Recently, a brother I haven’t seen in years came to visit me and gave me an envelope of money.

Sad when sibling They do not want to communicate with him at all. Nephews can treat you any way they want, but if they don't want to know their own father, their attitude will certainly change. It doesn’t matter if they’re young or mature.



However, sometimes it happens that the father himself can deserve this attitude. For example, if he was a very cruel parent or often looked in the bottle. How do you deal with your nephews in person? Not mentioning your brother or lying that it wasn't really the way they remember it? In the end, it is important not to become a hypocrite. Unnatural behavior is clearly seen by people. Especially from the outside.

The children of their brother Pro village families usually say that they are very friendly. They say that people who grew up together in rather difficult conditions, simply have to love and support each other all their lives. But that's far from the case. On the contrary, as soon as age allows them to choose how to live, village youth tend to leave their native places as quickly as possible and instead settle somewhere away from them.

I was the youngest child in the family, so I had to stay with my parents. The older sister married early and went to live with her husband. Then their family moved abroad and we stopped communicating. As a child, she always complained that she had to babysit me and my brother alone. And she often said she couldn't stand us. So, I assure you, friendly village relatives are nothing more than a popular myth.



Then his brother, Zhenya, got married. We had a better relationship with him. He's certainly not the smartest person I knew, but what I loved about him was that he always told the truth and could cheer me up. He knew a million jokes in memory, for which he was respected by friends and fellow villagers.

He married second. But the bride was not brought into the house, and, instead, he moved to live with her. Zhenya respected honest work. That's why I didn't earn much. In the village, brute force is respected, only paid low. After all, the horse is still stronger, and her salary was not born. So my brother had to figure out how to better support his family. Especially since his wife and her family were never known for their unselfishness.

The day I got married, Jenny wasn't in the village. He went to work in another country. Not that I wasn't offended by that fact at all, but I knew he couldn't have done it any other way. My wife was pregnant and, as always, there was not enough money. So I was well aware that another loved one was gone from my life for a long time, if not forever. At least my husband and I had mutual love and respect.



Time passed. I lived with my husband and parents, and my brother worked abroad. In some port town, he got a job as a loader. Helped load containers of fish and seafood. He constantly sent money to his wife to build their future home. His daughter and my niece grew by leaps and bounds, but they didn't take her to visit us. That was the character of my sister-in-law.

And then, like a thunderbolt in the clear sky, an important message came from my brother. He said he could no longer cheat on his wife because he had a new woman he loved and was happy with. The wife can take all the money he sent, he even undertakes to send more for his daughter until she becomes an adult. He's embarrassed, but he can't lie anymore.

Since then, my sister-in-law hasn't even passed by our house. I just stopped any communication, which I personally did not care much, but it was difficult for my mom and dad not to see my granddaughter. Don't worry, by then I was walking with my tummy. So I can safely say that I, as the youngest daughter, have pouted for everyone.



I am now a proud mother of three children. My husband and I are still together and still love each other. Overall, we're doing well. If not for a recent problem. It's more of a moral choice. A week ago my brother, Zhenya, came to see me. I barely recognized him. He's very old and shrivelled. Due to the constant sun, his face became somewhat wrinkled and was all stained. It is clear that this ailment did not arise from bad habits. That, by the way, made me very happy. Since I was worried that there, far from my native village, Zhenya would simply drink.

My brother, as before, many years ago, smiled a lot and even joked. But at the end of the conversation, his face could not hide all the inner sadness he had accumulated over a long time. It turned out that the woman he loved there had died. Serious illness, cure was not an option. They had no children. His ex-wife didn't even let him on the doorstep. My daughter said to her face that she didn’t want to know him.



So he came to me. And he admitted that he himself did not have long. But finally, he would like to see his family, say goodbye and apologize for disappearing from our lives. He also handed me a box of rewinded bundles of money. The money he saved his whole life. There were thousands of 20 euros or so. Zhenya said he couldn't spend it. And they won't be superfluous for my family. I didn't even deny it, because I saw that he just didn't have the energy to argue with me.

He's gone and I don't know where he is right now. But that's exactly what Zhenya wanted. All I have left of him are warm, good memories and a lot of money. But because of these huge funds, I still feel bad. Although the niece has grown up and has no desire to know her father, perhaps at least some of this money rightfully belongs to her.



Should I give her that cash or should I keep it? My brother came to me after all, it's true. But for sure he is just not the negativity of his ex-wife and his own daughter. Perhaps he would have changed his mind over time? And I have a place to invest this money and get it back I can not. Should I go to my sister-in-law and tell her? I don't really want to admit it. But it's probably fair. Honesty is the most important thing in our time.