On the Relationship Between the City Bashny.Net

... Or how to preserve what we have, not scattered along the road of a lifetime?

All in their heads long and firmly seated stereotype that in a big city to build a relationship is very, very not easy. Now I convinced almost everyone. And the proportion of common sense, this really has ... unfortunately. Do you work for "slaughter," rarely less position 8 hours a day, exhausting themselves waiting in traffic jams, go to the trip, which will know in a few hours before departure, and all this just for the sake of ... for a decent place in the sun. You seek him out of the last forces, but often, it still remains a mythical, because the parameters of this most worthy start to grow with you, and keep in themselves and exponentially. You also can only keep up with them, sometimes forgetting a very important, sometimes neglecting something valuable, sometimes sacrificing very significant, and sometimes even losing the most precious thing you begin to truly appreciate just been deprived.





Large city always leaves its mark on everyone. The question is only of time. Someone takes the unspoken rules of the "system" immediately, believing that the smaller the resistance, the more and better will be the result. Some strongly oppose, but in time to understand the futility of such a struggle and surrender. There are also some who doubted long, trying on, but in the end they find themselves less of this "systems" out of the game.

The majority of the first, the second will reach success, but personal happiness rather find third. Under the first scheme, for that matter, and second, with the only difference in time, you usually are following objectives for which is ready to put a lot. A healthy lifestyle, friends, hobbies, romantic relationships and related value ... it all fades gradually, against which the pursuit of her goal, ignite more bright lights. Certainly, you see it all and is aware of what is happening, but it results in thousands of arguments and arguments in defense of the need for such. You rest on the promise that a little bit more ... just a little ... just a little ... but after already ... yes! But from time to time we have to be all the same ... No! After a taste of victory once you become dependent on it, and all that is left of your personal life is to settle for another delay, persuasion and promises. And entering into a similar rhythm, you start to think about that ... but not so bad on the very fact that something like this is all there. And with renewed vigor to smell of freedom, and eating a sweet and viscous flavor already vidneyuscheysya the horizon independence, you relax. You take it all for granted, and for a while you do manage to convince themselves that it is a very comfortable. But you do not realize the chief in his situation ... that emptiness in his soul, which grows proportionally to the number of signed contracts and received a bonus. And because the first is becoming more and more, and the ever-increasing size of bonuses over time, you no longer have to organize. You no longer have enough of everything connected with the material, and even the surrounding sea, too, cease to please you, and you go to the other end of the world really do not understand that the distance to the measured him and the very emptiness in your soul.



Along with you, on this path, there is a countless number of residents of the city, but exactly as long as it does not come ... Love. And it may just seem like kinship, friendship since childhood or birth hobbies, passions are inherently much stronger. But nothing compares with the potential way out which promotes only Love. Well, or to start a relationship, which you pretty bored and Starved, throw in the pool with his head, and suddenly someone had left a sense in you to break out, it would seem, a new force. You gave that feeling fully, without reserve, and against the background of his now begin to fade your daily and more hateful to you, the usual duties. Interest subsides along with an expanding light feeling in the chest, and romance you no longer seems overgrown past. You barely hatched 9 o'clock, the last four of which are constantly looking at the clock, trying to look alone make them go faster. You choose roses with much more care than a couple of hours ago, I put a resolution confirming the accuracy of the terms in the contract. You already do not "float" 1, 5-hour traffic jam, because you know that breaking it, you're bound to meet her, and because the latter is willing to delay this sweet moment. Meeting time fly by, and deliver it to the home, inspired, you come back to him and fall asleep with a blissful smile on his lips, totally annoyed that has to do it alone. On the other hand ... you're happy that you are in the sweet anticipation of what it is yet to come, in comparison with such rapid development and the achievement of many other things in your life. In the morning all repeated. However, it can last for a maximum of a month, then ...

... Life in the big city still has the upper hand and she throws you a condescending white flag right in your hands. And you begin to slowly give up under the pressure of daily responsibilities, which why it is becoming more and more elongated for a couple of kilometers of traffic jams, properly calculate the cost of key treaties, and suffered from this loss, as well as a stable "lack of sleep" always next behind all this. She does not like so and it does not want all of this, and because you start to hear the first claim, the validity of which is tacitly accepted. And tomorrow you'll have to fly again on a business trip because ... it should be. Resentment grows on you more and more, and its image, light and airy, with each day becomes more illusive in your mind. He wallows in the maelstrom of numbers, currencies, and projects, and calls and conversations are lively and invigorating recently, are becoming increasingly rare and silent, and therefore in your mind every day, it starts to take less and less space ...

Again, life starts to control you with incredible force, and you, understanding your deplorable situation still remains unable to break this vicious circle. You can not resist it, or will inevitably go over a cohort of those Third, those close to the quiet family evenings, but as far away from all material benefits of civilization. You can not afford it, because you're not, you have to go through, and you go ... go on relentlessly losing all that had until recently, on the road of a lifetime ...

But ... STOP! And if you stop and replay the script? Or at least try? And to start with the same place as the first time you thought again of his goal, and only after her. Stop for a moment what would wonder, "When is it to live?". And then think about the absolutely incomparable values, is conveniently located on both scales. What is more important to you? And what is more important for you, in fact, if you look a little deeper? After all, on New Zealand and North America can not fly, and do you a sweet taste of regular interest received, rather than the taste of her hot kiss? Did the negotiations on Saturday, did not carry the special prospects may outweigh your weekend with her? And, finally, how your world will collapse once you oversleep presentation of an important project? Yeah ... not for alarm on your mobile! Yes ... you yourself put it charged, but because she did not know! And not being able to "negotiate" with your DVD and becoming entangled in the wires, solved the problem quickly by switching off more than one player, and the entire strip, which has been and charging to your mobile ... Will you moral strength and self-control at this point, instead of expected-logical reaction confine the idea ... it is beautiful in its spontaneity and kissing her sleeping, go to the kitchen to make coffee. Of course, sending SMS to these partners that blocked half way and wait for the tow truck ...

This is beginning to be felt in this life ... that is alive and real. This is always where there are pure and sincere feelings ... and not only to her but to himself, to what is going on behind the tinted glass of your car. And then we can talk about the fact that you live in, or are just starting deeply inhale the whole spectrum of colors and flavors, and notice that real life is, and very close, close ... and she will never be able to get lost in such a vast and immense substance as a great city!