Should I let my husband go on vacation alone?

“This year I took a vacation without my husband. We usually agree on dates before taking a vacation to relax somewhere. But this year it was different.
- Vika says. It is assumed that the husband and wife by default take a vacation together and in the company of each other enjoy free time and travel.

The reality is a little different. Many couples have to earn a living equally. Some people see each other at home and at work, which makes a vacation together not so pleasant. There are other reasons why you can’t take a vacation at the same time.



I always adjusted my vacation to my husband’s vacation to go somewhere together. Since at work I need to tell exactly whether I take a vacation partially or fully, I need to agree in advance with my husband and decide how many days I take a vacation. When I asked if we were going somewhere this time, my husband said no.



He was supposed to help his mother make repairs in the apartment, so he didn’t save money for vacation. So we decided we weren't going anywhere. I took my leave at the end of August and my husband's leave is due in early October. I spent my holidays at home, cooking and cleaning, sometimes going out for a walk in the evening with friends.



At that time my husband went to my mother’s house and I went with him a couple of times to help. That was the end of my vacation and I spent it on the couch. And now Oleg tells me that he is going to go to the sea without me! They say that he was tired for two years without a vacation and saved up a small amount for the trip.



I don’t understand that because we always talked about it. I tried to fit in and wanted to go somewhere too. As a result, when I asked about the vacation, there was no money, and now they appeared. Oleg says I rested and remembers two trips to the local beach. But that's different.



Now he's going to go abroad for two weeks, and I'm going to work. Is that fair? I feel cheated. I don't understand how the situation could have changed so dramatically that he suddenly confronted me with a fact. I'm very sorry.""



Perhaps Vicki's husband did not want to rest with her and chose not the best way to report it. When people are together all the time, both on vacation and at home, they do not feel free. It’s as if they have to be attached to another person and their whims. Sometimes people need to be alone with themselves and their thoughts. To really reboot, you need to be alone with your thoughts without distractions.



Maybe it's time for Vika and Oleg to see a family psychologist. The specialist will tell you how to show your feelings and emotions, and explain the importance of sincere conversations. If people do not feel comfortable alone with each other and can not open up to a partner, this problem should be quickly solved. And what do you think about it, do you share the indignation of your spouse?