50 things that daily steal our joy of life Bashny.Net

Writer and psychologist Sarah Hansen believes that misfortune has many shades. She personally found the 50 — those factors that always affect us negatively.

Invite all to read the article Sarah. Here everything is simple and clear, but somehow, in our daily struggle we so easily forget about it.





You worry all the time

Worry is like a rocking chair that frantically moving but not going anywhere. You are simply unable to control their actions. Relax and concentrate. Calm will help you make the right decision. In the end, very true words of the famous song: "Don't worry, be happy".

You want to keep everything under control

Sometimes people think that they jumped straight from the comic books about superheroes. They believe that they are able to control everything. Any plan should immediately be implemented. You know, such a task is hardly simple, even Superman. The reality is that we are not able to control anything but themselves. Get over it, and you will be able to enjoy what is happening, not trying to constantly do the impossible.

You are offended

To be offended is like drinking poison and expect the other person will die. You're only hurting yourself, accumulate negative energy. Let go — it will do you good. Understand your abuser, most likely, enjoys life and generally is about you not thinking at the time how you spend your precious hours to mentally send him a death-ray.

Do you think that everyone should play by your rules

News: the world has no idea about your rules. The sooner you realize this, the happier you will be. No other man has not received your memo about how we should live, treat you, to do his work and build relationships. People are often angry at the fact that someone does not want to conform to their internal ideals. And, of course, the solution is impossible task to make everyone live by their standards — brings a lot of frustration. Accept people for who they are, and evaluate the full range of ideas and points of view.

You compare yourself with others

We all play this game — take some tiny part of another person's life and compare with their. For example, I can compare with Plushenko, and conclude that I am very bad at ice-skating. But who knows, maybe I better sing or drive? That is why such a scrutiny under the microscope themselves and others — a pointless exercise. The whole will always be greater than the part that you are considering, but you will constantly be unhappy, comparing only the individual elements. If you can't not compare, point it inside: you become better today than you were yesterday?

You think that fulfilling the dream will make you happy

One says: "I'll be happy when I earn a hundred million dollars", and the second: "I'll be happy when today over a delicious dinner will be going with my family. Which of them is happier? Of course, having big goals is great. But when you associate their happiness with future success — which, incidentally, may not happen, you can't enjoy today. Find something that will please today and let tomorrow surprise you.

You are a "glass half empty"

If you are a pessimist, then you notice only the bad in your life. Your perception becomes your reality. Try to focus on the best qualities of the people and the good that is around. The more you will see of the solar light, the less shadows you will notice.

You are alone

Man is a social being, and this is not going anywhere. Once on a Saturday night you will find yourself lonely and depressed, make an effort to change that. How do you find friends? Try to visit public places where there are people who share your interests and beliefs. Smile, stretch out and be truly interested in the person. You will be surprised how great it will help you in building long-term relationships.

You attach too much importance to money

Money makes life better and easier, not to hide, but they do not bring happiness. Think if tomorrow was the last day of your life, you really would have spent the remaining time on making money? Most likely, you would want to spend those hours with loved ones or doing things you love. Life in accordance with internal goals brings more pleasure than all the money in the world.

You don't find time for the right things

Sometimes we all feel lost. But only building of its activities in accordance with internal values makes us happier. There's a simple exercise: list your values and place them in order of importance to you. Then compare how much of your daily actions match your values. Are there any deviations? What you can do to change it?

You are surrounded by unhappy people

You are the sum of the five people you spend the most time. If your friends are a constant source of negativity, then it's time to look for more positive people.

You have not found your purpose

A lot of people signed up under the lie that the meaning of their existence — to survive until the weekend. No wonder there are so many unhappy playboy. Cease to exist and start living. Find your purpose and pursue it with all passion. Sometimes you will find it difficult, sometimes scary, but trust me — this will be the most exciting adventure on your way.

You are the actor, not the author

You are doing the world a disservice when trying to be someone you really are not. Playing someone else's role, you can never match his expectations. Some part of your consciousness will always know that you have suppressed myself in order to read the lines you wrote and — even worse — that you don't believe.

You are stuck in your past

Many people become a product of your past — the sum of the regrets, sorrows and a variety of "what if". Yes, past mistakes you can learn from it, but cannot change or relive. Live in the present is the only way to get to the future.

You live thoughts about the future

Some people think that happiness is a destination, although in reality only the road to it gives us the feeling of fullness of life. Think of everything that happens as an adventure. If you do not, then so be miserable, waiting for your perfect "tomorrow." But life is one endless "today", right?

You unhealthy

Yes, exercise, proper nutrition and healthy sleep directly affects your happiness. Emotions depend on many physical factors. The connection of mind and body is so strong that sometimes a few drills, a walk in the fresh air and extra hour of sleep can improve your mood.

You are a perfectionist

There are three types of perfectionism: the perfectionism in relation to itself — when you expect perfection from yourself, social perfectionism — when you think others expect from you perfection, and perfectionism toward others — when you expect perfection from others. All three types make you miserable. Let's just accept the fact that perfection is unattainable — and to be honest, even boring — and life will become much easier.

Are you afraid of failure

Some people are so afraid of making a mistake that they prefer to do nothing. Imagine what you would have done when I was just learning to walk. You'd still be crawling. Unfortunately, growing up, we sometimes lose courage and are afraid to try something new. If you accept this way of thinking, your life will never be complete — therefore you will not see happiness as their ears.

You cling to the familiar

Growth happens outside our comfort zone. If you decide to go beyond the usual, you will never know the joy of victory over fear and gaining wings. Once the bird has to jump to learn to fly. You can't stay in the nest and be happy, watching the flight of others.

You need someone

Debts provoke stress, Heartbreak and financial difficulties. Develop a plan for how you'll pay off creditors, and you will feel much calmer.

