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Why women are afraid of divorce?
Why women are afraid of divorce?
Really, why? After all, since Soviet times, has become a familiar pattern: the husband comes crawling home "on four bones", coming from the apartment now, dusherazdirayusche the screams of the unfortunate woman, in the morning she leaves the room with bruises, barely concealed by make-up... but continues to live with rowdy. A mockery of the wife may be more sophisticated (e.g., infidelity) – but the woman does not want to exercise your right to divorce provided by the law. Why?
Let's start with the fact that the divorce procedure is hard and humiliating. The women with their fine mental organization can transfer it much harder than men. Besides, after a divorce for a woman (even if she filed for divorce, driven to despair by the behavior of her husband) lies an indelible stain of shame: she was a bad wife, she saved the family.
The second stumbling block is where to go after divorce. Not all women have enough money to rent an apartment, so usually there are two options: either to continue to live in the same apartment, now converted into utility – i.e. to continue to endure the company of this man – thus a divorce will not change anything (and then still have to face in the kitchen with his new wife). Or – to return to the family home – where once was completely taken out: the nagging, the nagging, the lectures, the "total control" – and now the recriminations will be more, "I told you, it is not necessary for him to get married!" or "who needs you! There was one that cheated on you and he left!" In short, the only where can be sent a divorced woman, without damage to mental health is from the bridge into the river upside down (and die before your time no one wants).
Further – the children... they may not think male but not female: they need a father – at least like this... But even if the husband is that it is better for children to be away from him – still remains the problem of material content (there is a category of men after divorce will make everything not to participate in the maintenance of children – the blessing if you wish, "loopholes" can be found), and domestic problems will not go away (when the woman stays with the children one – even in the grocery store to go sometimes becomes a problem). However, if the husband still wants children left with him, and get the job done is even worse: while children still have some meaning in life, taken away children will not be the last reasons to continue to live after the destruction of the family...
Now let's see what are the chances of a divorced woman to meet another man and start a new life. Yes, almost zero! First, it is not the first youth (after all, she lived a number of years in previous marriage) and men bring someone younger. Secondly, she has children. Even if a man is willing to accept other people's children (and such men are still rare) – children can take it.
Thus, the life of a woman after divorce is bleak with simply being together – and that leads many to choose the lesser of two evils.
And now we'll scratch that -- all that has been said – there is a deeper reason to avoid divorce. Imagine your arm or leg is hopelessly corrupted or affected with gangrene – will you go willingly to the amputation? No, you the last will be afraid of her, to the last will hope that something can be done to save the limb – because that's the part of your body, part of your being, and lose part of yourself is terrible. But people in marriage become one, merge into "one flesh", and divorce is not just a clipping of another is cutting off parts of ourselves, "cutting alive". And because divorce is terrible – but somehow women understand this better than men.
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Really, why? After all, since Soviet times, has become a familiar pattern: the husband comes crawling home "on four bones", coming from the apartment now, dusherazdirayusche the screams of the unfortunate woman, in the morning she leaves the room with bruises, barely concealed by make-up... but continues to live with rowdy. A mockery of the wife may be more sophisticated (e.g., infidelity) – but the woman does not want to exercise your right to divorce provided by the law. Why?
Let's start with the fact that the divorce procedure is hard and humiliating. The women with their fine mental organization can transfer it much harder than men. Besides, after a divorce for a woman (even if she filed for divorce, driven to despair by the behavior of her husband) lies an indelible stain of shame: she was a bad wife, she saved the family.
The second stumbling block is where to go after divorce. Not all women have enough money to rent an apartment, so usually there are two options: either to continue to live in the same apartment, now converted into utility – i.e. to continue to endure the company of this man – thus a divorce will not change anything (and then still have to face in the kitchen with his new wife). Or – to return to the family home – where once was completely taken out: the nagging, the nagging, the lectures, the "total control" – and now the recriminations will be more, "I told you, it is not necessary for him to get married!" or "who needs you! There was one that cheated on you and he left!" In short, the only where can be sent a divorced woman, without damage to mental health is from the bridge into the river upside down (and die before your time no one wants).
Further – the children... they may not think male but not female: they need a father – at least like this... But even if the husband is that it is better for children to be away from him – still remains the problem of material content (there is a category of men after divorce will make everything not to participate in the maintenance of children – the blessing if you wish, "loopholes" can be found), and domestic problems will not go away (when the woman stays with the children one – even in the grocery store to go sometimes becomes a problem). However, if the husband still wants children left with him, and get the job done is even worse: while children still have some meaning in life, taken away children will not be the last reasons to continue to live after the destruction of the family...
Now let's see what are the chances of a divorced woman to meet another man and start a new life. Yes, almost zero! First, it is not the first youth (after all, she lived a number of years in previous marriage) and men bring someone younger. Secondly, she has children. Even if a man is willing to accept other people's children (and such men are still rare) – children can take it.
Thus, the life of a woman after divorce is bleak with simply being together – and that leads many to choose the lesser of two evils.
And now we'll scratch that -- all that has been said – there is a deeper reason to avoid divorce. Imagine your arm or leg is hopelessly corrupted or affected with gangrene – will you go willingly to the amputation? No, you the last will be afraid of her, to the last will hope that something can be done to save the limb – because that's the part of your body, part of your being, and lose part of yourself is terrible. But people in marriage become one, merge into "one flesh", and divorce is not just a clipping of another is cutting off parts of ourselves, "cutting alive". And because divorce is terrible – but somehow women understand this better than men.
Source: /users/104
