully not stupid wife doesn't want to live with anyone else. It just doesn't fit in his head! “Why did you communicate so well that it changed?” I don’t understand that long-distance communication is one thing and living together is another.

By the way, over the days I began to notice that this whole situation had changed my attitude towards my husband. He loves his mother so much that it makes me feel bad. A man must love his wife more than anything. Then the kids. And only then parents, brothers and sisters. I have always had this worldview, is and will be. But now I have looked at him with different eyes and, unfortunately, have drawn some conclusions for myself.



If this continues, I'm afraid nothing good will come of it. In addition to feelings, only the stamp in the passport holds us back. How long can I keep my inner warmth to my husband? Under such conditions, I'm not sure. I don't see any improvement. I don't want to cheat. I'll probably have to tell him about my thoughts before it's too late. Maybe at least it'll sober him up. Otherwise we will have a big problem in our marriage.