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How to Become a Happy Person
For some, memories of the Soviet Union carry nostalgia and warmth. Some, on the contrary, recall the events of the recent past with quiet horror. In any case, the specific Soviet It has left an indelible imprint on the way of life and outlook of many of our citizens.
The way of life, formed by a total deficit and the need to twist, has become an invaluable educational moment. Some of the habits acquired then can be considered useful today. But a significant part of them still have to get rid of – in the modern world they look out of place and wild.
Change little by little. Start with the little things, they help avoid instant major stress. Remember, you are the only one whose life really matters to you.
The way of life, formed by a total deficit and the need to twist, has become an invaluable educational moment. Some of the habits acquired then can be considered useful today. But a significant part of them still have to get rid of – in the modern world they look out of place and wild.
- It's best to leave it for later.
A cracked unwashed cup is for every day, and the front set is yearning and dusting in the sideboard. Elegant clothes and good shoes are postponed until the holiday: you can go to work in the old one. And the elbow patches are a sign of merit.
In the lives of such people there is no place for celebration. They exist dull and gray, saving to better days what should have served yesterday. And for some reason, the best days don't come. - Carrying anything that's bad.
To appropriate things that do not belong to you, or to demolish everything in a row - the lot of meager and beggars. Even if you really want to, even if you are sure that this packet of paper will be better left on the shelf, do not collect more than you can use. The habit that caused pride and tenderness in times of scarcity (the beautiful hostess!) can now only irritate and perplex people. You don't want to be known as Plushkin, do you?
- Keep everything, even the unnecessary.
Admit it, do you have an empty jar warehouse at home? And the bag? And the things with the holes left just in case? The list goes on. It will include: ski without a pair, skates twenty years ago, illuminated films, unused cosmetics, faulty toys, stacks of magazines ...
Trust me, you don't need this crap at all! Yeah, junk. Yeah, we gotta get rid of it. The whole world is far ahead, come out of forgotten times.
- Eat everything, even the spoiled.
Two more days, and a shrivelled peach on the table will reach for you. But this is nothing, you can cut the mold, put the peach in the refrigerator and extend the shelf life for another couple of days - suddenly you decide to eat oatmeal with fruit in the morning.
No, not again! Yes, we were brought up in a country where it was not customary to play with food, and throwing away bread is a sin – blockades and crop failures remained behind. But now in the city, food is enough for many, and putting the health of the intestines at risk simply does not make sense. The day before yesterday will not be fresh even in the freezer. - Living with an eye on others
A real horror. A large proportion of the adult population is unhappy and pinched simply because they are constantly struggling. fearful. People are afraid that they will be looked at, will not understand. But the habit of paying attention to strangers and listening to the opinion that she herself came up with, instilled in us from early childhood!
Parents tame their children. Don't go there - the uncle will scold, then don't touch - the aunt will be angry. And we walk with our heads down, constantly caring about the opinions of strangers. Outsiders! Stranger people! You see most of them for the first and last time in your life.
This habit is the hardest. An adult, formed person simply does not change in one day. But squash You can and should. And after a while, life will be much better.
It is impossible to live without looking at society. But you should understand, to feel the line beyond which you no longer just adhere to the norms of decency, but rather voluntarily infringe on your freedoms. - Inability to accept compliments
This problem mainly affects the female population. Praise - embarrassed, made a compliment - you refuse. Nice bag? So she's old. Nice haircut? Look, it's crooked again.
Unsure of herself, her beauty and her merits, a woman leads a boring and sad life. She does not know how to present herself beautifully, dresses up only on holidays and, most importantly, does not know how to make compliments.
Learn to answer well. You're a grown man! Thank you, that's the most appropriate answer. Give me a heartfelt compliment. Celebrate something new, something beautiful, praise a pleasant smile and a glorious character.
Change little by little. Start with the little things, they help avoid instant major stress. Remember, you are the only one whose life really matters to you.