The man took abroad for all the New Year holidays and gave a ring, but after one sentence stopped communicating with him forever.

Toxic words In relationships are perceived even more painful than from strangers. For those who are “out of the question”, we explain: in 2018, the word “toxicity” was named the word of the year by the Oxford Dictionary. According to modern concepts, a toxic person is a person with whom it is uncomfortable to be in the same company. A person who carries with him discomfort.



Well, toxicity in relationships is a thing known to all and not new. But if in most cases one of the partners directly expresses his claims to the other, now it has become fashionable to bring each other in other ways. For example, passive aggression. This is when you throw the interlocutor with ambiguous phrases, quite harmless at first glance.

I was joking, do you have a sense of humor problem? A sample of toxic phrases. Most often it happens in the following way. The young man begins to make fun of his girlfriend, at first being content with harmless jokes and other “fakes”. Some may even find it cute. And some of these people will be right, but only if the flow of wit ends there.

But that's not always the case. Other young people “get into rage” and can’t stop. The jokes get worse and they get hurt. And then I would say to myself, “don’t cook a pot” and stop. To apologize. But no, some gentlemen do not see boundaries in their verbiage and there is no stop sign for them.



All of this ends in, at best, resentment. At worst, tears. At this point, 99% of young people recognize their mistake and admit their guilt. Yeah, we hope 99%. But in practice they are much smaller. And that’s when this toxic phrase comes up: ‘Well, I was joking, do you have a sense of humor problem?’ As if removing all the blame and shifting it to the fragile shoulders of the roaring victim. Such relationships will not lead to anything good.

You made me do it! Another phrase is universal, which exists only in order for the opponent to assume part of the responsibility that does not lie on him. Made you do what? Anything will do.

For example, I had to stay home and not go to work. Why? Because he put a shelf in the closet yesterday. Or he was fixing the fridge. Or he was doing things around the house. God forbid, wash dishes, it's your job! He was tired and didn’t go to work. Because you made him do it. Your inaction.



Speaking of inaction. Relationships sometimes, especially over time, become more bland, prosaic. There is no longer the passion that once existed. No emotion. Who's to blame? You! So if you see him walking in the arm with the other, you know what he'll say: she made me! Naturally, we hope that you personally will not have such problems in life. We're just giving you examples.

I also wanted to marry you! Well, sometimes there are such jokers among men. These are the jokes. They like to ask a friend or acquaintance to make him, for example, tea. And when he is rejected for some reason, he says, I also wanted to marry you. But it is, childish. Do not immediately send such a person into personal disfavor. Everyone’s sense of humor is different.



It is more difficult when such a phrase says a close person, and in full seriousness. This usually happens after a difficult conversation or a serious denial of service on your part. There's nothing to think about. First, it is a typical and even primitive manipulation. Think about how close you were to my heart.

And secondly, just notice. How much does a man think you need to marry him to make him sound like that? This already indicates either too inflated conceit, or treating you as someone inferior, unworthy of him. That is, the phrase itself does not seek to offend anyone, but says a lot about the person who uttered it.

You don't look that good. That's a phrase that women understand more than men. Let's start again with the obvious. For example, at work a blockage, in relationships, too, nothing good, coughing, snot and everything. And then a friend or one of the relatives tells you that you have a good look. Obviously, this is an excuse to take a break and rest or heal. We're all human and we get tired. It's normal.



If you tell a man that he looks bad, there may be several options.
- Yeah, holidays, sometimes.
- Yeah, work, what can I do?
- What do you know, this is a new haircut! My stylist says that in a month everyone will walk like this! – also an option, happens.

But if you say something like that to a girl. Especially when she knows she looks good. When the eyelashes are fine and the cosmetics are new, good, and the hairstyle is simply chic... It hurts. Because it becomes clear that “bad” is not about her appearance, but about the attitude towards her in general. Who would like to hear something like that from their partner?



Yes, ordinary, at first glance, phrases can have a double bottom. It is important to immediately recognize and respond as it should. The fact is that women very often do not see such “signals” and continue to think that everything is fine, everything is fine. Meanwhile, the clutches of toxic relationships shrink more and more. I hope you are not one of them and there are no toxic people around you. All the best for you!