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Why you shouldn’t be afraid of divorce
Nowadays, the institution of the family is experiencing far from the best times. Every year fewer and fewer couples decide to legalize the relationship. And among those who agree to such an important step, only a quarter of marriages live to 10 years together.
Despite the fact that divorce is a matter of two, in society it is believed that it is the woman who suffers the most after the collapse of the family. But is that true? And today we will try to get to the truth to understand whether it is so difficult for a woman after a divorce. We also know what single people say. divorcee, referring to his experience.
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No matter how far humanity has progressed in the issue of gender equality, however, for a woman, the main criterion for success is the family. A dizzying career, the presence of interesting hobbies or a rich social life - all this, in the opinion of others, is not as important as marriage.
And if one perceives the task of “catching” the man in charge, then it is not surprising that the collapse of the family is considered a painful blow to the future prospects of a woman. At the same time, it is somehow forgotten that in most cases (about 70%) the initiators of divorce are themselves. unhappy wives.
Moreover, polls in developed Western countries show that about 75% of single women are against starting a new relationship. But there men are more watching themselves, and more involved in household chores. This attitude of women only proves that most of the horrors of loneliness are no more than fiction.
The first thing that scares me is poverty. Like, if it's family. leftSo the money will be tight. But if a woman made her contribution to the family budget, then after the departure of her husband, free funds sometimes become even more.
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“There was no choice, so I decided to build a career. Then she moved to Sochi for work, took her son with her. I visited several other countries. If I were married, it wouldn’t have happened. – Anna
“The money has become scarce, which is surprising. There was less dirt and dust, things stopped disappearing. Glad my freeloader friends are missing. She went to a psychologist, understood herself, changed her attitude to money and began to earn more. I bought a sweatshirt for all days of the week, and generally no longer ashamed of his love of shopping. I finally got a cat (my husband was allergic). Of the minuses, nothing comes to mind, sorry. – Katya
“After the divorce, I began to discover that there was only more money. We had to rely only on ourselves, grow professionally, so incomes grew. I really felt it when choosing a coat: I could not choose between a strict gray and black with a hood. In the end, I realized that I can afford to buy both.
DepositPhotos Single moms. It is often feared that there will be no free time after the divorce. Like, if you don't have time in a full family, imagine what it's like to do everything without a husband. But although men are involved in family affairs, often on their shoulders lies only minor repairs. At the same time, the wife is obliged to remind 10 times, check 5 times, and then also ask to redo it.
After the divorce, when there is no one to iron and wash shirts, cook 5-liter pots of borschy and report on any pastime, it turns out that there is more free time and energy.
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Divorce is one of the best decisions I have ever made. Now I have a weekend because my ex-husband is taking my daughter away for the day. If this gentleman also paid alimony regularly, it would be absolutely wonderful.
“Now, after work, I can easily walk or go shopping. Fortunately, no one will bear the brain that wandered inexplicably where, and he is waiting for dinner, tired and hungry.
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Often women like to be frightened by the prospect of no personal life after divorce. Maul, womanhood Not sugar - who do you want, a divorcee with a child? But her ex-wife will probably say that such a prominent man will be very popular. Even if he has only two virtues: he doesn't drink or go to jail.
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“I had one trial marriage at 19, without children or property division. But now I hear from friends that I am a used and divorced woman who no one needs. Especially tried to prove this ex-husband and his sympathizers.
“It is unpleasant to hear questions from my family whether I have gone mad, as if the desire to divorce is some whim. Even though my husband was the first to divorce, both his family and mine are responsible for me. When are they going to take care of their lives?
“The ex-husband was amazed at how he could take advantage of a woman with a child. The salt is that I married with a child, and he married a woman with a teenage daughter.
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Statistics show that both men and women in equal numbers conclude after divorce. marriage. Therefore, statements on dating sites like “baba with trailers, pass by” only demonstrate the attitude of a particular man who himself came up with why no one will write to him. In fact, neither divorce nor children do not prevent new dates, nor the opportunity to create a strong and happy family.
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Of course, divorce cannot be called. most beautiful moment in lifeIt will automatically make a woman rich, desirable and happy. But sometimes it is only through divorce that you can solve problems that you can no longer tolerate. And it depends on the woman herself whether she breaks after this step or becomes better.
Recently, we have already told what qualities women repel men in marriage and accelerate the breakdown of the family. Be sure to take a look, perhaps in some points you will recognize yourself and find the cause of the problems. And also look at what colors marriage begins to play in old age. Everything is not as prosaic as it may seem at first glance.