You crave assessment

If you expect that others will evaluate you on the dignity you will always be unhappy. Nobody, except you, has no right to determine your significance and value.

You neglect intimacy

You know what people regret on their deathbed? No, not that they earned little money and have not spent enough time in the office. Most people says about the relationship that had been destroyed in the pursuit of unnecessary things. Don't neglect family and friends. In the end, love is still the greatest value in the world.

You procrastinate

Procrastination is an endless spiral of frustration. You save things for later, and the more you do, the heavier your load. It's like trying to run a marathon and along the way collect gems. In the end, the weight just becomes unmanageable.
You have to finish the job and throw these stones to remain light and ready to maneuver without having to drag in tomorrow 20 cases from yesterday.

You will not learn

Learning new things brings the joy of discovery. Find a hobby, find a new interest in life. Learning, you are experiencing the world anew — and thus, remain young, able to be surprised and happy.

You have unrealized dreams

The ghosts of unfulfilled desires can haunt us. Fortunately, we can always breathe life into our attitude if we can find the courage to move for new opportunities.

You are bored

The life of many people takes place without change, and this can lead to boredom. We have the newest achievements of science and technology, the world around simple and relatively safe, and it is not adventure. Routine sucks. But there are many ways to bring variety in life. Set a goal to do something that knocks you out of the rut and even frightening — believe me, there are many that will be able to Wake you, to shake, to surprise and enchant.

You are too busy

You are all the time busy, so don't have time to feel alive. What kind of happiness can there be a speech? Please reconsider your schedule. You will surely find a lot of things that you have taken time, but give nothing in return.

You sleep a little

In people with insomnia 10 times more likely to become depressed than those who sleep well. Sleep well — and you will be happy.

You spend enough time in solitude

Sometimes you need to give your ears a break from the hustle of life and focus on inner monologue. Spending time alone is natural and normal. No matter whether it's a Cup of coffee on a bench in the Park or a week-long trip to the mountains for climbing. Your mind will be very grateful for such moments of solitude.

You have no target

Aimless life is an endless source of frustration. Instead of just letting things happen to you, create your future by setting goals and reaching them. To see that the goal is successfully achieved, is one of the greatest joys in life.

Are you addicted to

Depend on other easier, but independence is a trait of an adult. Those who clings to others and is not planning to be free, are doomed to struggle with low self-esteem. It is impossible to fly on their own wings, if you are burdened by the need to constantly "pull" with himself someone else.

You think you don't deserve happiness

Some have misconceptions about what they don't deserve happiness. Their gnawing sense of guilt for past deeds, or they just felt unworthy of such emotion. But happiness is an experience that everyone should experience. Cross out the "not" in his "I deserve" and see what happens.

You are always a little lacking

To experience the fullness of life you will always lack something. And again. And that's it — a little, a little. If you are constantly on the verge of satisfaction, your chances for happiness are greatly reduced. It will never end, the monster of greed will gnaw you from the inside. You will lie to yourself that the last thing that will make you happy. In fact, this pit has no bottom. Try to feel the joy of each moment, and you will feel unprecedented growth.

You ignore the possibilities

When opportunity knocks at the door, many of us just make the TV sound louder and settled on the couch comfortably. Still, after all, this opportunity looks like work or pushes you out of your comfort zone, and you do not need. Easier to sit, right? But if this behavior becomes a habit, one day you will Wake up in deep disappointment when they realize they missed all the chances. It's hard to be happy if you don't give good things to happen in your life.

You smug

Complacency gives the illusion of calm. Everything is going fine, life does not beat you, you're perfect, like God — what more do you need? Actually, you just go with the flow, and one day it may make you very unfriendly shore. Fight, fight yourself, don't let yourself zakostenet in a passive existence.

You hate your job

Anyway, at work you spend most of your life. It is difficult to keep a happy smile, if you with all my heart hate this place and the people you meet there daily. Still, the work should bring joy and satisfaction and not just the ability to pay the bills.

You're chasing after unnecessary things

Sometimes we forget what is truly important to us. Just think — if you need this new car, if it is necessary to work three jobs and sacrifice time you could spend with your family?

You have no spiritual life

Modern research shows that the relationship between spirituality and happiness. This is because meditation or prayer, and fellowship with positive like-minded soothe and help you relax and prepare for change for the better.

You have no real friends

You can surround hundreds of friends and acquaintances, but if among them there is no close friend who would be with you even in the strongest storms, you will be unhappy. Life is a constant interaction with people, and if you are sure that your connection solid, you may want to look for friends. You will feel more confident knowing that you always have support.

You're afraid of yourself

It's strange, but many people are afraid of yourself and trust your instincts. But if you don't even trust yourself, who can you trust? Learn to believe in their decisions without doubting their own life path. This is what is called "harmony".

You are too concerned about what others think

Once you accept the fact that to please everyone is impossible, life will sparkle with bright colors. Trying to please everyone will one day drive you crazy. There is no reason to live, constantly trying to fit in with someone.

You don't relax

After all, life is a game, and all of us from time to time needs a time-out. If you do not allow yourself to relax, stress and frustration will accompany you constantly. Learn to relax and recuperate, and then your mental and physical health will improve noticeably.

 



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You do not risk

Many people do not use their life to the maximum. If you feel that you are capable of more, take a risk, challenge the fate. You can feel the enthusiasm of the discoverer, while your friends will still be lazily wallow in the mire of everyday life. Pushing boundaries makes life much more attractive.

You are impatient

Oh, it's hard to be patient as the waiting is hard, but sometimes that's all you can do. Sometimes circumstances force us to slow down and wait, you just need to accept that. In the end, you can choose to calm down and not rush into a decision.published

 

Author: Sarah Hansen

 

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

 

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