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Is wedding really the happiest day of your life? According to divorce statistics, no. Or not for everyone. Sometimes in the family do not notice that the spouses speak to each other in completely incomprehensible languages. Husband and wife They want to be presented with happiness on a plate with a gold border, and this does not happen. Relationships have to be worked on.



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There are many books written about the relationship between a man and a woman. It would seem that the truth is the same everywhere, but why does nothing happen in practice? The answer to this question is given by the book. Gary Chapman, Five Love Languages? This book is different from the others. Smart things are written in simple and understandable language.

Everyone shows their love in their own way. Some men help around the house, but forget memorable dates and give flowers only on holidays, others make a million compliments, but they absolutely do not have free time to be with his wife. Women are even more difficult because they are dependent on their own emotions.



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“If there is no emotional intimacy, a woman often does not aspire to the physical,” Chapman writes, “and to please a man, it is not necessary to feed him tasty.” For love to be understood and appreciated correctly, both husband and wife must understand each other’s “love language.”

The actions of the partner become clear after reading the book. In practice, by answering the questions, you can define your love language.

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DepositPhotos Gary Chapman highlighted Five major love languages: words of encouragement, time, gifts, help, touch. The lead can be one or more languages. And very often in families they do not coincide. Let's take an example. Imagine that a tired husband came back from work and gave his wife a small gift. And the wife all day at home, dreams to go with her husband somewhere or just talk, sitting in a hug.

The wife believes that her husband does not care about her, he does not love her and pays off with gifts. And the husband is sure that spoiled his wife, who is already tired of his whims. She doesn't appreciate what he does. The result is a misunderstanding, although both love each other. To avoid misunderstandings, you need to learn to understand the emotional needs of your partner.



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Editorial “It's easy.! strongly recommends Read "Five Love Languages" Not just married couples, but everyone without exception. First of all, this book helps to understand yourself and other people. Whether it is employees, friends, parents, close or distant relatives.



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In your free time, be sure to study this book, but for now read a brief description of the love languages of Gary Chapman.

Five languages of love

1. Words of encouragement Such people need compliments, praise and gratitude. Words should be simple and sincere. You don't have to be flattered to get your way. Praise a person to bring joy, because praise can achieve much more than nagging.
   
   
   
   
   
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2. Time. Spending time doesn’t mean sitting on the couch and watching TV. In this case, the attention of partners is absorbed in the news. Spending time is focus on the interlocutorTalk and look him in the eye. Ask your spouse how his day went, tell them about your worries and experiences.
   
   
   
   
   
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3. Gifts. Gary Chapman describes the language of gifts very accurately: Gifts are visible symbols of love. Visible symbols of love are more important to some than others. Gifts come in all colors and sizes. Some are expensive, others are worthless. The person who speaks the language of gifts, their price is often indifferent. You don’t have to give gifts every week. They don’t have to be expensive. Their value does not depend on the value, because a gift is a symbol of love.
   
   
   
   
   
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4. Assistance To help is to do something for another without benefit. You can help your wife with dinner, walk with children, clean the house, go shopping. Any help takes time and effort. Helping unselfishlyA man expresses his love. Never manipulate guilt: “If you loved me, you would do it.” This is not love, but cruelty.
   
   
   
   
   
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5. Touches Touch and touch is one of the ways. show off. For some people, it’s the only way to feel it. Such people are very sensitive, they like to hold hands, love to be hugged and kissed. Only then are they sure of love.
   
   
   
   
   
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To make a relationship strong and harmonious, learn to recognize the love language of your partner. That's what Gary Chapman teaches. Read together, understand and enjoy the results!

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