When my mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital, I was immediately informed that I had to come twice a day. Bashny.Net

“My husband’s mother began to feel bad for a long time. Three weeks ago, she was placed in the hospital so that the woman was under the supervision of specialists. Nina Ivanovna felt better and the family took her home. Nina Ivanovna needed another 10 days to drip her IVs, but since she wanted to go home, she needed someone to help. I have experience in this business, but I work and have two children. When I agreed to take care of my mother-in-law and called the amount, my husband’s sister said that I am a mercantile woman, and there is nothing sacred about me.

Ksenia works as a nurse, every day she goes on a call to those who can not get to the hospital. For this, Xenia takes a small amount, because it takes time to travel, and no one pays her extra. In general, a woman works as hard as she can. At the same time, Ksusha has two school children who see their mother only in late evenings, and their father also stays late at work.



With mother-in-law Xenia relations are not the warmest. When the son decided to marry, Nina Ivanovna persuaded him to change his mind. But the children seemed to accept and then somehow reconciled. But Ksyush can not refuse help, especially on such a trifling occasion, the matter is different. Nina Ivanovna needs to undergo a rehabilitation ten-day course, which includes vitamins and droppers twice a day. To do this, it is necessary for a knowledgeable person to connect an IV, that is, visit the old woman in the morning and evening.



Yes, I knew that a woman with a child from her first marriage is not the limit of dreams. My mother-in-law was not happy with the choice of her son. But my husband and I love each other, he raises my eldest son as a native. We are currently in a difficult financial situation. We have been paying a mortgage for a couple of years, and recently we had a daughter. It's not easy working right now. Misha is still at work, although there is a total reduction in staff, so there can be no talk of a salary increase.



A part-time job helps to keep afloat there, even though we are exhausted. So I didn't accept my husband's sister's request for free. At one time, by the way, Nina Ivanovna did not agree to look after my son when I had to leave for work. And now her daughter says that already at that time Nina Ivanovna was unwell and she did not want to take responsibility. I am not offended, but no one wants to understand me.



When the sister of her husband remained on maternity leave, she decided not to go to work anymore, but to do a manicure at home. Allocated a room, bought everything necessary, took courses of masters of manicure. Then Nastya began to do a trial manicure for free to all friends. And when she learned, she took the full cost of the procedure. And now she says it's not human to take money from people. When I told her about it, Nastya only rolled out her eyes: “Manicure and IV are different things,” she says.



My job is not stable: one day there are orders, and I leave, and it so happens that a week with the children at home. Children stay at home because there is no money for a babysitter. Earnings are shaky, and nannies have to pay constantly, and it is expensive. Lucky that son is in distance learning, now he looks after the baby.

Nastya says that it is expensive for them to pay me. They will give their mother a pension for the procedure. But I already charge a symbolic amount for leaving, so that we can bring at least something to the children who sit all day in four walls. And now I'm being offered to quit my kids and drive twice a day for free, ignoring my job. Isn't that too much? The husband tries to remain neutral, but he also agrees that this is not the solution. You cannot be kind to yourself and your family.



Fate returns us with a boomerang as much good as we give. But you can't give forever. A person needs to know that he is doing something for good. Ksenia was in a difficult situation. She needs to support children, but she can not quarrel with relatives. Many people think that if their relatives or friends understand something, they are obliged to help for free.

In fact, each of us has forgotten our own. And we never know what a person sacrifices for a living. In the case of the mother-in-law, everything is quite prosaic: you can endure another 10 days in the hospital and not put relatives before a difficult choice, not to say that the daughter-in-law is a mercantile woman. You can come to the hospital at your place of residence twice a day and undergo procedures for an hour or two. But for some reason, Mikhail’s relatives are fixated on one option and blame his wife, who herself is trying to make ends meet. What would you do in a situation like this?