Should you control your children if you give them a lot of money?

It is a shame when a husband puts not his wife but his mother first. And you seem to live together, but it feels like you're in your own house. superwoman. There's nothing we can do about it.



How to continue to create a family, how to continue to trust your soul mate and not get a nervous seizure? It's not easy, of course. Here is our reader and decided to share her situation with others. Perhaps someone has faced a similar situation and will share some thoughts about it.

I have made two huge mistakes in my life. And the first one is my marriage. It started out really well. There were walks under the moon, candy and bouquet period, passion and love. It happened.

Then, as we began to look closer together, I noticed what an unfitting cavalier I had. He is not adapted to adult life. He couldn't cook with words at all. He used to surprise me in the evening and make pasta. In fact, it was a lump of stuck pasta with some incredible gravy, the smell of which we seemed to peel off the wallpaper.



In other everyday matters, too, everything was not very smooth. These "male" things, you know: nailing the shelf, fixing the socket - everything is past. He didn't even manage the leak in the kitchen right away when we had the flood. I had to call the master. Sorry, I understand that a man should not be able to do everything in the world if you have the opportunity to call a professional. But the sediment... He's here.

For the wedding, my parents gave us a good amount of money, which was saved for a very long time. Unfortunately, the apartment was not enough and it was decided to turn to some alternative options. And that was my second mistake. I agreed to live in my mother-in-law's house. We spent the donated money on repairs in her apartment.



Two rooms, excellent (fresh) renovation, furniture and modern appliances. Tight, but you can't do anything for your family. And everything was fine at first. My mother-in-law, she's, you know, a typical grandmother in a tea commercial. Watches TV, knits constantly, wears glasses on his nose and smiles a lot.

She also treats her only son like a five-year-old. Cooking, laundry, cleaning - all this was on her when they lived together. Now I came and these duties fell on my rather fragile shoulders.

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Unfortunately, I noticed another change. My husband this time. He turned from a passionate young man into a mother's son. Now our evening walks have turned into sitting in front of the TV. Three. I’m not even talking about the fact that all clothing purchases were first consulted with my mother. And then the decision was made.

Anyway, I was like a fifth wheel. And I'm still there, whatever. Yes, my man goes to work and brings money. He's not yelling at me, no negativity. I even provoked him a couple of times when we were alone. No, in that respect, he remained very good.



But why should I have a husband as a pet? I want a man to make decisions, look at me and treat me like a woman, not an old friend. His life is about his mother. And I love my parents, too, but everything needs to be measured.

Now I realize that no one will return my money. Everything will remain the same, and even if I file for divorce, I will be left with nothing. Renting an apartment again will be difficult, I would say unforgivably expensive in my case. I can’t be in my mother’s house anymore. A couple of days ago, she argued with her son that he didn't go to bed to shower, you know?



I have spoken to him repeatedly or twice about this. He promised to change and agreed with me on everything. But, as I understand it, it is beyond his capabilities. My conscience will not allow me to even have a lover, education is not the same. I don't know what to do. But you have to do something.