An anxious mother in her age calls at night and asks to come, makes her constantly anxious.

What to do when you have restless motherAnd at an age? Unfortunately, the elderly sometimes behave like children, require increased attention and sometimes do some completely reckless things. We still perceive them as adequate, but in fact this is far from the case. And that, of course, is a great sadness.



How to deal with an adult in this situation is also a mystery. Because, on the one hand, there is a society and its stereotypes, and on the other, there is a family and your own life. Editorial "Site" I tried to figure out how cynical it is to save not only nerves, but sometimes my own life. Our story is this.

I will tell you about my older sister and how her mother brought her down. It is a sin to write about it, but how else? We love our mother very much, but you can't tell without tears. It turned out that we grew up, everyone family, work, My mom was alone in our apartment. When she turned 70, she started calling her sister. And at night.



At two o'clock in the morning I could call, at three, at four. Like, come, come, I feel bad. My sister's on her way to my mom. She's eight years old. And it went on day after day. My sister didn’t say anything, she ran properly, she endured. And humanoid How long can you take? I began to get tired, fainting began, even broke my arm.

But I did run to my mom. When I caught a cold, I still ran. Night, winter, temperature. As a result, it completely fell, bilateral pneumonia and - to heaven. That's how I lost my older sister. And our mother, like a goose, water, does not connect with these nightly worries.



It's been less than a month, let me call her. I told her no! I've got a robot to go to school in the morning, and after all the troubles, I can come over to you tonight. So let her tell me, I'll die, you'll know. I couldn't stand it. Over there, my older sister, she ran to you every night with inflammation. Did you feel sorry for her? Where is she now? If it's bad, call an ambulance! You have reached out to me and you will reach out to them.

The remaining daughter says that since then it has been a decade. They are in conflict with their mother, of course, but the old woman feels quite well. There's nothing wrong with her. She doesn't call her daughter, she pesters an ambulance. But they never shrug it off. They come, they calm down, You can make a sedative. And it's okay, everybody's happy with themselves.



My daughter says that if I am unable to get around myself, let the children in the nursing home identify me. It’s just that people have a bad idea that it’s to take care of a person who telltale dementia. And by the way, it wouldn't be better. On the contrary, this state will only increase. Therefore, it is better to think about how to save your nerves and time.

Yes, it seems cynical - we do not take grandparents to care in special institutions. It is better to break yourself into a cake, but to the last suffer with the old people yourself. Not only is it physically difficult, but even more mentally difficult. That's not it. rainbow in the lives you want to see.



And this is how everyone suffers. Old people, because care seems to be as it is, but it is far from ideal, and their children, who, due to traditions and social attitudes, prefer “to cope themselves”. If only society didn't judge. After all, not everyone who sends a grandmother, mother, father to a nursing home, wants them harm. Maybe the opposite? You know they'll do better there? Will the old people have more chances to live?

Is there a “healthy” cynicism that will allow people to live better? The rhythm of time Sometimes we just have no time to pay attention to mom, dad, grandmother or grandfather. And that's unfortunate. Write in the comments what you think about this and whether in your family the question of identifying parents in a nursing home has been raised. When the time comes.



A restless mom. It can cause a lot of trouble. But do not think that, without indulging her “wants”, we cease to love her. Read our article about the time when children sell their parents. Thank you for staying with us!