Moral Dilemma: Whether to surrender the ex with all the guts

It is said that marriage breaks down when only one partner wants it. When both or both spouses want a divorce, the marriage lasts longer. People who have been together for years cannot forget each other. Yes, their paths diverge, but thoughts that something could have changed to keep the relationship alive remain. Julia was married to Anton for two years. The woman often noticed that her husband often stays late at work and communicates with other women, but did not attach importance to this. Before my husband went to another. Now Julia follows Anton’s social networks and watches how her ex-husband lives.



As ex-husband lives, Anton and I divorced in April. He never pledged allegiance to me, on the contrary, I knew he was cheating on me. We met sometimes, had a good time together. Anton has always said that he likes an open relationship because one woman gets tired of him quickly, and he does not want a pleasant conversation to turn into the everyday boring life of two tired people.



Peels I insisted on nothing and tried not to notice his passions. Six months later, I realized I was in love. I didn’t date anyone but Anton, and his friends started to annoy me. I told him more than once that his relationships with others were upsetting me, but Anton didn’t pay much attention to my words. I decided not to see him again. I stopped answering phone calls and texts and said I didn’t want to see him again. The most interesting thing is that after that he stuck to me like a bath leaf.



Peels Anton came to me with a bouquet, called me to the cafe and said that he was ready for a serious relationship. I melted and agreed. We didn't have a wedding, just the hasty painting I've been waiting for. Everything went as usual, I was happy that my husband settled down. When he promised not to meet others, he gave me all the passwords from his social media accounts to build trust. Sometimes I read his messages. There was nothing wrong with them, but when he corresponded with his friends, I made a scandal.”



Later, Anton stopped texting or pretended to be a faithful husband, I don’t know. We lived peacefully for two years, and one night he came and said he had met his love. I have five kopecks of eyes, standing numb and not understanding anything. And he tells me that he never loved me, that he was tired of my tantrums and that he finally met a decent woman: “I am ready to live with her all my life,” he says.



Peels I certainly got angry. I just thought we were getting better, but it turned out he was talking to this lady behind my back. We're divorced. Anton is now living with this woman. She has a small child from her first marriage. Everything is wonderful in the photos, high relations. Only in Skype, Anton corresponds with his friends until now. I know that because he hasn't changed his Skype password. Now I'm sitting there thinking how to tell his beloved that she's not alone.



Peels Life Wisdom and Editorial Council Julia still has feelings for Anton. And although his heart is already occupied, the woman subconsciously does not cease to believe that she can bring him back. Is it worth ruining someone else’s relationship for revenge? It is unlikely that Yule will get better, because the new companion may not believe her words or blame her ex-wife for all the troubles. That won't stop Anton. He is what he is. Maybe even the new woman is fine. Julia needs to stop following the personal life of her former partner and start to arrange her own. While her thoughts are occupied with the well-being of Anton, Julia deprives herself of the opportunity to meet a decent man. Would you take revenge on your ex-husband?