What to do if the daughter-in-law installs a separate refrigerator in the house of the mother-in-law

When a young family is forced to live under the same roof as older relatives, it often leads to conflict. And even normal-family relations They can completely deteriorate if everyone has to huddle in a small space and, as they say, callouse each other’s eyes.

Today's edition. "Site" will share the story of our subscriber, who is forced to live with her husband and a small child not for the first year on the territory of her mother-in-law. And although the relationship between women is quite good, but they can not avoid stupid conflicts.



With Marina Yurievna under one roof we live for the fourth year. Apart from my mother-in-law and my husband, there's only a two-year-old daughter. There is no prospect of going anywhere yet. My husband's salary isn't too high. And even if I go to work, the librarian's salary won't do the weather. Therefore, we live together and enjoy what we have, writes Oksana.



“Of course, such a life is not sugar. Marina Yurievna is a woman, although not bad, but with character. Sometimes we fight, and for a long time. But try not to. We are in the same territory every day from morning to evening.

“But there are pluses. If you need to go somewhere, go to the store or pharmacy, then there is always someone with a child to leave. Although I try not to abuse the help of my mother-in-law.”



And yet disputes on domestic soil we regularly happen: then the dishes were not washed immediately, then the stove was soiled and not removed, then something was eaten from the refrigerator that should have been left...

“It’s like a trifle and stupidity, and as I remember how many remarks I heard from my mother-in-law about this, I want to run from here. But there's nowhere to run. She had to split the refrigerator and eat separately. So everyone would wash their own dishes, and no one would take “foreign” products.



The mother-in-law does not like such rules "But the mother-in-law is against it." She says that even in her youth, when she lived in a dormitory (6 people in a room), they did not even divide between their own and someone else’s.

" How's that gonna work? That you cannot eat my soup? Someone eats caviar, and someone will have to live on pasta alone? How do you explain to a two-year-old that this banana is “alien” and cannot be eaten? What nonsense! – outraged Marina Yurievna. But on occasion, it will not fail to remind us that we are actually in her apartment, so we must listen to all the complaints.”



“On the other hand, my mother-in-law lives in our city all her life and is well versed in prices. She always buys products at a good price, goes to different markets. They buy something in some stores and something in others. Its savings can only be envied.”

“When I need sausages and milk, I will buy them near my house and I don’t go all over the city. You won’t leave your baby with your grandmother for long. It turns out that separate food is not very suitable for us.”

Of course, Marina Yurievna says that joint dinners only bring the family closer together. But in our case, this is where arguments and quarrels begin. I offer my husband to move to a rented apartment, but he refuses. There is not enough money, and the mother does not want to leave alone. I don’t know what to do, the young woman wrote.



It seems that the mother-in-law of our subscriber is a perfectly adequate woman. And if a young family has to live with Marina Yurievna under the same roof, then it is worth trying to find a common language. After all, all conflicts really happen because of small things.

Maybe Oksana should get a job after all. This will contribute to the family budget. In addition, she will not spend so much time at home, and therefore they and their mother-in-law will simply stop bothering each other. Who knows, maybe there will be less conflict.