Despite the fact that divorce is a matter of two, in society it is believed that it is the woman who suffers the most after the collapse of the family. But is that true? And today we will try to get to the truth to understand whether it is so difficult for a woman after a divorce. We also know what single people say. divorcee, referring to his experience.
DepositPhotos
No matter how far humanity has progressed in the issue of gender equality, however, for a woman, the main criterion for success is the family. A dizzying career, the presence of interesting hobbies or a rich social life - all this, in the opinion of others, is not as important as marriage.
And if one perceives the task of “catching” the man in charge, then it is not surprising that the collapse of the family is considered a painful blow to the future prospects of a woman. At the same time, it is somehow forgotten that in most cases (about 70%) the initiators of divorce are themselves. unhappy wives.
Moreover, polls in developed Western countries show that about 75% of single women are against starting a new relationship. But there men are more watching themselves, and more involved in household chores. This attitude of women only proves that most of the horrors of loneliness are no more than fiction.
The first thing that scares me is poverty. Like, if it's family. leftSo the money will be tight. But if a woman made her contribution to the family budget, then after the departure of her husband, free funds sometimes become even more.
DepositPhotos
“There was no choice, so I decided to build a career. Then she moved to Sochi for work, took her son with her. I visited several other countries. If I were married, it wouldn’t have happened. – Anna
“The money has become scarce, which is surprising. There was less dirt and dust, things stopped disappearing. Glad my freeloader friends are missing. She went to a psychologist, understood herself, changed her attitude to money and began to earn more. I bought a sweatshirt for all days of the week, and generally no longer ashamed of his love of shopping. I finally got a cat (my husband was allergic). Of the minuses, nothing comes to mind, sorry. – Katya
“After the divorce, I began to discover that there was only more money. We had to rely only on ourselves, grow professionally, so incomes grew. I really felt it when choosing a coat: I could not choose between a strict gray and black with a hood. In the end, I realized that I can afford to buy both.
DepositPhotos Single moms. It is often feared that there will be no free time after the divorce. Like, if you don't have time in a full family, imagine what it's like to do everything without a husband. But although men are involved in family affairs, often on their shoulders lies only minor repairs. At the same time, the wife is obliged to remind 10 times, check 5 times, and then also ask to redo it.
After the divorce, when there is no one to iron and wash shirts, cook 5-liter pots of borschy and report on any pastime, it turns out that there is more free time and energy.
DepositPhotos
Divorce is one of the best decisions I have ever made. Now I have a weekend because my ex-husband is taking my daughter away for the day. If this gentleman also paid alimony regularly, it would be absolutely wonderful.
“Now, after work, I can easily walk or go shopping. Fortunately, no one will bear the brain that wandered inexplicably where, and he is waiting for dinner, tired and hungry.
DepositPhotos
Often women like to be frightened by the prospect of no personal life after divorce. Maul, womanhood Not sugar - who do you want, a divorcee with a child? But her ex-wife will probably say that such a prominent man will be very popular. Even if he has only two virtues: he doesn't drink or go to jail.
DepositPhotos
“I had one trial marriage at 19, without children or property division. But now I hear from friends that I am a used and divorced woman who no one needs. Especially tried to prove this ex-husband and his sympathizers.
“It is unpleasant to hear questions from my family whether I have gone mad, as if the desire to divorce is some whim. Even though my husband was the first to divorce, both his family and mine are responsible for me. When are they going to take care of their lives?
“The ex-husband was amazed at how he could take advantage of a woman with a child. The salt is that I married with a child, and he married a woman with a teenage daughter.
DepositPhotos
Statistics show that both men and women in equal numbers conclude after divorce. marriage. Therefore, statements on dating sites like “baba with trailers, pass by” only demonstrate the attitude of a particular man who himself came up with why no one will write to him. In fact, neither divorce nor children do not prevent new dates, nor the opportunity to create a strong and happy family.
DepositPhotos
Of course, divorce cannot be called. most beautiful moment in lifeIt will automatically make a woman rich, desirable and happy. But sometimes it is only through divorce that you can solve problems that you can no longer tolerate. And it depends on the woman herself whether she breaks after this step or becomes better.
Recently, we have already told what qualities women repel men in marriage and accelerate the breakdown of the family. Be sure to take a look, perhaps in some points you will recognize yourself and find the cause of the problems. And also look at what colors marriage begins to play in old age. Everything is not as prosaic as it may seem at first glance.
