Husband resists and does not want to go to work abroad, I can not pull out any forces

What to do if the quarrel with her husband on the basis of financial issues is prolonged and has become cyclical? For a month in a row, Tatiana asks this question and can not find a solution. Let's try to help the girl with advice!

Igor and I have always lived modestly, special luxury in life never knew. When they got married, they went to their parents. My husband said at first that we would stay with them for the first time, and as a result, we are already seven years old.



It's not like it's bad for mother-in-law. They always help, they treat me well. While there were no children, there was nothing to worry about. That’s just next year, my son and daughter to send in the first grade, and we have neither the means nor the conditions for their maintenance. They grow so fast! Soon, separate rooms will be needed, and then how to be without your own home?



I talk to my husband all the time. But as soon as I say that I need to change something, he immediately takes a defensive position and does not even want to listen to me. He says that he will not leave his favorite job, they say, it is the business of his life.



Favorite work is, of course, good, just pay for it pennies. My brother went to Poland several times during this time to work. Then at the construction site, then at the factory he will work, and he did not spend money, he put everything aside to a penny to save for an apartment.



But now I came and bought an apartment and a car. That's what I understand - a man! I asked my faithful to take with me every time, my brother did not mind, and my husband only refused. He said, “I’m not going to kill myself for pennies.” And while I'm on the road, you'll find someone else, and the kids will forget what their father looks like.



So we sit penniless in our pockets and with no prospects. I’m so tired of fighting that I don’t even want to bring it up again. I literally know what he will tell me...



What advice would you give our heroine? Do you think this couple can come to a compromise? We will be glad to know what you think about this from the comments!