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Troubled mother-in-law walks on edge criticising meals at family holiday
How to react to the unsolicited advice of the mother-in-law, so that she stops grumble, and at the same time maintain a harmonious relationship with her husband? It is this question that we will find the answer in the life story of our current heroine Valentina.
No matter how much Valya tried to improve relations with her mother-in-law, she did not want to make concessions. Constant edification and claims on the part of Natalia Sergeevna from the very day of acquaintance became an integral part of their relationship.
When Valentina and her husband Alexei had just moved into their own housing, her mother-in-law visited the young family every day to tell them how best to arrange space in the house. Of course, the couple had their own thoughts on this. However, no one wanted to upset Lesha’s mother. Therefore, the couple constantly pretended that they were going to follow her advice exactly, in order only to preserve more or less harmonious relationships in the family.
As a result, the couple made such repairs as originally planned. And Leshin’s mother has since held a great resentment against her daughter-in-law, suspecting that she persuaded her son not to listen to maternal advice. And now, at every opportunity, Natalia Sergeevna found something to accuse Valentina of. The daughter-in-law did not wash the floors so much, then she cooked dinner from the wrong one, or even looked at it somehow obliquely, hurting the feelings of her vulnerable mother-in-law ...
Valya never reacted to the hurtful words of her mother-in-law. She was taught from childhood to respect elders and could not imagine that she ever had to have a conflict with another mother. But the time when the mother-in-law at Lesha’s birthday party with all the guests said that Valentina was a bad mistress, the girl’s patience almost broke...
It is good that Valentina’s mother was present at the celebration. She saved her daughter from rash statements against her mother-in-law, calling for a heart-to-heart conversation in the kitchen under the pretext of going for dessert.
The conversation with my mother lasted no more than 10 minutes. But he was the turning point in this whole story. After that, the girl returned to the guests completely different. In her hands was the promised dessert, and her face was illuminated by a bright smile. On the remarks of the mother-in-law regarding the improper preparation of dishes or the serving of the table Valya was no longer silent. Now the daughter-in-law calmly replied that next time she would do everything as Natalia Sergeevna advises.
By the next visit of Natalia Sergeevna Valya fulfilled her promise. The girl cooked lunch, strictly following the instructions of Leshin's mother. At the end of the day, I asked her to share some more advice. After that, my mother-in-law was replaced. All subsequent meetings between the two took place in an exceptionally warm atmosphere.
Who would have thought it was so easy to settle a long-standing dispute? It turns out that if you show a little more tolerance and learn to listen to loved ones, you can save a huge amount of energy spent on quarrels and scandals.
No matter how much Valya tried to improve relations with her mother-in-law, she did not want to make concessions. Constant edification and claims on the part of Natalia Sergeevna from the very day of acquaintance became an integral part of their relationship.
When Valentina and her husband Alexei had just moved into their own housing, her mother-in-law visited the young family every day to tell them how best to arrange space in the house. Of course, the couple had their own thoughts on this. However, no one wanted to upset Lesha’s mother. Therefore, the couple constantly pretended that they were going to follow her advice exactly, in order only to preserve more or less harmonious relationships in the family.
As a result, the couple made such repairs as originally planned. And Leshin’s mother has since held a great resentment against her daughter-in-law, suspecting that she persuaded her son not to listen to maternal advice. And now, at every opportunity, Natalia Sergeevna found something to accuse Valentina of. The daughter-in-law did not wash the floors so much, then she cooked dinner from the wrong one, or even looked at it somehow obliquely, hurting the feelings of her vulnerable mother-in-law ...
Valya never reacted to the hurtful words of her mother-in-law. She was taught from childhood to respect elders and could not imagine that she ever had to have a conflict with another mother. But the time when the mother-in-law at Lesha’s birthday party with all the guests said that Valentina was a bad mistress, the girl’s patience almost broke...
It is good that Valentina’s mother was present at the celebration. She saved her daughter from rash statements against her mother-in-law, calling for a heart-to-heart conversation in the kitchen under the pretext of going for dessert.
The conversation with my mother lasted no more than 10 minutes. But he was the turning point in this whole story. After that, the girl returned to the guests completely different. In her hands was the promised dessert, and her face was illuminated by a bright smile. On the remarks of the mother-in-law regarding the improper preparation of dishes or the serving of the table Valya was no longer silent. Now the daughter-in-law calmly replied that next time she would do everything as Natalia Sergeevna advises.
By the next visit of Natalia Sergeevna Valya fulfilled her promise. The girl cooked lunch, strictly following the instructions of Leshin's mother. At the end of the day, I asked her to share some more advice. After that, my mother-in-law was replaced. All subsequent meetings between the two took place in an exceptionally warm atmosphere.
Who would have thought it was so easy to settle a long-standing dispute? It turns out that if you show a little more tolerance and learn to listen to loved ones, you can save a huge amount of energy spent on quarrels and scandals.
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