Do you need to provide mother-in-law that in September retires?

A single retired woman can do without help. But it's not going to be sweet. An insignificant pension without additional savings and without the support of relatives is a terrible ordeal, which the enemy will not wish. What if your health is not all right?

“My mother-in-law has high expectations for her son. She believes that after her retirement this year, Misha will provide for her. For me, the recent conversation with my mother-in-law at a family meeting was not easy. Lyudmila Pavlovna said that several thousand of his salary Misha should give her, otherwise she can not cope, – says Katya.



Female pensioner "Mother-in-law goes on a well-deserved vacation in September." She lives alone in a two-bedroom apartment, worried that without work she will be very sad. It is not strange, because Lyudmila Pavlovna has no hobbies, hobbies. She only occasionally goes out into the yard with fresh air on the bench to breathe and gossip with her friends. That's not what I care about.



Every year, school fees are creaking and emptying our pockets. And here a week ago, Lyudmila Pavlovna gathered a family council about her retirement. She says she doesn't have enough money to live. Come on, he says, Misha, you'll give me a couple of thousand of your salary every month for expenses.



Our relationship is not very good. After the wedding, we had to live with our mother-in-law in an apartment while we were looking for rented accommodation. And the work was tight. We could not live with her for a long time, so as not to spoil relations even more, we found a small apartment and moved out.



Then gradually, from a distance, it seemed that the relationship began to improve. But we could not become close people. And when we had a son, she did not show much attention to her grandson, she helped when we sewed up with Misha at work and had to leave Grisha with her. I think we would have done without her help.



My son has grown up and is 13 years old. He can make his own breakfast and go to school. Two years ago, we bought a cottage, a small one, but until now, our hands have not reached to restore order there. Business is above the roof and the estimated costs too. We see Lyudmila Pavlovna on holidays, we rarely call. And then she came to visit us a lot.



She's waiting for her son to give her all. Of course, she has no one else to rely on. But not at the expense of our family. Her husband is ready to give her half of his salary, as long as she does not complain about life. And my parents, by the way, are her age and still work to avoid sitting around our necks. They know it's hard for us, too. I work as a teacher, and my husband is an engineer, and he already wants to take a second part-time job so that something can be postponed to old age.



Everyone spins as much as they can. My mother-in-law decided to sit on her head and hang her legs. Well settled. He lives alone, doesn’t care about anything, he also needs money. Our income and expenses for the year ahead are scheduled with my husband. We are trying to ensure a good future for our son, not for ourselves. And Misha's mother can't say no. So it turns out that you have to look for a second income.”



In adulthood, a person is obliged to take care of their children and their parents. You never know how much they have. Katerina thinks that the mother-in-law can do without the help of her son. She doesn't know what it's like to live on a small pension at current prices. A woman should ask herself frankly, and what will happen when her parents ask for help, will she be as selflessly trying to help them as Misha does for her mother? Of course they will, they are the closest people. The negative attitude comes from an unsuccessful cohabitation with the mother of her husband. But that doesn't mean she doesn't have to help. We just have to find a compromise. What do you think?