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I could not resist and told my son the secret of my daughter-in-law, I thought he would leave her immediately, but his answer shocked me.
In marriage, it is customary to share everything: grief and joy. So if something comes up, mystery In a relationship, it almost always comes as a shock to either side. How to survive such news, everyone decides for himself. What to do in the future, too.
After all, everything depends on the character of the person in fact. And his views on life. Some just leave, slamming the door loudly. Some are trying to understand the situation, themselves and their partner. For this, even turn to psychologists, specialists in the problem. Some people just want to be patient and move on. Which one is right? Probably each in their own way.
For me, a believing woman, the day when my son brought my daughter-in-law into the house was really hard. She, you see, has her own style, wears defiant makeup and dresses very immodestly. I think that’s how she looks original. But, most importantly, Igor likes this appearance. Yeah. They were over twenty years old at the time.
My son and daughter-in-law began to live in our apartment, for a long time I did not like it. She struggled in her own way: she went into their room without asking, constantly turned around near Igor, asked her daughter-in-law to help with cleaning, cooking. I know how young people today feel about it. So after a couple of months, my son told me that they would be moving into a rented apartment soon.
Your relationship with your daughter-in-law is great. Don’t think about it, I would love to live in a smaller house, in cramped housing, but only if the girl was more modest. We could go to church with her, communicate normally. But not with Nastya. There was no way to save that soul.
I knew about my son’s income. Medium. The daughter-in-law worked from home, sat at the computer or communicated on the phone with someone unknown. How much can they pay for that? So I decided that everyday life, household chores and a lack of money would make this couple quarrel.
To my deepest regret, six months later, my son and daughter-in-law “pleased” me with the news: they decided to get married. Why? Did you think that after the stamp in the passport everything will improve and life will become easier? But Igor was promoted at that time, and, as I understood, the financial issue was not so pressing.
After the wedding, Igor immediately wanted children. It wasn't unusual, he always talked about it. Unfortunately, time passed and the children did not show up. I’ve already talked to my friend, asked her, as a doctor, what it could be. But she couldn't answer anything without testing. Well, I kept praying that at least my son had good children, since my wife was unlucky.
Then Igor decided that they would do well to go on vacation, maybe it will somehow help in their personal life. Indeed, it's been 3 years. Without vacation, always at work, anyone will get sick. What heirs there might be. They did not take me with them, and I would not go myself, I have something to rest from. A few days later, a friend from the clinic called me.
It turned out that recently the son and daughter-in-law came to their office. Passed all the tests, samples and what else is needed. The result took time, so I knew it first. And to my dismay, it said that Igor was barren. So there is no question of any heirs. This is the punishment for my sins.
After a couple of weeks Igor and Nastya returned. Cheerful, tanned. I was really happy for both of them. Well, what can I do, at least some joy, in the face of bad news. Since then, I have had some inner struggle, some nerves. I waited day after day for my son, maybe not even alone, to come and tell me about their grief.
How do you react? Play a role? Can I even do that? Maybe I shouldn't have gotten into their lives. But to my surprise, a month passed and then more and more. It was the old way. We sometimes called and told them what had happened. But it's nothing important, all right. And one day my son finally called. He said in a shaking voice that he had news for me and that he was on his way.
I prepared myself, tried not to look in the eye when he came, to behave as restrained and neutral as possible. But I failed. He didn’t come with the news I expected. Nastya is pregnant! Finally, wait! They waited so long, and all that.
I stood and listened to his happy tirade, and everything inside me croaked. At some point, I could not overpower myself and told him about what was on my soul. I told him the truth. Like a friend called me about the results of their tests and everything I know. That it's not his baby. Yes, the truth can be very cruel.
He changed his face for a second. He looked at me in surprise and then got up from his chair and walked around the room. A terrible secret has been revealed. I expected tears, maybe a scream. But it doesn't matter, it's okay. Emotions are understandable in this case. And Igor came to me and said that he knew perfectly well that he was infertile. And that he can't be a father.
But he, they say, made his choice: let him be the father of this child rather than be left alone in this life. No other wife can make him a parent. No one can. So why destroy so many lives? He chooses his family, and the child will be his child.
Then we sat down and talked about other things, and he left. I was left alone with my thoughts. How is it that God does this to me: not only can an only son not give offspring, but he also remains with a stranger’s child and a wife who betrayed him? For what?! At that moment, I decided that going to church was no longer for me, it was time to stop. As long as I have to be the grandmother of an unloved grandson, at least one who won't lie to herself.
