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I hate it when a rich friend comes to visit, although we communicate on the phone.
It is always nice to see an old friend after a long break. Especially if you’ve known someone for many years, if you have something to remember. And just want to talk about life, share plans.
However, it also happens that relations between people remain good, they communicate without problems on social networks or occasionally call, but do not want to see each other. And such meetings do not bring them pleasure. Why is this happening?
Today's edition. "Site" She will share the story of a woman who doesn’t like to have an old friend visit her. But the problem is not that the guest behaves badly or does not bring gifts. No, it's not that. Just richie It reminds her of how many opportunities she missed. I don't think he'll have time to catch up.
We have known Anya since the first years of childhood, our age, grew up in the same village. Our families were about equal, small income. But although we started in about the same conditions, our lives have developed differently, writes 45-year-old Taisiya.
“Anya has always been determined, always knowing what she wants and what she doesn’t like. I wasn't afraid to take risks. She didn't want to stay in our village, she didn't want to get a farm. I tried to get into town. There she married, gave birth to a child.
“It is true that neither her friend nor her husband was doing well. So they were not afraid to abandon everything, leave the child on grandparents, and went to Poland. At first, they just wanted to earn money for a living, to buy their own home, they planned to return soon.”
“I remember how Anya wrote that it was difficult for them, complained more than once. But then somehow settled down, made the necessary acquaintances, began to earn more. And then they took their son to themselves, and there they arranged for study. And they bought an apartment there. And the car has not changed one.
“Now Anya, when she comes to her parents in the village, brings a whole mountain of gifts, all kinds of good. Showing off his life. And they bought it, and they were there, and they got it, and they respected it. And their friends have a pond...
Should I be jealous? “We have nothing to brag about. As we lived in the village, so we live. My husband works for a local businessman. Then on the tractor, then on the combine, then repairs something, then on the construction site, or even just loading and unloading is engaged. I got a job with a local farmer. Children study in the city, they have to help. So we live on the salary.
“Of course, when Anya visits her parents and comes to see me, I try to give her a good treat. But no matter how hard you try, it's not even close to what she's used to eating. Every time I find it more and more awkward to treat her at all, although she is always polite, pleasant in communication.”
“A friend always looks good: beautifully dressed, with makeup, with hair. And we may be one year old, but she looks 10 years younger, no less. Yeah, we talk nicely, we sit nicely. But when we say goodbye and she leaves, I feel a kind of emptiness.”
“Then I wonder for a long time why she succeeded and I did not. I also want to get out of our swamp somewhere. But scary. Isn't it too late? I'm 45, my husband's 48. I would like to ask a friend for advice, but it is inconvenient. Is it really worth taking the risk and going? muses Taisia.
It is hardly necessary to envy Ana, who achieved everything with determination, work and perseverance. What a rich friend has now, did not fall on her from the sky, she earned it, and therefore deserved it. You can only be glad that the loved one is fine.
And whether Taisia herself should change anything in her life, only she knows the answer to this question. This is her life, and for the consequences of her decisions only she will have to bear responsibility.
However, it also happens that relations between people remain good, they communicate without problems on social networks or occasionally call, but do not want to see each other. And such meetings do not bring them pleasure. Why is this happening?
Today's edition. "Site" She will share the story of a woman who doesn’t like to have an old friend visit her. But the problem is not that the guest behaves badly or does not bring gifts. No, it's not that. Just richie It reminds her of how many opportunities she missed. I don't think he'll have time to catch up.
We have known Anya since the first years of childhood, our age, grew up in the same village. Our families were about equal, small income. But although we started in about the same conditions, our lives have developed differently, writes 45-year-old Taisiya.
“Anya has always been determined, always knowing what she wants and what she doesn’t like. I wasn't afraid to take risks. She didn't want to stay in our village, she didn't want to get a farm. I tried to get into town. There she married, gave birth to a child.
“It is true that neither her friend nor her husband was doing well. So they were not afraid to abandon everything, leave the child on grandparents, and went to Poland. At first, they just wanted to earn money for a living, to buy their own home, they planned to return soon.”
“I remember how Anya wrote that it was difficult for them, complained more than once. But then somehow settled down, made the necessary acquaintances, began to earn more. And then they took their son to themselves, and there they arranged for study. And they bought an apartment there. And the car has not changed one.
“Now Anya, when she comes to her parents in the village, brings a whole mountain of gifts, all kinds of good. Showing off his life. And they bought it, and they were there, and they got it, and they respected it. And their friends have a pond...
Should I be jealous? “We have nothing to brag about. As we lived in the village, so we live. My husband works for a local businessman. Then on the tractor, then on the combine, then repairs something, then on the construction site, or even just loading and unloading is engaged. I got a job with a local farmer. Children study in the city, they have to help. So we live on the salary.
“Of course, when Anya visits her parents and comes to see me, I try to give her a good treat. But no matter how hard you try, it's not even close to what she's used to eating. Every time I find it more and more awkward to treat her at all, although she is always polite, pleasant in communication.”
“A friend always looks good: beautifully dressed, with makeup, with hair. And we may be one year old, but she looks 10 years younger, no less. Yeah, we talk nicely, we sit nicely. But when we say goodbye and she leaves, I feel a kind of emptiness.”
“Then I wonder for a long time why she succeeded and I did not. I also want to get out of our swamp somewhere. But scary. Isn't it too late? I'm 45, my husband's 48. I would like to ask a friend for advice, but it is inconvenient. Is it really worth taking the risk and going? muses Taisia.
It is hardly necessary to envy Ana, who achieved everything with determination, work and perseverance. What a rich friend has now, did not fall on her from the sky, she earned it, and therefore deserved it. You can only be glad that the loved one is fine.
And whether Taisia herself should change anything in her life, only she knows the answer to this question. This is her life, and for the consequences of her decisions only she will have to bear responsibility.
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