They took the mother-in-law after the divorce to live with him, because the husband took all her property.

Have you ever had the feeling that women change after a divorce? They become more active, interesting and multifaceted personalities with whom to spend time. But all this activity and self-sufficiency looks great only from the outside. Every woman needs love and care, and when she is left without a man, there is a risk of becoming obsessive.

“After the divorce, my mother-in-law moved to live with us. To be honest, there is too much of it. Sometimes I catch myself thinking that I rest at work more than at home, admits Svetlana. To fence off from the mother-in-law woman is not possible, and have to endure mom’s activity every day.



Women after divorce "My mother-in-law is a powerful woman." She constantly gives orders, restores order in the house and says what and who should do. I have a hard time because I don’t want to ruin my relationship with her, I have to listen to everything she says. The paradox is that Mila Valeryevna always commands us, fussing, and she lives in our house.



After the divorce, the ex-husband left Mila Valeryevna with a nose. The house they lived in was his, so Mila Valeryevna moved in with us. How else? Of course, my husband offered to stay with us temporarily. Only this "temporarily" lasts for the fifth year. We won't put her out on the street, mother. Especially since she used to sit with our children, and I am grateful for that.



After all, seeing your mother-in-law on weekends and living with her are different things. She is a difficult person, she is always active and positive, she does not sit still for a minute. And if something does not go according to her script, the mother-in-law begins to get nervous and offended. She often talks on the phone and even sleeps with her mouth open.



From the ringing voice of my mother-in-law and a mountain of useful advice, I rest on my boring job. Once I hated work, and with the move of my mother-in-law began to appreciate this quiet place. Her mother-in-law is retired, she has a lot of free time, but even after that, the habit of getting up at 7am on a Saturday persisted. If she just wakes up, she wakes up the whole family, does exercises with the children and gathers everyone together for breakfast.

She says we just want to sleep on weekends. But she's probably forgotten what a week to plough off at work is like, and how expensive every minute of sleep on the weekend is. The reason for the divorce was her hyperactivity. My husband just couldn’t take such a busy schedule, and now we tolerate it.”



A couple of years in a row we found a way out of the situation. Once a year for two weeks we went to Turkey with the children. My mother-in-law does not have a passport, and she did not want to go anywhere. So these two weeks have been a drop of fresh air for us. This year it was not possible to go abroad, so we decided to just rent a house at the recreation center, sleep, relax in silence.



We had already found a recreation center, but the children told Grandma everything, and she decided to go on vacation with us. It would break the whole point. I would leave the children with my grandmother for two weeks, but they are not as noisy as Mila Valerievna, who raises neither the light nor the dawn, and calls to cook breakfast. I begged my husband to talk to my mom, but he felt sorry for her. Who's gonna pity me? I decided to talk to her myself. But Mila Valeryevna decided that we regret the money for her vacation, and said that she would pay for everything. She took offense at us, and there was no vacation. We went with the whole family to the sea, and did not really communicate. My mother-in-law has been angry with me for six months now and has not spoken. And I think she could come into my position and listen.”



If you can divorce your wife, you can’t get away from your mother-in-law. Taking your mother into your home seems like the right thing to do until you realize it couldn’t have been worse. It's not about square meters. After all, different rhythms of life, outlook, age – all this affects our relationships. What would you do if you were Svetlana?