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With God's help, I'm going to talk to my daughter-in-law.
What to do if your daughter-in-law is an overbearing woman and her son tearfully asks for help to find control over her? It was with this question that Galina Timofeevna from Tyumen addressed us.
How about trying to figure things out and find the best solution together?
Last weekend, her son, Seryozha, suddenly visited. Usually he rarely comes, often I come to his house to see my grandchildren.
Then I immediately noticed that Seryozhenka is kind of agitated and drooping. I started asking what happened. He didn’t deny it, he told me everything.
“Mom, Irina has changed completely over the past six months. Remember how she used to be? Affectionate, kind, compliant... And now it is as if in her place a completely stranger. She constantly arranges scandals, began to communicate with me as a subordinate, not her husband. Children are also raised. I don’t know how it started, but how to get everything back to normal and do not understand.
My son and I stayed up late at night. Mostly he spoke, and I just listened and could not believe his words.
To be honest, I didn’t want to interfere in my son’s family affairs. But he was really upset. So farewell, I promised to talk to Irochka. It'll clear up. She doesn't have a mother, and we always got along. Maybe it's all my fault, my son.
The following Sunday, as promised, I visited the children. As soon as I entered the house, I felt a tense situation. How did I not notice anything before? After all, only a couple of weeks ago I came and was still fine, and then, it turns out, for six months something is wrong.
To tell you the truth, at first I didn't know where to start a conversation with my daughter-in-law. And then I decided that it would be best to give her everything in the form of a story about an old friend. She said that her husband allegedly left this friend because she suddenly became too demanding and irritable.
Ira merely gushed and replied that the friend would only be better off. If a man is a rag, according to her, then there is nothing to spend on such time.
So I went home with a heavy heart. Maybe I should have asked my daughter-in-law what was going on, rather than beating around. What can I do now to help my son?
Editorial Board The situation is quite difficult. It is impossible to fully understand how to resolve a conflict without knowing the cause. But one thing is certain. The fact that our heroine did not want to interfere in the relationship of his son and daughter-in-law, she was absolutely right.
The fact that all family issues and problems should be solved exclusively between spouses has been repeatedly proven by psychologists around the world. I think the only correct solution in this case is to insist that the son muster his will in a fist and speak honestly with his wife. Often, a woman lacks the banal male attention to feel good and maintain harmonious relationships in the family. It is possible that this case is no exception.
What do you think about that? What advice would you give our heroine?
How about trying to figure things out and find the best solution together?
Last weekend, her son, Seryozha, suddenly visited. Usually he rarely comes, often I come to his house to see my grandchildren.
Then I immediately noticed that Seryozhenka is kind of agitated and drooping. I started asking what happened. He didn’t deny it, he told me everything.
“Mom, Irina has changed completely over the past six months. Remember how she used to be? Affectionate, kind, compliant... And now it is as if in her place a completely stranger. She constantly arranges scandals, began to communicate with me as a subordinate, not her husband. Children are also raised. I don’t know how it started, but how to get everything back to normal and do not understand.
My son and I stayed up late at night. Mostly he spoke, and I just listened and could not believe his words.
To be honest, I didn’t want to interfere in my son’s family affairs. But he was really upset. So farewell, I promised to talk to Irochka. It'll clear up. She doesn't have a mother, and we always got along. Maybe it's all my fault, my son.
The following Sunday, as promised, I visited the children. As soon as I entered the house, I felt a tense situation. How did I not notice anything before? After all, only a couple of weeks ago I came and was still fine, and then, it turns out, for six months something is wrong.
To tell you the truth, at first I didn't know where to start a conversation with my daughter-in-law. And then I decided that it would be best to give her everything in the form of a story about an old friend. She said that her husband allegedly left this friend because she suddenly became too demanding and irritable.
Ira merely gushed and replied that the friend would only be better off. If a man is a rag, according to her, then there is nothing to spend on such time.
So I went home with a heavy heart. Maybe I should have asked my daughter-in-law what was going on, rather than beating around. What can I do now to help my son?
Editorial Board The situation is quite difficult. It is impossible to fully understand how to resolve a conflict without knowing the cause. But one thing is certain. The fact that our heroine did not want to interfere in the relationship of his son and daughter-in-law, she was absolutely right.
The fact that all family issues and problems should be solved exclusively between spouses has been repeatedly proven by psychologists around the world. I think the only correct solution in this case is to insist that the son muster his will in a fist and speak honestly with his wife. Often, a woman lacks the banal male attention to feel good and maintain harmonious relationships in the family. It is possible that this case is no exception.
What do you think about that? What advice would you give our heroine?
