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If you don’t have a relationship, you’re not ready!
Psychologist Sergey Muchkin shared his opinion about what prevents people to find their happiness in love.
If you are ready for something, you have it. If you don’t have it, you’re not ready!
Relationships matter. Preparation to them.
And the readiness is deep, not “declared”.
Why do so many people not have relationships... or have one-off, fleeting, short, unsatisfactory relationships?
It’s because deep down, deep down inside themselves — they’re really relationships — they don’t want to and they’re afraid.
Exactly.
They don't. And afraid.
No matter what they say or even think... Of course, there are reasons for that too.
What we are prepared for, what we accept, what we unconsciously agree to, is in our lives!!
I already have!! Relationships, sex, money. Anything!!
If something is not in our life, then we (it is ourselves, inside) avoid it and block it.
We block it because it was once considered unpleasant. Painful. Dangerous.
This is what I call the trauma. When something became dangerous for us. And ever since, it's been rejected.
And until we change it, we don’t change it from within, it’s highly unlikely that it will happen from the outside.
And if it has changed inside... then it will happen quite simply, quickly and without much effort.
People often do not understand each other. Some people say, “Look, what’s the problem?” To meet, have sex, create relationships, have a child, open and develop your own business, earn money... For others, this is the biggest problem of their lives.
That's why.There, between themselves and what they want (but not) is a “trauma”.Like a mile-long chasm. Or a huge wall, if you will.
And the deeper, earlier, and stronger the injury, the greater the problem of “it” is perceived. And the more impossible it is to achieve.
I know men (and women too) for whom just to meet somewhere, just to take the initiative (I’m not even talking about sex), absolutely impossible and incredible thing. And it's the same with relationships.
When some people get to know each other easily, start families and have children, others can’t do it for years or decades.
And again, it’s not because they’re bad or “don’t want to” or “try hard.”
They can try 10 or 100 times harder than those who succeed.
That's not why!
Because our lives are governed by other mechanisms. Much and much deeper... It would be better to deal with them. Then the relationship will come.
Author Sergey Muchkin, especially for
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
Source: econet.ru/users/336295
If you are ready for something, you have it. If you don’t have it, you’re not ready!
Relationships matter. Preparation to them.
And the readiness is deep, not “declared”.
Why do so many people not have relationships... or have one-off, fleeting, short, unsatisfactory relationships?
It’s because deep down, deep down inside themselves — they’re really relationships — they don’t want to and they’re afraid.
Exactly.
They don't. And afraid.
No matter what they say or even think... Of course, there are reasons for that too.
What we are prepared for, what we accept, what we unconsciously agree to, is in our lives!!
I already have!! Relationships, sex, money. Anything!!
If something is not in our life, then we (it is ourselves, inside) avoid it and block it.
We block it because it was once considered unpleasant. Painful. Dangerous.
This is what I call the trauma. When something became dangerous for us. And ever since, it's been rejected.
And until we change it, we don’t change it from within, it’s highly unlikely that it will happen from the outside.
And if it has changed inside... then it will happen quite simply, quickly and without much effort.
People often do not understand each other. Some people say, “Look, what’s the problem?” To meet, have sex, create relationships, have a child, open and develop your own business, earn money... For others, this is the biggest problem of their lives.
That's why.There, between themselves and what they want (but not) is a “trauma”.Like a mile-long chasm. Or a huge wall, if you will.
And the deeper, earlier, and stronger the injury, the greater the problem of “it” is perceived. And the more impossible it is to achieve.
I know men (and women too) for whom just to meet somewhere, just to take the initiative (I’m not even talking about sex), absolutely impossible and incredible thing. And it's the same with relationships.
When some people get to know each other easily, start families and have children, others can’t do it for years or decades.
And again, it’s not because they’re bad or “don’t want to” or “try hard.”
They can try 10 or 100 times harder than those who succeed.
That's not why!
Because our lives are governed by other mechanisms. Much and much deeper... It would be better to deal with them. Then the relationship will come.
Author Sergey Muchkin, especially for
P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness – together we change the world!
Source: econet.ru/users/336295
