How to explain to your mother-in-law that her gift is too bad

The love and support of loved ones means a lot to everyone. It is always a pleasure to spend time with relatives, celebrate significant events and celebrate birthdays. Only if there are no trusting relationships between relatives, there can be no talk of any family happiness. Especially when there is a lack of communication between adults. In such cases, children always suffer. One of our readers told a story from life about how a birthday gift to a granddaughter from a beloved grandmother changed her attitude towards her mother-in-law.. Perhaps after reading this story, you can give advice to this woman. And if not, then draw conclusions for the future, as you should not do with your relatives.



Gift for the birthday of the granddaughter “My family life was not very successful, with my husband we have a difficult relationship.” My only joy is my little daughter. Our family lives separately from their parents. We are on good terms with everyone, but our relationship with our mother-in-law has not worked out. She pretends to be poor, but she is actually a well-off woman. The mother of her husband is constantly sorry for the money. Probably because she doesn't believe in our future with her husband, so she doesn't want to waste money. Indeed, why would she spend money on a child who might soon become a “former” relative?



She has her own house and her mother-in-law lives alone. In addition to her son, she has a younger beloved daughter, and her mother-in-law idolizes her grandchildren. I am an adult and understand that communicating with me does not give my mother-in-law joy. And the child lacks the care and love of his grandmother. Other grandmothers would love to spend the summer in the village with their grandchildren, but not ours. She never invited my daughter to visit. My husband visited her three times with my daughter.



On the birthday of the granddaughter, the mother-in-law is limited to congratulations by phone. From the first minutes, she complains about a small pension, because of which she can not give her a gift. While her other grandchildren, she gives luxurious costumes and toys. You can see it on social media. Of course, her own daughter is sweeter, and lives nearby. But my husband is also her son! Once she even on the phone my daughter did not congratulate her birthday. I don't understand, is it so hard to call? ?



Recently my daughter turned 10 years old, the first anniversary after all. For the first time in ten years, the mother-in-law decided to send a gift to her granddaughter. She said she sold the pig and could afford it. All right, wait. When the parcel was opened, there was a smell of second-hand, specific, it can not be confused with anything. Of course I didn't know the size.



It's unpleasant. The daughter was upset, one sweater looked more or less normal from the whole package. I tried to wash the sweater to get rid of the unpleasant smell, and everything else had to be thrown away. She refused to wear what her grandmother had sent her.



The funny thing is that among these rags was a small jar of strawberry jam. It's from all the plantations of my mother-in-law! In short, this package upset me and my daughter. I was indignant and told my husband, and he naturally sided with my mother.



I told her I wish she hadn't sent anything, like all these years. My husband said it was from the heart. Are these gifts? My daughter was sorry, she expected to be congratulated in a human way. For our mother-in-law, our daughter will never be a real granddaughter. Is it possible to treat your grandchildren this way? ?



Of course, it's not about gifts, it's about attention. The saddest thing is that Grandma doesn’t care about her granddaughter. A great joy for a child would be an invitation to visit. Teaching your granddaughter to sculpt dumplings or letting her feed chickens is a free joy. Is it possible to deprive a child of warm memories of childhood? Is it the child’s fault that adults don’t have relationships?