After all, everything depends on the character of the person in fact. And his views on life. Some just leave, slamming the door loudly. Some are trying to understand the situation, themselves and their partner. For this, even turn to psychologists, specialists in the problem. Some people just want to be patient and move on. Which one is right? Probably each in their own way.
For me, a believing woman, the day when my son brought my daughter-in-law into the house was really hard. She, you see, has her own style, wears defiant makeup and dresses very immodestly. I think that’s how she looks original. But, most importantly, Igor likes this appearance. Yeah. They were over twenty years old at the time.
My son and daughter-in-law began to live in our apartment, for a long time I did not like it. She struggled in her own way: she went into their room without asking, constantly turned around near Igor, asked her daughter-in-law to help with cleaning, cooking. I know how young people today feel about it. So after a couple of months, my son told me that they would be moving into a rented apartment soon.
Your relationship with your daughter-in-law is great. Don’t think about it, I would love to live in a smaller house, in cramped housing, but only if the girl was more modest. We could go to church with her, communicate normally. But not with Nastya. There was no way to save that soul.
I knew about my son’s income. Medium. The daughter-in-law worked from home, sat at the computer or communicated on the phone with someone unknown. How much can they pay for that? So I decided that everyday life, household chores and a lack of money would make this couple quarrel.
To my deepest regret, six months later, my son and daughter-in-law “pleased” me with the news: they decided to get married. Why? Did you think that after the stamp in the passport everything will improve and life will become easier? But Igor was promoted at that time, and, as I understood, the financial issue was not so pressing.
After the wedding, Igor immediately wanted children. It wasn't unusual, he always talked about it. Unfortunately, time passed and the children did not show up. I’ve already talked to my friend, asked her, as a doctor, what it could be. But she couldn't answer anything without testing. Well, I kept praying that at least my son had good children, since my wife was unlucky.
Then Igor decided that they would do well to go on vacation, maybe it will somehow help in their personal life. Indeed, it's been 3 years. Without vacation, always at work, anyone will get sick. What heirs there might be. They did not take me with them, and I would not go myself, I have something to rest from. A few days later, a friend from the clinic called me.
It turned out that recently the son and daughter-in-law came to their office. Passed all the tests, samples and what else is needed. The result took time, so I knew it first. And to my dismay, it said that Igor was barren. So there is no question of any heirs. This is the punishment for my sins.
After a couple of weeks Igor and Nastya returned. Cheerful, tanned. I was really happy for both of them. Well, what can I do, at least some joy, in the face of bad news. Since then, I have had some inner struggle, some nerves. I waited day after day for my son, maybe not even alone, to come and tell me about their grief.
How do you react? Play a role? Can I even do that? Maybe I shouldn't have gotten into their lives. But to my surprise, a month passed and then more and more. It was the old way. We sometimes called and told them what had happened. But it's nothing important, all right. And one day my son finally called. He said in a shaking voice that he had news for me and that he was on his way.
I prepared myself, tried not to look in the eye when he came, to behave as restrained and neutral as possible. But I failed. He didn’t come with the news I expected. Nastya is pregnant! Finally, wait! They waited so long, and all that.
I stood and listened to his happy tirade, and everything inside me croaked. At some point, I could not overpower myself and told him about what was on my soul. I told him the truth. Like a friend called me about the results of their tests and everything I know. That it's not his baby. Yes, the truth can be very cruel.
He changed his face for a second. He looked at me in surprise and then got up from his chair and walked around the room. A terrible secret has been revealed. I expected tears, maybe a scream. But it doesn't matter, it's okay. Emotions are understandable in this case. And Igor came to me and said that he knew perfectly well that he was infertile. And that he can't be a father.
But he, they say, made his choice: let him be the father of this child rather than be left alone in this life. No other wife can make him a parent. No one can. So why destroy so many lives? He chooses his family, and the child will be his child.
Then we sat down and talked about other things, and he left. I was left alone with my thoughts. How is it that God does this to me: not only can an only son not give offspring, but he also remains with a stranger’s child and a wife who betrayed him? For what?! At that moment, I decided that going to church was no longer for me, it was time to stop. As long as I have to be the grandmother of an unloved grandson, at least one who won't lie to herself.
Before his death, the husband admitted that he regrets, as he could not help his daughter, but recently she appeared at my doorstep.
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