My father-in-law bought his own house, but he is in no hurry to leave us.

The question of where older parents will live is often a problem. Adult children want to live separately and arrange their life, and their parents, in turn, want to be closer and afraid to be alone. There is a similar situation in our history today. Editorial "Site" He will tell you about the house of the father-in-law, in which he is not in a hurry to move.



My father-in-law's house suddenly passed away 10 years ago. And his father was left alone in a three-bedroom apartment. At the same time, his older brother lived with his family in a rented apartment. Then the question arose about how to sell the apartment of the parents, and divide the money into three. We were living in an apartment that my parents had bought me.



All three, my husband, his brother and father, were registered in the apartment they sold. The older brother and his wife immediately bought themselves one and registered there. And my husband and father-in-law have registered with me. My husband and I agreed that it was temporary. Soon he was going to buy a separate apartment and register there.



But time passed, and the father-in-law did not intend to buy an apartment. It was not like that: this dear, this far away, this layout is unfortunate. So he spent a year looking for a place to live. But I did not find anything, and the prices had to jump. So he stayed with us. We somehow came to terms with it. We were young and only had a daughter. It wasn't until we found out.



Eternal tenant But since then, 10 years have passed, and the father-in-law is not going anywhere. Now I realize he planned it and just fooled me. All these years he has not invested a penny in life. We pay all the bills for the utility, cleaning and cooking are on me. He always repeats that he is only registered here, so he does not have to pay.

He spends his money solely on himself. He never congratulated us on any holiday, only gave my daughter a chocolate for her birthday. We always congratulate him and give him gifts. And somehow it dawned on me that he had just secured a quiet old age and had acquired a nurse in the form of me in advance. But I don't want to live like that, I didn't sign up for that.



My husband and I have been saving for a new car for years. But I took care of a small house outside the city and suggested that my husband buy it for my father. The house is not new, but in good condition. We consulted and bought. They brought it to God’s face, made a little repair. The father-in-law's house is ready, but he's in no hurry to move out.

I know his plan is falling apart, but I will keep pushing. My husband supports me, and he wanted to live without his father’s constant comments on anything. The father-in-law's last excuse was that the bathroom repairs weren't finished yet, but we were almost done. So soon there will be no excuses.



I sometimes feel bad that I insist on him moving. But who would think of me and my interests if not me? Moreover, no one is going to leave him there to his fate. We will come and help with money, but there will be no more full content. I think I'm doing the right thing.



The situation of a woman is quite understandable and not new. We understand perfectly well why she wanted her father-in-law to move out. I want to live without parental supervision. Secondly, why should it provide for a person who does not want to invest in the family? So you can't judge her.

However, the position of the father-in-law is quite clear to us. He was left without a wife who was a companion of his life. If he moves, he will live alone. It is difficult to accept this in old age. So we sympathize with him, too. And do you think that the daughter-in-law who wants to evict her father-in-law from the apartment is right?