I live with an “advanced” wife, earns a lot of money, but I am no longer happy about it.

Now it is not surprising that a woman provides for a family. Often fathers stay to raise children, and mothers, meanwhile, build a successful career. Only when the wife decides everything in the family, it is not always peaceful and calm. Whatever it was, men want to remain a support in the family and can not reconcile with the new social role of a stay-at-home father. Therefore, they are often pressured psychologically by the success of their spouse.



My wife and I have been together for 13 years. I am 43 years old, Masha will soon be 40 years old. We have three children, one child from Mary’s first marriage, and two were born married to me. In general, we live well, Masha works for a large company and currently provides for a family. I worked before the children were born, and after they arrived, I stayed at home so that Masha could build her career.



Now she's a successful businesswoman, and I'm an unemployed father of many children. I devote all my time to my family, but I can’t do it anymore. There has been no intimate relationship with his wife for a long time. We hardly fight, but I can feel how my relationship with my wife has changed. I don’t know what to do, divorce is not an option, the children are still small, says Oleg.



Psychologist Inna Khamitova says that the family is a common affair of spouses. You can’t share the merits and blame each other for playing different roles in the family. Men tend to be a hero-winner, a earner in the family. But there is nothing wrong with the fact that this duty is performed by the wife.



The fact that Oleg does not believe that the promotion of his wife and her success at work is his merit. After all, while his wife was making a career, Oleg took care of their children and kept order in the house. This is a great contribution to the family, but Oleg does not consider caring for children a man’s business. Perhaps his wife accuses him of staying at home instead of making money.



It is important for both spouses to understand that they are doing what they can for the good of the family. A trip to a psychologist or a simple heart-to-heart conversation can save the situation. Romance in relationships is often lost due to the undivided views of people. Masha should understand that without the support of her husband, she could not achieve those heights at work, and instead she could sit at home and take care of children.



We all have ambitions and desires to achieve something in life. Sometimes changing social roles can be confusing, there is nothing wrong with that. You need to learn how to find a way out of a new situation. When a person learns to adapt to new circumstances, no stereotypes and doubts will prevent him from finding happiness.