I suggest you practice living the emotions, called "Letters."

Step 1. Recall situation sick ranivshuyu you that you either do not want to even remember ( "I remember, so tremble" - the result of suppression of emotional memory), either frequently or occasionally remember, but looking at it from the perspective of the emotional pendulum (the blame itself, then another, then back yourself and so the circle). And sometimes it also happens that we can suppress the expression of even the opposite of the pendulum, this injury is even more serious for the psyche (when we blame others, or just yourself).

Step 2. Motivation. In order to motivate yourself and your own subconscious mind to this practice, it is necessary to aim, aim. What we want to get at the end? For example, emotional cleansing, a way out of the vicious circle of emotional pendulum, self-awareness, harmonization, healing relationships with yourself and others, forgiveness of self and others, and so on. D.

Step 3. As the pendulum is two, then the first two letters will, by choice: what emotion you are feeling at first memories of that painful situation? For example, anger. Then you need to start writing a "Letter of Wrath" (may also be called: an insult, indignation, reproach, blame, criticism, accusations, claims, etc...)
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Write all: what and who you are offended (you can apply directly to the "offender"), ask your questions, inquire as to why you have done so (even if questions are rhetorical, but it gives a sufficient therapeutic effect). When the "Write" plenty - just burn this letter
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Further forward, when "mature" returns - the appearance of the opposite of the pendulum - guilt. He may be right. Sometimes after a few hours or even days. Just waiting.

Note: if in connection with the reaction of the situation you have appeared at first a sense of guilt - then write a "Letter of guilt" and then wait for the anger and will write "anger letter" ( "righteous" indignation)
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Step 4. Now that we are ready, write a "Letter of guilt" (self-accusation, flagellation, remorse, repentance, shame, remorse, asking for forgiveness and so on. D.). This letter also need to burn.

Step 5. When the emotion and pass (you naplachetes, povozmuschalis, duties and so on. D.), You will find yourself out of emotional pendulum zone. And as soon as possible it is important to write the third - healing - a letter. It is exactly what you feel, you think about really happened.

It is quite possible that at the end of this letter informed you come constructive ideas and solutions: how to get out of this situation. If desired, it can be re-read the letter, sometimes correct, and you can (again, if desired) to show it to him to whom it is addressed. And it would be great if you could discuss co-wrote and listen to each other without interfering pendulum of emotions.