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The story of a well-fed spouse who takes cutlets from his wife's plate for educational purposes
Small conflicts in the family seem commonplace. Therefore, many women may not notice how their soul mate resorts to criticism more and more often. Although abuser You can recognize in advance to prevent the manipulator from playing on your emotions and controlling you.
Today's edition. "Site" She wants to share the story of a woman who became fat after giving birth. My husband didn’t like it, so he reminded her. Can such a relationship be considered abusive?
In 6 years of married life I gave birth to three. Today Artem is 5 years old, Masha 3, and the younger Lesha is only half a year old. Being a mother of many children is not easy. So it’s no surprise that I don’t have time for anything, writes Oksana, 36.
“I was in my 30s when Sasha and I met. All my girlfriends were already married, and I still couldn't find a mate. Work, home, work again. And here he is, tall, handsome, former athlete, head of department. I didn't think he'd like me. I realized that everything was serious only when he met his mother. The mother is not known to anyone.
“My mother-in-law turned out to be the sweetest woman. She immediately told Sasha that I was a nice girl, and pushed him to get married. We really got married soon. And then Artem showed up, I stopped working. Since then, I have only moved from decree to decree.”
“I don’t send my elders to kindergarten, because I’m home anyway. Artem to dance and to draw. I'm still working with Mary. But the kids have plenty of communication. I feel like a very worthy mother.
“The problem came from the other side. I gained weight after giving birth and weighed under 80. Although it used to be like a cane, it weighed 49. I went to the gym at least twice a week. And now there's no way with three kids. If you try to study at home, they stick around, hang in their arms. Sometimes I don’t feel good enough to exercise.”
“My husband at first jokingly called me both a bear and a dancer. Said it even suited me to be so round. And then I stopped joking. He no longer likes my weight.”
Who needs to eat less? “Last Friday we had lunch with my husband at the table. I put three patties on my plate and he got angry. He took two of them and told me it was time to lose weight. And then he added that if he liked the other one, it would be my fault, not his. Can you imagine? ?
“I felt very uncomfortable, even though I knew it was my fault. I would like to run around salons and manicures with pedicures to do. Or at least a massage. But there is no time or money for such pleasure. I make masks at home, that's all.”
A husband earns well, but you need to dress the children, and pay for mugs, and rent, and loans. And Sasha needs to dress well to look representative. He's the boss, after all. And we help mother-in-law. There is almost no money left for me.””
“Although I cannot choose clothes now. After those 49kgs, everything I try makes me feel like an elephant. I have already lost faith that I can become the same as before. All hopes are only for the mother-in-law that she will not allow her husband to leave the family, the woman complains.
In this situation outrage, who, having taken care of children on his wife, mocks her problems and blackmails her by leaving for another woman.
Shouldn't the head of the family show more care and respect in this situation? You can send the children to kindergarten so that the wife has more time to take care of herself. Mockery, reproaches and blackmail are not exactly the kind of help that should be given to a loved one.
On the other hand, a woman should think more about herself. Children and their development are very important. But you can't forget about yourself either. If you feel uncomfortable at your weight, you should do something about it. Don't let things take their course. Isn't that right?
Today's edition. "Site" She wants to share the story of a woman who became fat after giving birth. My husband didn’t like it, so he reminded her. Can such a relationship be considered abusive?
In 6 years of married life I gave birth to three. Today Artem is 5 years old, Masha 3, and the younger Lesha is only half a year old. Being a mother of many children is not easy. So it’s no surprise that I don’t have time for anything, writes Oksana, 36.
“I was in my 30s when Sasha and I met. All my girlfriends were already married, and I still couldn't find a mate. Work, home, work again. And here he is, tall, handsome, former athlete, head of department. I didn't think he'd like me. I realized that everything was serious only when he met his mother. The mother is not known to anyone.
“My mother-in-law turned out to be the sweetest woman. She immediately told Sasha that I was a nice girl, and pushed him to get married. We really got married soon. And then Artem showed up, I stopped working. Since then, I have only moved from decree to decree.”
“I don’t send my elders to kindergarten, because I’m home anyway. Artem to dance and to draw. I'm still working with Mary. But the kids have plenty of communication. I feel like a very worthy mother.
“The problem came from the other side. I gained weight after giving birth and weighed under 80. Although it used to be like a cane, it weighed 49. I went to the gym at least twice a week. And now there's no way with three kids. If you try to study at home, they stick around, hang in their arms. Sometimes I don’t feel good enough to exercise.”
“My husband at first jokingly called me both a bear and a dancer. Said it even suited me to be so round. And then I stopped joking. He no longer likes my weight.”
Who needs to eat less? “Last Friday we had lunch with my husband at the table. I put three patties on my plate and he got angry. He took two of them and told me it was time to lose weight. And then he added that if he liked the other one, it would be my fault, not his. Can you imagine? ?
“I felt very uncomfortable, even though I knew it was my fault. I would like to run around salons and manicures with pedicures to do. Or at least a massage. But there is no time or money for such pleasure. I make masks at home, that's all.”
A husband earns well, but you need to dress the children, and pay for mugs, and rent, and loans. And Sasha needs to dress well to look representative. He's the boss, after all. And we help mother-in-law. There is almost no money left for me.””
“Although I cannot choose clothes now. After those 49kgs, everything I try makes me feel like an elephant. I have already lost faith that I can become the same as before. All hopes are only for the mother-in-law that she will not allow her husband to leave the family, the woman complains.
In this situation outrage, who, having taken care of children on his wife, mocks her problems and blackmails her by leaving for another woman.
Shouldn't the head of the family show more care and respect in this situation? You can send the children to kindergarten so that the wife has more time to take care of herself. Mockery, reproaches and blackmail are not exactly the kind of help that should be given to a loved one.
On the other hand, a woman should think more about herself. Children and their development are very important. But you can't forget about yourself either. If you feel uncomfortable at your weight, you should do something about it. Don't let things take their course. Isn't that right?
Salad with toasted beets, from the second plate of which no one will refuse
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