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“I am a doctor, so I will let my child die.” Dr. Alexeyeva's terrible advice stirred the Net.
Each of us is afraid of death, and not only his own, but also the death of loved ones. Between receiving the news of an incurable disease and the last breath usually lies a more or less long period of time, which both patients and their relatives live in different ways: the remaining years, months or weeks, the unfortunate can spend trying to seize life in all possible ways, or simply accept his fate, surrounded by the support and care of loved ones.
"Site" She shares with you a candid post by the doctor Margarita Alexeyeva, who speaks sensibly about seriously ill and dying patients. And although this topic is not easy and everyone decides for himself, we are convinced that her opinion has the right to exist.
Studying at the university, I never ceased to wonder how many diseases and troubles happen to a person, and it is amazing how with so many misfortunes a human being manages to live to his years, and even to give birth to healthy children.
Everyone who reads this is damn lucky. But there is another category of inhabitants, quite numerous, which is much less fortunate - they suffer. from terrible and incurable ailmentsThose who were born into the womb of their mother, after birth or at a more mature age.
There are those who are more fortunate and those who are less fortunate. There is one who is fully aware of his incurability, goes through all stages of grief and dying, and finally dies painfully. Such a man, strangely enough, was lucky.
But there are others who are much less fortunate and with whom we come across from time to time: from a TV screen, a poster on public transport or in the feed of a social network, their sad and full pleas of eyes look at us.
Of course, most of them are innocent children, and they hardly understand what is happening to them. But their parents, aunts and grandmothers understand this. “Little Alinochka with stage 4 neuroblastoma with germination everywhere urgently needs surgery in Israel.” “Let’s help Dima with a malignant brainstem tumor to undergo treatment in Switzerland.”
Different people, different families, similar diagnoses. The outcome is always the same.. Relatives go through the same stages of grief and dying as the dying. And what we see is the third of five.
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I might have gone through the same stages as them. I would sell my apartment, put up fundraising boxes in big shopping malls, write tearful posts about the frenzied thousands of euros that the only clinic in southern Germany agreed to treat us for. I happen to be a doctor.
And as a doctor, I understand very well that advanced cancer is a sentence. And they die from it everywhere: in Russia, in the United States, and in Tel Aviv. End-stage cancer is always death, always pain and always suffering. And I truly feel sorry for those who harbor the illusion that in Israel death will suddenly cease to be death.
The terminal stages of diseases are markers of the near completion of the earth’s path. Every doctor in every corner of the world understands this. And if dying-patient Suddenly he was invited for treatment somewhere behind a bump, it is only because grief and hope are two comrades who have always been a great business. The best thing you can do for a dying loved one is to let them die.
Blinded by an almost non-existent chance, people forget that their seriously ill loved one will die and they will have to move on. Where to live if the house is sold in the name of a clinic in Switzerland?
What to live on if for the next ten or twenty years they have to work only on the payment of debts? You can't think about it. Do they want their loved ones to die like this?
All you can do is be there while your loved ones die. All you need to spend money on is adequate pain relief. Take a dying child to the sea, order a concert of her favorite music for a dying mother, fulfill dreams that you can fulfill.
Let the dying see you, though unhappy, but not beyond ruin. Let them know that they are not leaving you in the most difficult situation. And for God's sake, let them die. This right is as inviolable as the right to life.”
Those who have never experienced such a situation are hardly allowed to judge and give advice. But maybe it’s not worth turning the last years, months, or even weeks of a dying person’s life into a living hell and experience.
Help the patient live everything. dying-stage With a proudly raised head, let the last moments be joyful and full of love, despite the tricks of merciless fate. We will all meet again someday, but in a different world.
Be sure to share your opinion on this article in the comments.
"Site" She shares with you a candid post by the doctor Margarita Alexeyeva, who speaks sensibly about seriously ill and dying patients. And although this topic is not easy and everyone decides for himself, we are convinced that her opinion has the right to exist.
Studying at the university, I never ceased to wonder how many diseases and troubles happen to a person, and it is amazing how with so many misfortunes a human being manages to live to his years, and even to give birth to healthy children.
Everyone who reads this is damn lucky. But there is another category of inhabitants, quite numerous, which is much less fortunate - they suffer. from terrible and incurable ailmentsThose who were born into the womb of their mother, after birth or at a more mature age.
There are those who are more fortunate and those who are less fortunate. There is one who is fully aware of his incurability, goes through all stages of grief and dying, and finally dies painfully. Such a man, strangely enough, was lucky.
But there are others who are much less fortunate and with whom we come across from time to time: from a TV screen, a poster on public transport or in the feed of a social network, their sad and full pleas of eyes look at us.
Of course, most of them are innocent children, and they hardly understand what is happening to them. But their parents, aunts and grandmothers understand this. “Little Alinochka with stage 4 neuroblastoma with germination everywhere urgently needs surgery in Israel.” “Let’s help Dima with a malignant brainstem tumor to undergo treatment in Switzerland.”
Different people, different families, similar diagnoses. The outcome is always the same.. Relatives go through the same stages of grief and dying as the dying. And what we see is the third of five.
734810
I might have gone through the same stages as them. I would sell my apartment, put up fundraising boxes in big shopping malls, write tearful posts about the frenzied thousands of euros that the only clinic in southern Germany agreed to treat us for. I happen to be a doctor.
And as a doctor, I understand very well that advanced cancer is a sentence. And they die from it everywhere: in Russia, in the United States, and in Tel Aviv. End-stage cancer is always death, always pain and always suffering. And I truly feel sorry for those who harbor the illusion that in Israel death will suddenly cease to be death.
The terminal stages of diseases are markers of the near completion of the earth’s path. Every doctor in every corner of the world understands this. And if dying-patient Suddenly he was invited for treatment somewhere behind a bump, it is only because grief and hope are two comrades who have always been a great business. The best thing you can do for a dying loved one is to let them die.
Blinded by an almost non-existent chance, people forget that their seriously ill loved one will die and they will have to move on. Where to live if the house is sold in the name of a clinic in Switzerland?
What to live on if for the next ten or twenty years they have to work only on the payment of debts? You can't think about it. Do they want their loved ones to die like this?
All you can do is be there while your loved ones die. All you need to spend money on is adequate pain relief. Take a dying child to the sea, order a concert of her favorite music for a dying mother, fulfill dreams that you can fulfill.
Let the dying see you, though unhappy, but not beyond ruin. Let them know that they are not leaving you in the most difficult situation. And for God's sake, let them die. This right is as inviolable as the right to life.”
Those who have never experienced such a situation are hardly allowed to judge and give advice. But maybe it’s not worth turning the last years, months, or even weeks of a dying person’s life into a living hell and experience.
Help the patient live everything. dying-stage With a proudly raised head, let the last moments be joyful and full of love, despite the tricks of merciless fate. We will all meet again someday, but in a different world.
Be sure to share your opinion on this article in the comments.
