Why You Shouldn't Sacrifice Old Age for Children

Family and family relations They occupy a fundamental place in our lives. For the sake of loved ones, sometimes we are ready to sacrifice ourselves. However, sometimes relatives take it for granted and do not appreciate the efforts of relatives. So what do we do in situations like this?



At one time, Olga Stepanovna did everything possible to provide her son and daughter-in-law with housing. Being already a mature woman, she found a job and spent many years in a strange house. In response, I heard only accusations and complaints. What happened and what decision the heroine came to, read further in the article.

When my son turned 5, my husband left us. Family and family relations ceased to interest him, and I did not hold him. At the time, I was living with my mother in our 2-room apartment.

After 10 years, my mother died because of a serious illness. Olezhka moved to her room and lived there until the age of 23. And then he came and said he was getting married. Of course, the young had nowhere to live. So my son and daughter-in-law moved in.



At that time, I was no longer working (I used to be a nurse in kindergarten), so I started thinking about how I could help my family. The idea came suddenly: you can look in ads, do not need a babysitter for children.

But I was not interested in hourly work, but in the work of nannies with accommodation. I wanted my son to be able to live in our apartment. I soon found out I was going to be a grandmother.



To be honest, I'm very lucky. Although I lived in different families, for the most part I was satisfied. For a couple of years I lived in a fairly wealthy family, where I was blown off the dust. I even went on vacation abroad, not to mention the good salary I was paid every month.

So I was able to start saving for the future. And that's been the long 10 years of my life. I wanted to save enough money to buy myself a small one-bedroom apartment and stop working. I took small steps towards that goal.



Of course, I rarely managed to escape to my family. I saw my grandson several times a year. I think that’s the main reason why my family is so distant from me. The son and daughter-in-law needed their own babysitter on whom to shove the child. But I couldn't afford it because I was always working.

Buying an apartment is the long-awaited moment. While I was dealing with paperwork and buying an apartment, I needed somewhere to live. I returned to my apartment where my son, daughter-in-law and grandson have lived for so many years. I didn't feel at home at all.

My family asked me almost every day how my apartment was going and when I was leaving. I felt a constant tension and realized that I was superfluous here. A month later, I left. My daughter-in-law never stopped reproaching me for spending so many years raising other people’s children, forgetting about my own. But the fact that I did it for the sake of their home, she forgot.



Soon the daughter-in-law became pregnant again. Now she's calling and wants me to help her when she gives birth. But I really don't want to do that now. I was remembered when I was needed. And I'm only needed as a babysitter. I'm sorry our family relationship didn't work out, but I won't allow myself to be exploited this way!

We can understand the resentment of the family on the grandmother, who spent many years raising other people's children. However, this does not mean that you can treat it with such disrespect and consumerism. Especially considering why a woman would do that.



She could tell her son that he and his future wife would move into a rented apartment and live their lives. But the heroine sacrificed her quiet old age for their good. All I heard was reproach. Do you think her family will be able to realize that they were not right about everything?