Why does a mother suffer that children cannot share property with each other?

Adult children do not always grow up on their own. This means that parents will have to take care of them even as adults, instead of having their children help their elderly parents. Maybe it’s about parenting, but one day you need to insist that children stop sitting on their necks. Olga Semyonovna is a mother of adult children. She has two sons and has been married for several years. They still need financial help from their mother.



I went to work in Italy when the eldest son was finishing school. Sergei was 18 and Mita was 15. There was nothing to sit in the village at the time. All at once abandoned their spouses and young children in order to earn some money. It has been 13 years since then. Seryozha married, a young family settled in an apartment with her daughter-in-law, but I gave them a house outside the city.



Mitya also got married two years ago, and so far he lives with his daughter-in-law in our two-bedroom apartment. Seryozha has two daughters, and Miti recently had a son. In Italy, I live and work, quietly saving money to help my beloved children. The last time I went on vacation, I was very upset.



Once a year I come to visit my family and bring a bag of guests to each family. This time I was going to see my eldest son and I remembered how I was saving money for their wedding, how I was trying to help both sons. During all this time, I have never been on a full vacation, did not spend money on myself, although they did not earn easily. Everyone was happy until one day Mitya called me when I was at work.



Said it wasn't fair that I left the house for Seryozh and didn't give them anything with my wife. So we decided that I should collect money and Mita for the apartment. I know he didn't make that decision himself. But then I was just in shock. Later, I thought and decided not to deprive the younger ones and now I brought them the accumulated savings.



On my doorstep, Seryozha’s wife met me, I gave her gifts and hotels. Sit down for tea. For a short time I was asked how I live and feel, Anya blurted out that I miss them. Like, Seryozha has two daughters, and Miti has one son. And I have to give them gifts not the same amount, but twice as many. I swallowed these words in silence, talked a little with my son and went home.



The youngest daughter-in-law cleaned the house, preparing for Christmas. And I was so tired, I didn't eat anything, and I was really upset. Sitting on the couch for an hour, staring at one point and not understanding how this could happen. No daughter-in-law asked me how I was doing, no one asked me if I was hungry. That evening, I rethinked what happened, gave the youngest the promised amount for an apartment, let them live happily. Only next year I won’t be visiting them. I see that without me they are doing well, and my help only quarrels two brothers. It's time for them to become more independent, and I'll finally allow myself a vacation of my dreams. I should have done it a lot sooner.”